I'm stuck

[Rxqueen]

I am a 24 year old college graduate that still lives at home with my parents. I have a ****ty part time job where I don't get more than 10 hrs a week which can barely pay for the gas to get there. I can't seem to find a good full time job because no one seems to be hiring. I've been pretty depressed for about 5 months now and have gained over 30 pounds in that time. I just feel like I'm stuck. I don't know what to do with my life, I have no friends, I have no aspirations and dreams and I don't know what to do.

Everyday my parents tell me how much potential I had and how they are disappointed in what I've become, but I don't know how to change that.

Does anyone have any ideas? Most days I lay in bed and the only thing I do is go to work. How am I supposed to figure out what to do with my life? What's the point of even trying to live if your basically the living dead?

 

[Feathers]

Hey hun ((Hugz))

Dating sites may help with this problem?

Well, Welcome to turbocapitalism at its finest?

There are many people in this or similar (or worse) situation (worldwide), please don't think you're the only one!!
If parents annoy you so much, is there a way to eg have basement or attic or at least a room to yourself? (Own mini kitchen etc?)

Can you have a schedule when you don't need to be around parents so much? (eg maybe night shifts, dunno? maybe with better pay too?) Or a live-in position at a hotel or as a nanny/au-pair/babysitter?

Is there a way to live in another town/city/country where you could get a better job?
(Maybe with friends or relatives, or roommates/flatmates?)

Any clubs or organisations you could join, to meet new people? Maybe volunteer? (You could maybe get a better job through the networking too?) WOOF?
Start a side business? (I don't know what you're interested in?)

You figure out what you like by trying different things!! (And probably sometimes failing too, and picking yrself up & learning from it!!)

 

[market.garden]

No one seems to be hiring anywhere anymore... probably much to do with the crappy economic situation the world over. Things will pick up though.

I'm in a similar situation - 26 and living with the parents, and have been out of work for nearly 6 months. Have you tried interning anywhere during the times you're not working? It's tough if its unpaid, but the experience can be great, and sometimes people will keep you on full time.

Or yeah, as Feathers suggested, perhaps move away somewhere. Get a fresh start and look at things differently. The most important thing is not to let yourself slip into a dangerous rut. I usually feel like there's nothing to get up for, so I set myself little goals - going for a run or a bike ride for exercise, looking for and applying for jobs, or learning something new that has something to do with my career path. That can be a good way of *beginning* to motivate yourself, just getting into the habit of "doing stuff" - that can all lead to a much more relaxed outlook. Easier said than done, I know, but it's a good place to start.

 

[Rxqueen]

Dating sites have helped to get me out of the house once in a while, but it hardly ever goes for more than a couple dates.

My parents house doesn't have a finished basement or attic so that's out of the question. If I could find a job with night shifts that was hiring I would definitely go for that, but there aren't any. I've never hear of a live in position at a hotel. Where would you go to find something like that? And idk about the nanny thing I've never liked children nor have they ever liked me...

It's funny that you ask if there is another place I could get a better job because I lived in New York for six months and could never find a job there. Also I don't have friends...

The clubs or organizations thing is a really good idea, I think I might consider that. What is WOOF?

Anyways I'm sure it seems like I'm making excuses for everything but in order to find a club or organization to join or a place to volunteer I have to have gas money and in order to have gas money I need to have a better job.

I will try something. Because I guess trying something is better than just accepting failure and keeping things the way they are. I'm just in a hopeless state atm...I don't think I'm capable of doing anything and I hate almost every aspect of myself. But I guess that's another topic completely....

 

[Silatuyok]

Volunteering is a great way to build contacts and network yourself into a job. See if there is something within walking/biking/bus distance from your home.

 

[Rxqueen]

I'll try the volunteering thing and see where it goes...do you have any suggestions on what kind of volunteering to do?

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Volunteer at a farm?

 

[Silatuyok]

You can try VolunteerMatch - Where Volunteering Begins to browse through different types of volunteer opportunities. There are tons of fun and interesting ones out there. I have volunteered mainly with animal welfare organizations, which is definitely a good starting point if you like animals. Do you have any specific interests?