i'm 21 in 9 days and this is my list of things i am going to do differently

[doctor_who]

1. don't cry as much- I'm not going to cry as much, ive spent the last 20 years crying over stupid things and becoming too emotional so I am not going to cry, infact I will get a procedure to remove my tear ducts:bigsmile:

2. be yourself and embrace it- I am finally gonna be myself around people and if they don't like it then screw it, I am not going to surround myself with people who don't like me for who I am! onwards and upwards I say

3. talk to people- I am 21 and I am a nice woman so talk to people, they won't judge you and if they do then you cant change it so talk to people, get involved

4-SMILE MORE!

5- Go travelling, go see the world(or at least book myself a holiday)

6- get stuck into work-don't look for motivation from other people it comes from within- you are in your last year at university make it count!

7- move in with your boyfriend- I am super scared but super exicted at the same time

8- have a change of image do the things you always wanted to do but didn't want to for fear of what others thought- dye hair blonde, change of clothes, and from straight to curly hair!

(THE LIST GOES ON! but I am going to stick with these 8 points for now!)

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Awesome! Remember that list and follow through. :thumbup:

 

[MikeyC]

Making a list and putting it into action, especially in the throes of depression and anxiety, is very difficult! I do hope you can make these ones work.

 

[laure15]

That's great! This could be your new year's resolution.

becoming too emotional so I am not going to cry, infact I will get a procedure to remove my tear ducts

Wow, this is pretty serious. If you remove your tear ducts, you'll never be able to cry again. Is this what you really want? There are occasions where crying is appropriate, such as at funerals. Crying is a natural mechanism to release pent-up emotions and stress. Excessive crying is not good but so is never allowing yourself to mourn.

 

[MistMoon]

1. don't cry as much- I'm not going to cry as much, ive spent the last 20 years crying over stupid things and becoming too emotional so I am not going to cry, infact I will get a procedure to remove my tear ducts:bigsmile:

I actually don't think it's a bad thing if you cry a lot, sometimes crying if very therapeutic and helps to relieve pent up stress Instead of crying less, you should cry and then pick yourself up again by doing things you enjoy. That way you can let it out and then find happiness again.

2. be yourself and embrace it- I am finally gonna be myself around people and if they don't like it then screw it, I am not going to surround myself with people who don't like me for who I am! onwards and upwards I say

Very good self-advice, people that want to change you aren't worth your time and effort. You should be proud of the person you are, and not feel pressured to change for anybody.

 

[paintedblue]

I like the fact that a couple of your points have to do with letting go of what others think of you. I think that for me that is the root of my social anxiety. I care too much what others might think and thus imprison myself in this state of constant watch, constant self awareness, that eventually leads to withdrawal from social situations. Its absolutely irrational. I need to get around to making a list of my own.

 

[Englishman]

I like the fact that a couple of your points have to do with letting go of what others think of you. I think that for me that is the root of my social anxiety. I care too much what others might think and thus imprison myself in this state of constant watch, constant self awareness, that eventually leads to withdrawal from social situations. Its absolutely irrational. I need to get around to making a list of my own.

This! Spot on... easier said than done though.

 

[Ithior]

Hope you can get through with your objectives!
Just remember that sometimes you might not feel as motivated to follow through with your list. It happens to me when I decide to do something, but since it involves a social situation my social anxiety starts to creep in and I end up not doing what I wanted to. I hope you're stronger than me and can convince yourself to go through with it anyway. If it happens once or twice it's ok I think, just don't let it happen more than that.

Wow, this is pretty serious. If you remove your tear ducts, you'll never be able to cry again. Is this what you really want? There are occasions where crying is appropriate, such as at funerals. Crying is a natural mechanism to release pent-up emotions and stress. Excessive crying is not good but so is never allowing yourself to mourn.

I think she was joking (well at least I hope so).

 

[Dariushka]

1. don't cry as much- I'm not going to cry as much, ive spent the last 20 years crying over stupid things and becoming too emotional so I am not going to cry, infact I will get a procedure to remove my tear ducts:bigsmile:

2. be yourself and embrace it- I am finally gonna be myself around people and if they don't like it then screw it, I am not going to surround myself with people who don't like me for who I am! onwards and upwards I say

3. talk to people- I am 21 and I am a nice woman so talk to people, they won't judge you and if they do then you cant change it so talk to people, get involved

4-SMILE MORE!

5- Go travelling, go see the world(or at least book myself a holiday)

6- get stuck into work-don't look for motivation from other people it comes from within- you are in your last year at university make it count!

7- move in with your boyfriend- I am super scared but super exicted at the same time

8- have a change of image do the things you always wanted to do but didn't want to for fear of what others thought- dye hair blonde, change of clothes, and from straight to curly hair!

(THE LIST GOES ON! but I am going to stick with these 8 points for now!)

Fingers crossed! How's it going with the first four so far?

 

[Dariushka]

I like the fact that a couple of your points have to do with letting go of what others think of you. I think that for me that is the root of my social anxiety. I care too much what others might think and thus imprison myself in this state of constant watch, constant self awareness, that eventually leads to withdrawal from social situations. Its absolutely irrational. I need to get around to making a list of my own

But that's the point. That's a SOCIAL anxiety.. We act cause of imaginary comparisons? I cannot wait for your list. I'd start with travel. If I lose with anonymous crowd won't bother me as much and still then I can target another destination.

 

[doctor_who]

I made the list up today but I am starting a few of them. Yes I was joking about the removal of my tear ducts, i think i would never do that. but i will update on my success...i set myself till im 22 to do all this stuff, so by this time next year i will have completed my list!

 

[HHDisturbed]

Great post! Hopefully you will inspire several others to do the same. I wish you the best in accomplishing your goals. YOU CAN DO IT!