This is a short and simple statement - yet it encompasses so much truth concerning SA. erfect:Social anxiety is a distortion of reality brought on but certain events in your life (parental behavior making you feel scared of the world, bullying, a traumatic event, etc). Recognizing the distortion is a good path to seeing things in a more rational fashion.
I don't understand Graeme, why would this cause you social anxiety? Do you feel like all girls are going to judge you as a useless effin' b@$%@rd? So that makes you shy or anxious in social situations?
Social anxiety is a distortion of reality brought on but certain events in your life (parental behavior making you feel scared of the world, bullying, a traumatic event, etc).
So thanks to your mom, you have a belief that you can't trust people. I can see how such a belief could make one shy and maybe even fearful around people.
But wouldn't a distortion of reality be a belief too?
I'm not 100% sure what is causing my social anxiety, I guess that's why I'm asking about this topic.
Perhaps 'belief' is not the right word, but it's definitely caused by a skewed perception of the world, and the reactions you have towards these perceptions. If someone with and someone without anxiety go to a party, and person for person, and word for word, have an identical night (activity wise,) they could and probably would reach very different conclusions about how that night went, and how the people they spoke to perceived them.
If someone with and someone without anxiety go to a party, and person for person, and word for word, have an identical night (activity wise,) they could and probably would reach very different conclusions about how that night went, and how the people they spoke to perceived them.
It's true. Your perceptions about life, yourself, other people, your job, etc, all depend mostly on the way you react to things.
Yes, it can be beliefs that you're not good-looking enough or that you're boring, etc.Do you think it is a belief that is the cause of one's social anxiety? If so, what belief or beliefs do you think cause it?