Is anyone else starting university this year?

[Flyingheart]

I am, off to Southampton (is anyone near or goes there?) soon and I'm quite literally dreading it, mostly because of having to move out and meet so many new people, like during freshers parties and stuff :S. I know it's meant to be one of the most exciting times of your life, it's just kind of sad that I can't enjoy it as much with SA and all. I just find it difficult when I'm constantly worrying about useless things like how I'll appear to people.

Is anyone else who's going to uni dreading it as much as me, or at uni at the moment, how do you cope with it?
Having to constantly socialize just sounds tiring to me :S

 

[Arthur_Dent]

Freshers parties?

Does not compute

From my experience, university has little to do with hollywood cliches and is not like animal house. But that may have something to do with the fact that engineering faculties are the most nerdy ones. Nevertheless, my fellow clasmates have active social lifes.

Most people will be friendly in those initial weeks, so make sure to take the opportunities that other people may give you to know them. I was lucky and I'll say that my friends were the ones who "make me" and I didn't had to make friends, but despite having those friends, I never see them ouside the university and I have no social life whatsoever. However, I still live with my parents and I didn't had to move out, and I feel that actually that fact keep me from being more social.

Try not to think about how you'll appear to people, and remember that ultimately, you're there for your career, so focus in your studies and at the end of evey year you'll have something less to worry about.

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

I am starting this year for the first time at 34 and am absolutely bricking it.
I worry more about my ability to cock it up and fail before I begin. 2 month before my start date I read through last years course which was a big mistake. I was trying to pre-empt the course and that just made my anxiety worse.
The constant socializing is not an issue, I just don't do it.
I'd rather speak to my peers in forums as it is more like talking to a computer than an actual person.

 

[chibiXphantom]

yeah, though it wasnt my choice. my parents decided to send my to college a week before it started. so not only do i have the typical nerves about starting a new phase of life, but i have the pressure of learning EVERYTHING within a week and figuring out scheduling, financial aid, fees, supplies..etc.
not to mention i havent had a chance to talk to my boss at work, so i have to miss mandatory meetings this weekend and orientation stuff cause of work
so... my brain is about to explode >_< fml

 

[bigcat1967]

Freshers parties?

Does not compute

Yeah - what are Fresher parties? We never had those when I was in college.

 

[FriendlessGirl]

Best of Luck everyone!

 

[Flyingheart]

Thanks for the posts everyone and the luck Friendless girl Glad I'm not the only one in this.

Freshers parties is something we have in UK now, I'm not sure if this applies to US or anywhere else (plz correct me if I'm wrong!) it's a week sometimes 2 weeks in my case of parties, nighttime raves and social fairs etc. that are dedicated solely to new students. which you can imagine = worst nightmare come true for SA sufferers like me I mean part of me wants to stay locked in my room and hide, but the other wants to go so I dont seem antisocial or miss out on memories which by all means should be one of the most cherished in a student's life.

I'm also moving out with a couple of people I sort of know and 2 I don't, so I'm going to have to get to know them too. I'm just going to have to grit my teeth and prepare to refuse each time they ask me to come out clubbing with them.

I guess concentrating on studies is really all I've got at the moment though I'll strive to be more open and confident in myself (ha!)

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

'Freshers' = Frosh week

We have it in Canada.

 

[Lonelykitsune]

Don't think we have freshers here in ireland, sounds very american. I might be going next year (if I can get in that is) and I'm panicing like ****, as I have no idea what I want to do for a career and the whole socialising thing too.