I found people who never had SA/SP to be really unsympathetic and mean

[Darker Than Black]

I just posted one of my topics on another site, not a support site, and some guy was like

++++++To become friends with her the first thing you should to is TALK TO HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I think you are just being stubborn and selfish because you are a coward and just by being that of course you can't talk normally or be friendly with just anyone. I am not being mean towards you or anything...

I might not understand or anything but i said to give it a go and talk to her like give it your all and just say hi to her every time you see her you know? I know it can be vexing for a guy like you wanting to be friends with her and all too.

Say a simple: Hi.

Let her her know that you exist and ask to hang out sometimes and yeah it should be okay.

You can talk to me about it too if you want just message me!++++

I was like I was happy I met some ppl here that's going through the same thing.

ya, BS, I hate people like this. I'm if he said he was JKJK, and lol, i was going to be "ya, sure" I jk all the time, but like, I didn't like the part where he said

"I think you are just being stubborn and selfish because you are a coward and just by being that of course you can't talk normally or be friendly with just anyone. I am not being mean towards you or anything..."



u ever met ppl like this?

 

[scarletlee]

Not worth your time talking to someone like that. Not all people that don't have SA are mean though.. but forget about this guy, he doesn't sound very helpful

 

[P+G]

I made the mistake of typing in something like shy people on google. I could not believe the number of people who said things like, "They don't deserve to live." What gives them the right to say such a thing? What irritates me the most is when people say, "I hate shy and quiet people." I just think what have we ever done to you? Someone said that out loud when I was sitting next to them and another time right behind my back. I'm not even sure if they intended to be mean. Some people just say what's on their mind regardless if it has a negative impact on someone else. I think those who see quietness as rude think about it too much and get really offended by it. They're so angry that they fail to see what else could be going on.

To become friends with her the first thing you should to is TALK TO HER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

As if it were that easy. Sometimes it's like forcing someone with anorexia to eat.

 

[Acme]

I made the mistake of typing in something like shy people on google. I could not believe the number of people who said things like, "They don't deserve to live." What gives them the right to say such a thing? What irritates me the most is when people say, "I hate shy and quiet people." I just think what have we ever done to you?

Don't let people like this get to you. There are a lot of people in society who are f*cked up and have problems. Instead of these people trying to build themselves up and facing/dealing with their problems, they instead try to drag others down to their level and try to throw/displace their problems onto others. Just don't care about these people. They don't matter. They are nothing.

 

[Flowers-Of-Bloom]

ya, BS, I hate people like this. I'm if he said he was JKJK, and lol, i was going to be "ya, sure" I jk all the time, but like, I didn't like the part where he said

"I think you are just being stubborn and selfish because you are a coward and just by being that of course you can't talk normally or be friendly with just anyone. I am not being mean towards you or anything..."



u ever met ppl like this?

I don't think he's trying to upset you (though clearly he has), he just doesn't understand. His intentions aren't to hurt you. Infact, he doesn't seem mean at all.
I'm sorry, but I believe you've taken this completely out of proportion.

 

[recluse]

People can be mean if they don't understand. I used to post stuff up on yahoo answers and i got a lot of nice replies but also horrible ones which were probably from kids who felt safe all holed up in their rooms.

I alos had a female friend whom i'd known for years from college, and she was never wanted to listen to my problems and thought that i was making things up for attention. Anyway i've broken all contact from her because she wasn't worth it.

 

[danstelter]

People like this are everywhere! Basically, the problem is that they do not understand social anxiety. I had tons of friends say this to me time and time again, and of course I wouldn't, which baffled them.

One thing that you are hitting on, and this I have learned in great detail while training to become a social worker, is that there are better ways to talk to people than others. There are certain things to say to the socially anxious and there are certain things not to say.

People in professions that are based more on making money or building a business tend not to have the ability, understanding, or patience required to talk to a social phobic. People in professions that are not centered on helping people tend to be more rigid, impatient, and non-sympathetic. People in the Social Work or Human Services professions, I have found, are much more compassionate, sympathetic, patient, and understanding. If they don't understand, they usually take the time to do so.

However, even professions focused on helping people have people who are nasty and not understanding, so these professions are far from perfect as well.

What I believe is that people who do take the time to be compassionate, understanding, and to listen to others generally find themselves doing much better and getting to much higher positions in life. So, I would recommend staying patient and being kind to others, even though many are not that way towards us.