I don't want to talk to you.

[moonshadow]

How does one make this clear without being rude? It could be in real life or online. There's always someone who won't take the hint. Ignoring them is not an option for me unless I feel offended in some way. I've tried keeping the conversation short but it doesn't always work.

I'm not unfriendly but when someone persistently tries to engage me in conversation, I shut down. Why do people think you want to hear what they've done that day? Especially if you didn't ask, and you don't know each other. Am I an ice queen or does anyone else ever feel harassed like this?

I've realized that people want to talk to me far more than I want to talk to them. I feel bad about it but I can't help wanting to be left alone.

 

[KiaKaha]

Although my approach to dealing with other people is quite different from yours, everybody has the right as to who they want to know and let into their lives. You shouldn't feel bad about it... sometimes you have to be firm with others to get how you feel across to them.

 

[drganon]

I usually respond with a lot of mmm's, yeps, and other things that aren't actually words. It usually does the job of telling the person I don't want to have this conversation. I also don't make eye contact and attempt to go back to doing whatever I was doing before I was interrupted.

 

[MrJones]

Usually people don't want to talk to me, but when I'm so tired I don't want to talk myself I just put my headphones on. If someone still wants to tell you something, just say "Do not ever, under no circumstances, interrupt a solo by Jimmy Page. NEVER!".
But then don't be surprised if they do something like "Just wanted to tell you you just lost your wallet, *******! *keeps the wallet and punches you in the face*" hahaha

 

[Vampayah88]

Its good to have earbuds with you. Even though im not listening to music, if someone asks me for directions or something, i just walk straight ahead pretending i didn't hear them. lol

 

[ChrystaR]

I've realized that people want to talk to me far more than I want to talk to them.

That happens to me a lot (online). And then when I really want to talk to someone, they won't talk to me.

This girl that I used to go to school with, was friends with me on myspace several years ago. We talked a little and she asked if I wanted to get together. I was quite nervous and apprehensive, but I agreed. I got all ready, and went to go pick her up. I think she said she was going to wait outside or something. We went and drove around several times and couldn't find her (or even the house maybe, I can't remember). Anyway, she didn't have my address or phone number and I didn't have her phone number either. The only way of contact was online and I sent her a message asking what was going on. She didn't reply to me for several days! And she didn't have a reasonable excuse. I got pissed at her and told her that it was pretty much too crappy of a thing to do right from the very start and that I didn't want to bother trying to make a friendship. She was dissapointed, but, oh well, she was rude.

Eventually, after time had passed, I decided since we never talked and I didn't have much in common, I would delete her off my friends list. Sometime later, I got a friend request from her. I felt a little bad, and added her.
Then, I switched over to facebook (I like myspace so much more) and she asked to be my friend and I declined. Later, she asked again. I didn't want to be so obviously rude, so I added her. Well, after sitting there for months she never said a word to me, so I deleted her again.

Talk about "I don't want to talk to you!" She wouldn't leave me alone!

Anyway, I normally just say that I have something I need to do. An appointment to go to or something. "Sorry, I have an obligation, I need to go." That's usually it. I haven't had much trouble in person. But I've had plenty of online problems. People I don't have much in common with, wanting to talk to me. People that start a conversation with me, but bascially rely on my to supply conversation. People who have what I feel are ridiculous or stupid opinions/thoughts. Sometimes it's a little hard to get out of, because you don't want to be rude and hurt their feelings. Just make sure you don't say that you have nothing to do, because then you can't use the excuse that you have a prior obligation without totally giving away that you are lying.

 

[ChrystaR]

But gee, wouldn't it be nice if we were rude people and didn't care about hurting people's feelings? It would sure make things easier.

 

[Apersonalan]

Sometimes I just want to be left alone 100%. People don't know why I'm nice to some then a jerk all of a sudden. They really don't know what the other people they're with are really doing to me when they're away so I'm just passive about it and let it be. Everything always evens out in the end and always has been a choice but I'm to damn bored to choose better people.

 

[Apersonalan]

lol don't mean to harass you again but if you don't want to talk to someone you just change your av to someone who looks like that wide-nosed kid from the cabbage patch kids, the one with brown hair. Then they'll leave you alone. Its a vain world so it works every time! :lol:

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Look everywhere but into the persons eyes Mumble your words.. act bored.. one word answers.. don't smile.. keep your posture straight so whoever thinks your confident, not depressed or something or the person might try to help you and ask questions like whats wrong etc... >.>

 

[MaliceInWickedland]

I usually respond with a lot of mmm's, yeps, and other things that aren't actually words. It usually does the job of telling the person I don't want to have this conversation. I also don't make eye contact and attempt to go back to doing whatever I was doing before I was interrupted.

That's exactly what I do.

I also usually go out with my earbuds on and my ipod in my pocket (If I have any at the time) but usually without music on just to deter people from approaching me. If anyone actually does try to approach me then I'll just act like I didn't hear them, unless they make eye contact with me or it's made obvious that I noticed them.

 

[Richey]

this is true and now i'm finding that if i talk to people for say certain periods, as in over 1-2 days they feel the need to try and add me as a facebook friend. Now I don't use facebook much and find it awkward that people I hardly know want to add me, because if I don't add them then what..they think I've rejected them? seriously its getting beyond a joke. I'm pretty sure that at least 5 people think i've rejected them as I just don't believe that 1-2 deep conversations warrants me adding you to facebook as i barely talk to the people close to me on facebook anyway, jesus...its a real problem and i've noticed that potential friends keep requesting a freind addy even after I avoid them..so listen i'm not rejecting your addy because I'm snobbing you, I'm not adding you because i don't use facebook much and we aren't that close either...ugh