how unlucky are you?

[skins]

ok my day for instance...today i was told i may be 'let go' from my current job which i've had for all of 2 weeks, this comes only a few days after being kicked out of a share house after all of 2 weeks for accidently mowing some of my housemates plants, which comes a couple of weeks after being fired from a previous job, which comes a week after breaking up with my girlfriend blah blah blah it could go on and on....infact my life is pretty much just a series of tradgic, pityful, failures of relationships, careers, friendships and living arrangements....now my brother in contrast, after being in the one job for 10 years, his company goes belly up...1 week later and he is called up and offered another job out of the blue, a higher paying one.

...who here suffers from rotten luck a lot? now i know a fair amount of this bad luck may be a result of my AVPD, but i just feel my life is cursed or somthing, as my bad luck occurs so regularly...do we make our own luck?...i think not...dammit, right now im eating a chicken sandwedge which i know has been left out over night in the hope that my bad luck will finally get the better of me and take me out with a severe case of food poisioning lol ..i'm so sick of this!!! just take me out god, i'm so sick of playing this stupid game, let it be over with...either that or show me the path to redemtion, cuz life is hell and i'm sick of being punished.

 

[Richey]

this month i have had a shocker. i wont go into much depth here but all i can say is that you could write a sitcom or an adventure about it, its so adsurd. soorry to read about your misfortunes this month. i suppose sometimes life can immitate and repeat unlucky scenarios for anyone whether its you being in the wrong place or other people levering an unlucky result.

it actually overwhelmed me today and i had to sit back and laugh then i had tears in my eye. i just can't believe it.

here are just a few things, though i didnt lose a job like you, i'm sorry to read that. there are others i will leave out for good measure that were just "i am the forces from above pointing down and laughing at me" humiliating...

- out of 35 days of taking my train ticket with me, the one day i left it behind the inspectors were waiting at the doors, so i was booked. may be able to appeal it though because i had a valid ticket.

- 2 days in a row i was walking off the train and the driver slammed the breaks hard so i fell over, of course i had to fall where there were people sitting.

- accidentally caused an era at work on the server by installing the wrong file, i was very red faced.

- Decided to go for a walk on a lunch break and it looked like i was being followed by a car, it looked very suspect and weird so i ran to the nearest shop.

- i went to a restaurant with 2 friends on a lunch break, the girl i liked walked in while my friend kicked a hacky sack in my direction, it was just awkward and the worst timing. she walked in and sort of had this funny expression on her face. i just couldn't believe she would walk in at that moment, maybe i am being over sensitive but it was like something you would never expect to happen to you.

- i've had some constant nightmares lasting weeks now that are really making me feel sick. because they wont stop

- I was waiting for a friend at the shops in my car and needed a ten minute nap, so suddenly i am woken up by an undercover officer who flashes his lights, for no reason, now they were just checking every car but i found it to be a very embarrassing situation, me just mind my own business.


- this morning i went to the bakery to buy water and the I say "has it been busy today?", then she says "not so much yet" ...then i say "oh well the day has only just began" then she says "haha, well ..oh ok, if you put it like that" ....
seriously why the hell did i say that. that was a case of not thinking before speaking.

so here i am sitting on the couch feeling very low after a bad month. some good moments but alot of clearly bad ones, more so then most would imagine.

i dont know about you but after a month like this i just feel like sleeping, i mean i have to go to work but apart from work it makes me not want to go out at all in fear of something unlucky happening. i've never felt like this before until this month. i just feel like staying inside unless a friend wants to go out with me, going anywhere alone is out of the question if this sort of luck continues.

its actually made me believe that there are outside forces that can overide circumstances. its sort of like a metaphorical truman show going on ...

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

Do I have to go into detail? My troubles have nothing to do with luck, but I can't say I haven't felt unlucky lately. Every time I find a way, something always comes along to sabotage my plans. One can imagine that it becomes difficult not to blame things on luck when things seem to not go right no matter what. I'll catch a break eventually and I don't believe in luck.

 

[Mokkat]

actually, despite generally feeling unlucky, yesterday I won a couple of concert tickets, got a code for ordering free pizza (Microsoft hosting some kind of business-conference online, not gonna watch it ) and GoG.com gave me a free game for being an old costumer of theirs.

 

[S_Spartan]

I believe that there are three kinds of luck: good luck, no luck, and bad luck. People with good luck have many doors opened for them in life and life just pushes them along in a positive direction and they grow and thrive. People with no luck stay the same. They pretty much tread water. They don't fall behind and they don't move forward. People with bad luck have bad things happen to them constantly and suffer major setbacks with frequency.
I fall more under the no luck category. I tread water. As much as I try to get things to change in a positive direction, I can't. Opportunities do not present themselves and I find it very difficult to make opportunities for myself. I have known people with good luck though who have done all the wrong things but the good fortune comes their way and they end up living splendid lives.
One guy I knew was into all kinds of illegal things and now he has a nice government job in a prison. In fact, I recently found out that his job had been eliminated at the prison and a week later the prison hired him back on a better job with higher pay. Some people have opportunities thrown at them!

 

[BlackPuma]

I'm not going to sum them all up, but much of the misfortune I've dealt with can only be described as being terribly ironic. I've learned to somewhat deal with the opposite outcome by now.

It makes me really scared to try things sometimes.

 

[Felgen]

I got laid off from my previous job myself after three months. Didn't see eye to eye with one of the leaders, and the guy was to much of a wuss to confront me with my mistakes and went on to the director and got me fired. What's funny is that some of the people who kissed his ass had made the same mistakes.

I've managed to find a new job since then though.

 

[Kato]

I agree that an inordinate amount of misfortunes makes its way to all of us here.
What boggles my mind is the probability that we would arrived into this life in the first place.

 

[Feathers]

Have you seen the film Bruce Almighty - with Jim Carrey?
It kinda starts a bit like your post...

I think some people have it 'easy' in life - but do they really get to grow and develop through that or do they just get spoilt and arrogant/feeling entitled to good things, having it difficult to understand other people's misfortune and such?

I think some amount of misfortune can actually make you a better person. Because you can learn to relate to people in a similar situation..
And yes, I've sometimes experienced it too, sometimes thought my life was hilarious and could make a silly Japanese/Korean drama or tragi-comic cabaret or sitcom too!!

Also, job-related, having experience of 10 years makes it more likely to get another job.. It's sad that if companies downsize, the person who came last is usually the first to go..

On the other hand, trying out different jobs even for a short time can help you get certain jobs because you know what it takes to do them and you can communicate and relate to people working there more easily... (or be a good career counsellor or such?)

Sometimes a 'series of misfortunes' can also help us learn certain things and improve our lives.. Maybe your next job/place to live/girlfriend will be even better than anything so far?

 

[Kiwong]

The last 27 months I've considered myself lucky. I'm running again. After what I've been through it is nothing short of a miracle.

 

[skins]

some good points there...i feel exaclty like i'm living out this sick, twisted japanese sitcom where my life is at the expense of the viewing audiance....sometimes after something so ironically bad happens in my life i just sit down in my room or car alone and just laugh at the hillarity of the irony, othertimes i will cry but this is only after i think finally my life is going steady and stable then boom i'm struck down again. but when i get these strings of closely followed misfortune, i can't even cry but instead just chuckle to myself and down a bottle of vodka while saying over and over to myself 'this might be stupidly bad luck, but its not going to kill me'....i only have potentially 50+ years more of this torture to endure before it can't hurt anymore. just try and live my life doing the things i can enjoy and let everything else go.