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It's settled, I am finally going to start living my life to its fullest. Screw social anxiety, it's just a label. Yeah, i get shy sometimes, and super awkward around certain types of people, or in certain situations, but i dropped the label of someone with Social Anxiety a while ago, and now it's time to start truly acting on that.
I just graduated college where i went from being a "cool kid," to a super depressed weirdo, then to a somewhat "normal" college kid. I have always been intrigued by the world, and i have been looking at a lot of travel sites. This one in particular just gave me a sudden boost of motivation: Travel Blog – Nomadic Matt's Travel Site
I want to travel very bad, but FIRST, i want to get out there, and start meeting strangers! That is my short term goal, and my drive to travel has given me the sudden ambition to get out there and finally do it. I am talking about talking to strangers, having small talk with store clerks, talking to any beautiful woman i please, or any woman for that matter. I feel my fears of talking to people in my daily life will only get better when i start talking to strangers. Think of it like this...if you're trying to improve your one mile run time, you should do lots of long distance running, in the 5 mile range.
If you want to improve your relationships with friends, expand your social circle, get a girlfriend, and ultimately be more self-confident, what do you need to do? You need to overcome your fears of rejection. You know, the fear of speaking your mind, of saying how you feel, and of just having the courage to be yourself at ALL times. I am going to do this by starting small.
For 30 days, i will talk to one stranger a day. Even if it is just saying hi. After that, i will try to get rejected by one stranger a day.
My goal: To get as comfortable as possible with getting rejected by strangers. I hope this makes me more comfortable and confident in my social life, even with my close friends and family, AND i hope i meet some cool, new, possibly even intimately connected people(meaning a girl to date) along the way.
I have always felt somewhat different from other people. Not because i get shy or awkward at times, but because i have all of these ideas in my head all the time. I have always wanted to help people so bad, but never knew how. I think the first person i need to help is myself. I have come such a long way from my depression and social anxiety in college which was about three years ago. BUT, this is the final step. It won't be easy, nor will it be quick. I must be persistent, and go at this whole heartedly.
Sometimes to get what you want out of life, you need to treat each day as a battle field. Each day is a fight to be yourself and be happy, it does NOT come easy. This isn't life or death, but i am treating it like it is. I REFUSE to be a cog. I WILL leave my mark on this planet. And it starts with something as small as approaching strangers. Haha, seems so simple when i put it that way.
There seems no better time to start this endeavor than New Years! There you have it, my starting point. I will keep you all updated, whether or not you share my somewhat crazy(it's not crazy, just a little not "normal") beliefs and ambitions.
By the way, this guy as well has been giving me a lot of ambition:
Social Skydiving: The Art of Talking to Strangers
I just graduated college where i went from being a "cool kid," to a super depressed weirdo, then to a somewhat "normal" college kid. I have always been intrigued by the world, and i have been looking at a lot of travel sites. This one in particular just gave me a sudden boost of motivation: Travel Blog – Nomadic Matt's Travel Site
I want to travel very bad, but FIRST, i want to get out there, and start meeting strangers! That is my short term goal, and my drive to travel has given me the sudden ambition to get out there and finally do it. I am talking about talking to strangers, having small talk with store clerks, talking to any beautiful woman i please, or any woman for that matter. I feel my fears of talking to people in my daily life will only get better when i start talking to strangers. Think of it like this...if you're trying to improve your one mile run time, you should do lots of long distance running, in the 5 mile range.
If you want to improve your relationships with friends, expand your social circle, get a girlfriend, and ultimately be more self-confident, what do you need to do? You need to overcome your fears of rejection. You know, the fear of speaking your mind, of saying how you feel, and of just having the courage to be yourself at ALL times. I am going to do this by starting small.
For 30 days, i will talk to one stranger a day. Even if it is just saying hi. After that, i will try to get rejected by one stranger a day.
My goal: To get as comfortable as possible with getting rejected by strangers. I hope this makes me more comfortable and confident in my social life, even with my close friends and family, AND i hope i meet some cool, new, possibly even intimately connected people(meaning a girl to date) along the way.
I have always felt somewhat different from other people. Not because i get shy or awkward at times, but because i have all of these ideas in my head all the time. I have always wanted to help people so bad, but never knew how. I think the first person i need to help is myself. I have come such a long way from my depression and social anxiety in college which was about three years ago. BUT, this is the final step. It won't be easy, nor will it be quick. I must be persistent, and go at this whole heartedly.
Sometimes to get what you want out of life, you need to treat each day as a battle field. Each day is a fight to be yourself and be happy, it does NOT come easy. This isn't life or death, but i am treating it like it is. I REFUSE to be a cog. I WILL leave my mark on this planet. And it starts with something as small as approaching strangers. Haha, seems so simple when i put it that way.
There seems no better time to start this endeavor than New Years! There you have it, my starting point. I will keep you all updated, whether or not you share my somewhat crazy(it's not crazy, just a little not "normal") beliefs and ambitions.
By the way, this guy as well has been giving me a lot of ambition:
Social Skydiving: The Art of Talking to Strangers