im tired of parties

[LazyHermitCrab]

Summer is driving me crazy right now. I actually look forward to the week when I have to work instead of the weekend. On the weekend I keep getting invited to necessary parties. For instance my cousin just graduated college and now needs? a graduation party. It's from 2 until 8 of non stop chit chatting??? When I graduate my parents want me to have a party too. NO WAY!!! If they want to have a party then I won't be there. I'm so tired of these summer parties. It's sunny and hot as can be on top of that. I don't know how I will get through. I've been trying to read all the advice that there is and be a good sport but after an hr it's so draining and advice no longer matters

 

[S_Spartan]

One thing that I have done at parties is to sneak away by myself and take a break for a while. Like walk around the block if the party is in town or go off by yourself in a room for a short while to get some peace and quiet.

 

[PugofCrydee]

Umm.. using alcohol and drugs isn't a great idea. DON'T change who you are to fit in with the masses.
It's going to be uncomfortable finding excuses to not attend invitations. Maybe one thing you can do is have an 'escape plan'. Tell others that you'll be coming, but only for an hour or two because you have a prior engagement. Remember to have something pre-planned in your mind so when they ask what you'll be doing when you leave, you'll be able to tell them.
Then once you're out of the party, go to the cinema or something.
You'll have attended the party for a short time, but getting away from it fairly soon.
I realize you'd not rather go at all, but at least this way you're going to keep most people happy.
The other option is to just be upfront and tell people, thanks for the invitation but you're not into partying. This will get you out of the parties, but may make people including yourself uncomfortable.

 

[Kiwong]

My last party was in 1998.

 

[vj288]

I've been to very few parties, but a few things that may help. First, unless there is a schedule of events, showing up a little late and having to leave a little early is ok I think. Makes the party a little shorter, and you don't have to be getting there while everyone else is getting there, people will already be occupied when you do. What S_Spartan said about find some time to yourself and taking a breather is also great advice. Even just sitting in the corner for a while and going to your happy place is ok. Offering to help the hosts with food and set up is also a good way to get away. That way you're doing something, and socializing isn't super necessary.

Just try to have fun if you can, easier said then done I know, but still possible :thumbup:

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Thanks for helping and sharing your stories everyone. I will take time to retreat like go to the bathroom and think. It's hard to leave early because the one party is at my cousins house and I have to sleep over because she lives far so I'm last to leave lol... the other party is for my boyfriends friends and his dad like times to see how long I stay and says I always rush but I don't care what he thinks just don't want to let my bf down lol...

 

[Hellhound]

Retreating for a moment is a good idea. Take short breaks, don't stay in the middle of the crowd constantly.

 

[R3K]

I hate wedding/graduation related "parties." they're so procedural and unnecessary outside of the core clique of ppl (the bridesmaids immediate family etc.)

I suggest you be brutally honest with the ppl inviting you, tell them you're all "partied-out" and you have some free-time projects lined up for yourself... hobby related stuff like extreme cliff waterfall kayaking or a concert you've been waiting a long time for.

 

[S_Spartan]

I hate wedding/graduation related "parties." they're so procedural and unnecessary outside of the core clique of ppl (the bridesmaids immediate family etc.)

I hate them also because it's yet another "look at me! You must honor me because I did/am doing something" ego stroke.

The core group of people need the rest of the crowd so they can be looked at and adored or even envied. Yuck!

 

[awkwardamanda]

I'm tired of parties too. I've had so many over the past few months. My brother is getting married next month so there's been showers and other wedding-related crap. I have a friend that lives in another city who just got married, so she came in one weekend for a shower and then I went out there for the wedding. There were a few birthdays and a baby shower in there somewhere. I'm supposed to go to a lunch for the bachelorette party in a couple of weeks and I think my aunt is planning some family thing that I don't want to go to on the same day. It's exhausting. I feel like I'm constantly going to parties, getting ready for parties, or shopping for parties. I am sick of it.