I'm fine with it..is anyone else?

Aussie_Lad

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nafadda: You have pretty much summed up my ideal life. I dream about living with nature away from big cities. The idea of a little shack in a wooded mountainous area thrills me to bits. I have not yet had the opportunity to pursue this lifestyle, but I want to so bad, it almost feels like a calling.

I would love to hear more about how you make the transition, PM me if you don't want to make it public.
 

nafadda

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Yes, I would like to know your personal opinion on how one can make the most out of social phobia. Even if you do manage to make the most of it, your life would probably be better without it.

Social anxiety can be compared to a physical injury. A man who is paralyzed from below the neck can make the most out of this by watching cartoons, but his life would still be much better if he could move again.

i'm going to have to this in small doses or else i prob will be hated for certain things i say if i do it all at once,,and that is not what i am trying for..actually it's just trying to help and have people become more aware of things that i may actually already lived through and survived....and good with it now,

so lets touch on this quote first because this is the first that came to mind..sure a paralyzed person could (and some may) ,just sit and watch cartoons and 'wish' they could walk..some may even do just that..for a while ..and then there are the survivors that say they may be paralyzed,BUT they are still alive and will make the most of whatever hand they were dealt in life..i have known ones that did it.some became artist,some took up sports even in wheelchairs..though they could have just sat and watched cartoons if they had wanted to.i guess they chose.only they had the power to do that.

we may not like to understand the fact that we are not entitled to a picture perfect life ,as in the beautiful spouse,perfect high paying job,all the money we can spend,the sports car we so think we deserve,and being the most popular person in the room,,etc etc...BUT once people learn to accept the FACT that they are NOT entitled to any of that and learn to live with it and work on what will improve them as a human being,they may have another take on it(if they actually want to see it)

problem is more often then not,we as humans see what we want to see and hear what we want to hear..there in is part of the problem..

i have seen some that only want to complain about problems and want someone else to fix it for them..ok??? ask yourself..how fun can it be to be around people that only complain???not too fun really...i mean we all complain about something,thats fine..BUT if it becomes a constant 'whoa is me'..no one wants to hear that..it gets old...

at what point do we see ,we get what we put out there and if your only going to put negativity out there..well????? i think i don't have to finish that sentence.

thats why in another post i mentioned about finding something that your passionate about,,no i don't mean wanting the "perfect' life or wife or husband or whatever..i mean a passion that makes you interesting to other people when you speak about it,,something that comes from deep inside you.

and whatever you do..DO NOT look as though you are trying to fit in or be cool or fish for compliments or sympathy,,,..

ok ok..enough for now...or else i'll be banished from the village before i move in..;)

oh BTW..how does one add a signature quote to their profile as i see some of you have.:confused:
 

Minty

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I'm fine with it too. I would have the same lifestyle even if I didn't have SA because I'm very introverted. Money issues are more of a concern for me right now than anything else.
 

Klaus

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oh, she really ignored my question...

off course I would like to say goodbye to the world and live a lonely life at a beautiful place, just like those movies the island and the village. But how can I get rid of work? Where will I find money to buy food and to pay the electricity bills?

Without answering this fundamental point, the kind of life that was portrayed by you is only a very distant utopia for me.
 

vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
oh, she really ignored my question...

off course I would like to say goodbye to the world and live a lonely life at a beautiful place, just like those movies the island and the village. But how can I get rid of work? Where will I find money to buy food and to pay the electricity bills?

Without answering this fundamental point, the kind of life that was portrayed by you is only a very distant utopia for me.

There's always a life of crime...or you could win the lottery. Other then that I got nothing.
 

nafadda

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oh, she really ignored my question...

off course I would like to say goodbye to the world and live a lonely life at a beautiful place, just like those movies the island and the village. But how can I get rid of work? Where will I find money to buy food and to pay the electricity bills?

Without answering this fundamental point, the kind of life that was portrayed by you is only a very distant utopia for me.

..nope..did NOT ignore you,just didn't answer you first:)
 

nafadda

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ok klaus..first off my life is FAR from lonely..it is a very full life..because that is what I choose to make it...yes,i do think it is in a beautiful place ,because i happen to see beauty in simple things...ex..my butterfly gardens when they bloom,the red tail hawk that visits weekly.the quite.

as i told someone else here..see some years back while a LOT of people i knew were wanting to party and drink and what looked like to me a waste of time,,i was wanting to find a place,as in property..i knew one day i would need it as an escape from the world that IMO looked as though it was going mad,,so i made that conscience decision to set a goal..not to expect or feel i was 'owed it',but to make it happen and do what i had to do in the meantime to reach it...to put my energy into achieving my goal then to just complain about it.

i knew it would not happen overnight and i accepted that.it was NOT done by crime or lottery win,,hehehehe,but that would have been quite fun i imagine:cool:

i do not know how old you are,so perhaps you haven't found your passion in life yet as to what you want,,i do not know you,so i would not know that.

now,i dabble in some old books and old art and make a bit here and there..i also know i do NOT have to have EVERY thing that the media tells me is the latest this and that...i refuse to buy into that crap..my goals were bigger then the latest gadgets i always thought.

owning a small piece of proprty was more important then getting a newer smaller cell phone..for that matter i can't even get cell reception where i live..and i would have no desire to hear a phone ringing when driving,,i never understood that when i did have one,,i HATED it.i didn't want many things that looked like greed instead of need,i mean it may have worked for some,and some that lived beyond their means i see tiss not the case now..oh well..

so if all this seems too simple ..perhaps it is because it is.less is sometimes more;)
 

OceanMist

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off course I would like to say goodbye to the world and live a lonely life at a beautiful place, just like those movies the island and the village. But how can I get rid of work? Where will I find money to buy food and to pay the electricity bills?

I'm in the same boat unless i want to live at my parents' house for the rest of my life, which I don't.

That'd be nice to never have to work but that would mean no money, which would mean no vehicle, which would mean no restaurant food, etc.....

I don't get how some people in these threads don't get lonely when they are away from society. I get lonely like all the time when I avoid people. Of course, I can get lonely around people too, but that is a different kind of lonely. Wow, I'm one sick puppy, I know this.
 
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