Is Social Anxiety Caused by a Belief?

[kuurt]

Actually I have had social anxiety my whole life. And my brother is this way too. And my mother, and her mother and uncle. It does kind of run in the family on that side. We're all backwards. But I don't know if it's genetics. I see this new science of epigenetics is saying that our genes are not set in stone. From the things I've read it sounds like genes can be turned on or off like a switch and now they're saying you can even rewrite your genes. I've even heard you can rewrite your dna with your beliefs. And it wouldn't surprise me if this were true. Why would we have been created in a way that we could be stuck with genetic problems with no way to fix them? I don't believe that personally.

Has anybody heard of The Emotion Code and The Body Code? Apparently we have trapped emotions that can go back several generations which can be released with the Emotion Code. It could be that our social anxiety, is caused by a trapped emotion or emotions. You can either learn how to find and release these trapped emotions yourself using the Emotion Code, or pay one of their practitioners to do it for you. There are several videos on Youtube about The Emotion Code and The Body Code. Here's one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A8emHbjYUmk&t=4101s

There's also Theta Healing - I wonder if that could help a person get over social anxiety. If I ever get an income going I think I'll at least get a Emotion Code practitioner to work on me. If that don't help, I might try Theta Healing.

 

[lily]

acupuncture and tcm herbs can unlock sth too that's why i'm trying it. tcm herbs aren't meant to be taken forever. it uses energy force to turn away from the illness back to health.

 

[Psychedelicious]

don't have faith

While I'm sure that personal beliefs certainly are a contributing factor, I think anxiety is much more complex than that. There are a number of things which will contribute to social anxiety, and I think that formula will also be different for each individual person.

 

[BlueDays]

Re: don't have faith

While I'm sure that personal beliefs certainly are a contributing factor, I think anxiety is much more complex than that. There are a number of things which will contribute to social anxiety, and I think that formula will also be different for each individual person.

Hello Psych! :greeting:

 

[spider04]

I think most of us here have a shy or anxious personality since we were kids, I'm sure there was a time when you were a kid and you weren't like that, and then it all changed at one point. Our experiences in life while growing up slowly creates a belief (for example that we are not good at anything) in our minds that makes us who we are today, it's hard to get rid of it. It's like trying to convince a religious person that there is no god, but that person grew up with that belief and you can't just rewire someones mind like that.

 

[Bo592]

Are belief is that there is something that need to be corrected. So we go on a wild goose chase making things worser then they really are. Are desire to fix things keep us focus on are worries. Are troubles might go when we find new thoughts to hold on to and know things for what they really are instead of are misconception.

 

[Miserum]

Good thread and good responses.

I'll just say this:

Anecdotally, I have my ups and downs, as we all do. When I have my ups, and I'm interacting with people, the interactions are vastly different from when I'm down. And when I am genuinely feeling up, the effect is so much more prominent than when I am simply faking being up; it seems that people can see through that fake confidence, but when I am actually confident, they embrace it. I even exude a respectful demeanor while walking down the street when I am truly feeling up. People will smile at me, I can maintain eye contact, even nod in acknowledgement at times.

It's something about the micro-expressions and the way you carry yourself when you actually feel confident and hopeful about life, or that people cannot mess with you (and these feelings all stem from beliefs, or at least temporary beliefs based on how you are feeling on that particular day) that I think largely contribute to good social outcomes.

I tend to experiment in this way, to carry myself in different manners to see how people react. I think, possibly, there is more than one way to attain positive social goals through a varying amount of demeanors. And if you believe yourself to be a certain way, you will bring out the associated demeanor in your actions and the way you carry yourself. From my personal experience, if I am truly feeling confident--and this can show up in a number of ways: perhaps I'll be truly joyful, silly, social, friendly, even serious (which, perhaps, has its uses socially. I think people are more apt to please you if you look like you can't or don't want to be ****ed with)--I almost always have good social outcomes.

So if you feel socially anxious, timid, scared, etc., and you believe yourself to be those things, you will manifest those outwardly. If you feel social, intimidating, joyful etc., and you believe yourself to be those things, you will manifest those outwardly instead. And the way to change these demeanors is to change your beliefs. How to do that is foggy, but I think maybe a good start is to literally do the things that will bring about those good feelings and change in attitude, and thus belief, over time.

Ex. I feel I am physically weak>I don't want to feel weak>I start lifting weights>I become strong over time>I no longer believe I am weak>It shows in interactions with others.