I am different

[no1]

uhm.

yeah.

I feel like I have social anxiety for a good reason. because people don't like me. I don't have anything in common with anyone. I am very different. There is no curing my social anxiety because I am different from others and I have nothing in common. The main cause of my social anxiety is because of this. Because people reject me. Because I am too different. Who can get to know me when nobody wants to even begin getting to know me? I am originally a person who can't reveal too much of myself. I am thought to be crazy. I am alone in this world. I don't share too many common interests with the people over here.

 

[worrywort]

"the more unique you are the more important you are"

 

[Helyna]

"the more unique you are the more important you are"

True!

 

[playthepsychedelic]

uhm.

yeah.

I feel like I have social anxiety for a good reason. because people don't like me. I don't have anything in common with anyone. I am very different. There is no curing my social anxiety because I am different from others and I have nothing in common. The main cause of my social anxiety is because of this. Because people reject me. Because I am too different. Who can get to know me when nobody wants to even begin getting to know me? I am originally a person who can't reveal too much of myself. I am thought to be crazy. I am alone in this world. I don't share too many common interests with the people over here.

I think that counts for many people with SA. Thy just feel like they're the only ones in the world with this problem, but if they could see themselves through someone elses eyes, they would realise that they're not that different from all the rest.

 

[bitingthepea]

heyyy
you only think that because you have SA and it makes you think like that, because i no it makes me think like that

why do you think your different tho ?

 

[Livingwithoutlivin]

I certainly got here by believing all the bad stuff people told me about myself, including my own family. I mean, most anything good that anybody ever said went through one ear and came out the other, because whatever bad stuff was said to me, stuck with me forever. I am a product of all the bad things, because they obviously outnumbered the good ones. I didn't have the most exemplary parents who were good examples. Nowadays I see how I mirror my loser of a mom, I love her, but she really isn't helping the subconcious part of me that doesn't know is emulating her way of handling things in life. She isn't anxious but she doesn't care much for what other people think of her, she dressess like a slob and carries a spider man backpack around, which just makes her look nuts, and so what am I emulating , the people around me, and she is the only female role model I have, everybody else in this house is a man.

 

[tiffstar]

I also think like that. I don't appear to be engaging and can't transcend to a deeper level of friendship with new people. Maybe that's why I feel out of place in social situations.

Though I have had opportunities to develop friendship (sometimes ppl would talk to me on the train) that opportunity quickly fades because I appear snobbish (due to my anti social behaviour and anxieties) and I HATE IT

 

[bitingthepea]

I feel the same
when i meet new people i jus dont know how to bond and it makes me so frustarted to see when other people are able to bond with new comers.

sometimes i wonder how iv got the friends i do

i need tips on bonding .. whenever i try to bond i feel like im being to serious and asking too mnay quetsions

 

[tiffstar]

I feel the same


i need tips on bonding .. whenever i try to bond i feel like im being to serious and asking too mnay quetsions

You know what, that is exactly my characteristic as well. I was at bday dinner for a friend. She introduced me to newcomers. There was the pleasant hellos and all. After that the newcomers started to talk to her other friends they had never even met until now. (yes, I was virtually a ghost)

I was really amazed at the ease of how the mingling was which seems to develop so easily. What I noticed was their talk was lighthearted, not serious and not too personal and filled with many jokes. Maybe the key is to make jokes.

 

[no1]

well all the loneliness definitely makes me feel like it's made me into a sociopath or cuckoo, which can be not too funny.

I personally think I'm different in that my beliefs are a lot different than many others. Maybe you can call me a perfectionist to the extreme. I have a vegan diet. I believe in government conspiracies, or conspiracies in general. it makes this world look very bleak. I believe that we are in some crazy ass times and this society could be on the brink of a major change, this entire civilization might change tremendously soon. I am interested in things like physics, and biology. Things of the "spiritual" as well I guess. Not so much spiritual but I guess physics.

But these are not thoughts of my own. I am this way because I have just been exposed to these topics and it seems to appeal to me. I feel like I'm nothing more than one of those bums on the street that claim it's the end of the world.

End of the world.

and I feel sociopathic because I'm lonely. The longer I go lonely the more I become sociopathic. The more I become crazier and angrier and suicidal, lonlier, etc.

I fear become profiled and categorized as a danger to this society as well. I know some things but I am not too unique, I am weak, weakening and I am by myself.

I am sick... I am troubled, kinda incapacitated. Unless I can find smoe kind of help, and motivation and the right ideas, but if I'm not being exposed to them then I have nothing of my own. Nothing of my own to save me! The truth is not within me when there is no truth in me.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I definitely am different. A lot of that is the result of my SA.... not the cause. I am very behind in all areas of life, among other things.... I have completely different views on everything than all the other people around me.. my thought process, itself is just the total opposite. I'm different in pretty much all ways, than all the people I know & most of the people in this world.

