I wish i could change.

[Skatergirl]

hi...
i feel kind of cursed, like everything in my life is hard.
The social phobia makes everything impossible for me.
Is this really cure able? Can i recover? Can i live my life again?
My life is empty, i only computer, go to a clinic 5 days a week, and i am at home. I can't see my friends, because i'm too nervous.
I'm too nervous for everything.
I wish everything was easy... I want to feel comfortable in situations.
But everything is extremely hard for me.
If there was a drug to make me change, i would totally take that.
But i can't change.. I would love to change, but i still dont have result of changing.
I'm sorry for my bad english.
Also i am really quiet, i just dont know what to say to people, and that makes the whole being together thing oncomfortable, awkward silences, and that makes me sooo anxious.
I'm anxious every single day. And i'm sick of it.

 

[LadyWench]

I can definitely understand where you're coming from. Quality of life is so shitty when you suffer from any type of a mental disorder. I wish there was something I could say to help you. I just know how you feel.

Maybe your friends could come to your house and see you for a bit, and just try to take baby steps to get yourself out of the house more. They could go with you to the store or to see a movie, and be there for you, supporting you the entire time. Would that help at all?

Also, there are medications that can help with anxiety and depression. You said you wish there was a drug you could take that would just fix you. Gosh, I wish I had that too, haha.

The only medications that they can offer, are anti-depressants and others for anxiety and such. It's up to you whether you want to try them out or not. Some people get great effects from them, and others don't.

I'm anxious every single day, too. And really, it gets old and depressing.

 

[Graeme1988]

hi...
i feel kind of cursed, like everything in my life is hard.
The social phobia makes everything impossible for me.
Is this really cure able? Can i recover? Can i live my life again?
My life is empty, i only computer, go to a clinic 5 days a week, and i am at home. I can't see my friends, because i'm too nervous.
I'm too nervous for everything.
I wish everything was easy... I want to feel comfortable in situations.
But everything is extremely hard for me.
If there was a drug to make me change, i would totally take that.
But i can't change.. I would love to change, but i still dont have result of changing.
I'm sorry for my bad english.
Also i am really quiet, i just dont know what to say to people, and that makes the whole being together thing oncomfortable, awkward silences, and that makes me sooo anxious.
I'm anxious every single day. And i'm sick of it.

Hi, Skatergirl. I can definitely relate because I feel exactly the same way. I think it comes down to wanting to change and overcome Social Anxiety. I know that it's easier said than done. But I think Social Anxiety Disorder is cure able. It's just a matter of getting help... and that's always the first step to recovering.

 

[zlench]

I understand you I want to change and have the anxiety to away so then I would be able to have a better life.

 

[Redzer]

hi...
But i can't change.. I would love to change

yes you can, and if you think that you cant then you wont, its like if you think bad things then bad things happen. Its reported that if you think good things then good things will happen, say to urself i can change, i will change everyday outloud you dont have to scream it out just say it loud enough with enough belief then see what happens..."whats this?" you say? all of a sudden this wave of belief and inspiration comes over you and you begin to feel like wait a minute i can do this and i will change!

its proven that when people talk to PLANTS and trees they GROW healther! plants things with out feelings or emotions or any kind of thought. Listen to this an experiment was done were the had two plants next to speakers one played heavy metal music and the other played classical music. now as the plants grew the one that "grew up" so to speak listening to heavy metal music actually grew away from the speaker it moved away from the sound were as the other plant that was next to the speaker that played classical music grew into and wrapped itself around the speaker and grew stronger! i hope u can see what i am trying to get across here

 

[Redzer]

if you arent willing to change, you wont change.

thats what i'm telling people, its one the first things you gotta want.

 

[Moonie]

I've sort of giving up on changing completely. It's never going to happen. But, you can improve. You have to sort of throw yourself out there, though... Since you are lucky enough to have friends, I would simply accept their invitations whenever they ask to do things. I had friends at one point, and declined their invitations, and they eventually will drop you. As hard as it is, just say 'yes.'

And you do get a little more outgoing with age and experience. But, it's not a drastic change. But, it you will do things you never thought you were capable of doing..

 

[iamthenra]

I understand what you are saying... I could have wrote the same thing. Wanting change, and at the same time being deathly afraid of it at the same time. For me just the thought of approaching a stranger, is like thinkng about stepping off of a plane in mid flight. I guess after wanting something for so long, I just gave up a while ago, for my own sanity. Because it was the wanting piece that was driving me crazy.

 

[Redzer]

I've sort of giving up on changing completely. It's never going to happen. But, you can improve. You have to sort of throw yourself out there, though... Since you are lucky enough to have friends, I would simply accept their invitations whenever they ask to do things. I had friends at one point, and declined their invitations, and they eventually will drop you. As hard as it is, just say 'yes.'

And you do get a little more outgoing with age and experience. But, it's not a drastic change. But, it you will do things you never thought you were capable of doing..

great advice moonie why cant you use it in yer own life?

 

[recluse]

I wish i could change too::

 

[Redzer]

I wish i could change too::

why cant you?