However, even though I'm, in a lot of ways, humiliated by some of those differences, I'm very glad & proud to be my own unique person. I don't want to be like other people. I don't particularly like the way most people are & have no desire whatsoever to be like them. Some of my differences (lack of experience, etc.) definitely makes me even more scared/anxious to communicate with people & a lot of other things about me makes it much harder to be myself around people. But I still don't want to be like them. I am who I am & that's just the way it is. If people have a problem with that, I don't need them in my life, anyway.

Even though you think/are totally different from others, that's not a bad thing. You are who you are. If you feel that your SA is there only because others don't like you because you're too different... try to find others more like yourself. Having the kind of views you have isn't abnormal. I, myself don't have those same beliefs, but a lot of others do. The fact that you took on those beliefs because you heard/came across them & they appealed to you, doesn't mean they're not "your" thoughts/beliefs. A lot of my thoughts/beliefs came from the fact that I've heard things along the way.. learned things along the way.. & they just resonated with me, & stuck. That's the way it is with a lot of people.

If you haven't you really need to start seeing a therapist & be medicated. Especially because of the suicidal thoughts. Medication is the only thing that kept me from killing myself when I was put on it a year ago. I was beyond suicidal & had no hope for anything before I sought help. Now, though my SA hasn't gotten any better, really.. I still have no friends, & couldn't be much lonelier, but my depression is pretty much gone. & I now have hope for a future. My entire life's just completely turned around since last year. I hope you can find some help for yourself.

Sorry for the rambling blog lol

 

[Jura]

Fuck, so? Plenty of people are different or weird, but that doesn't stop them from being loud and liked. Just look around! Plus, people often like weird people who are different.

 

[tiffstar]

people can be judgemental sometimes if you don't appear to be in their range of what is normal

 

[Psychedelicious]

Don't pretend like being strange or different is a bad thing! I guess you can be weird in like a bad way, but that's more like creepiness and whatnot. It's good to be noticed out of a crowd of people, if you are being noticed for the right reason. I'm a weirdo. I'm glad I'm crazy. I will go out of my way to do things differently, and it does work. People do notice me a lot, don't know if it's good or bad, or just strange, but they do. I wish I knew how to deal with it though. I would love it! Attention is great . Well kind of, sort of, yeah.

What would you rather be? Some generic blah person. That's sooo boring, it's like nothing all over again.

 

[sabbath92003]

Stare out the window,
You can't make the time go
You don't even know why you're here
Wait for the weekend to go off the deep end
and make everything disappear
You're lost in a teenage jail
So you and so vicious and so frail
where something is always for sale
You're lost in a teenage jail.

You're not like your mothers.
you're not like the others
You're not quite like anyone else,

They don't even know you,
Got nothing to show you,
So get something good for yourself
You're lost in a teenage jail
So young and so vicious and so frail
Where something is always for sale.
You're lost in a teenage jail.

 

[blackcap]

I feel the same


i need tips on bonding .. whenever i try to bond i feel like im being to serious and asking too mnay quetsions

You know what, that is exactly my characteristic as well. I was at bday dinner for a friend. She introduced me to newcomers. There was the pleasant hellos and all. After that the newcomers started to talk to her other friends they had never even met until now. (yes, I was virtually a ghost)

I was really amazed at the ease of how the mingling was which seems to develop so easily. What I noticed was their talk was lighthearted, not serious and not too personal and filled with many jokes. Maybe the key is to make jokes.

I've been thinking the same thing recently. I'm stressing out about going to a barbecue with the neighbors because I've seen how a lot of them seem to be friends already and chat to each other regularly, while the most I've said to any of them is a 'hello' while passing in the common area.

I don't know how I'm going to get through it, they go on all night and even though I plan on leaving early I'll still need to stay for a couple of hours. Based on past experience, there's no way I can meet new people and talk to them for anywhere near that long. I don't know what I'm going to do after the smalltalk runs out. Yet other people seem to get on with each other just fine, they find a way through the smalltalk and actually enjoy conversations with each other for hours on end. I just don't get it.

The thought of being stranded with a bunch of strangers and nobody to talk to makes me so anxious. How does everyone else cope in this situation?

 

[madmike]

I can relate to that. I just don't seem to think, act or strive for the things others strive for. The collective concience of the society (in fact, human's in general) is alien to me. I don't really understand the times i'm living in... everything is so strange. I feel so schizophrenic as well since i could literally say i love and i hate to anything, depending on how i justify it in my mind, so now i no longer know how i feel about ost things. Luckily i still have my family, an ex who is kind and a friend who is in similar situation as me... so we have a an understanding that transcends our superficial differences. It's what keeps me sane...

 

[no1]

I can relate to the bonding thing also.

 

[Weirdo]

I can relate to everything what's been written in this thread. And about the bond thing...I think that I don't feel bound to people due to some kind of inner defense mechanism. Thus when my current friends forsake me one day, I'll just brush it off with "I don't really need them anyway" instead of falling into depression, thinking how alone and pathetic I am.