How to forget about someone

[da_illest101]

I just wondering how some of you forget about someone that meant the world to you at some point?

it's been 7 months since I don't talk to one of my best friend and I miss her a lot even though I know that we will never be friends again. Every time I feel like I have her out of my system I dream about her. I do keep busy with school and work but I don't choose what I dream of. So far it happened four times already and don't know how to stop thinking about her when I dream of her.

 

[DeadmanWalking]

I'm going through the same thing right now and what I'm doing right now is working on myself. I'm trying to be more sociable and attract other females (though no luck yet). You have to fight through your feelings; she was one female out of god-know-how-many. I don't mean to minimize her importance to you, but you'll find someone who will be able to fill that hole.

 

[Nanita]

I lost several friends.
There was someone I was friends with since childhood, and we are not friends anymore. I have had many many dreams about her since we stopped having contact. I feel sad whenever I have another dream about her. I will never forget her. But I know that I couldn´t really be friends with her, because we both went in different directions, so to speak.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

You kinda.... can't. It gets easier with time, especially if you find a replacement but it's not like you can completely forget someone.

 

[coyote]

how to forget someone?

spend all my time on an internet forum, posting wisecracks

 

[Agent_Violet]

I'm still having trouble forgetting someone from 11yrs ago. So as soon as someone finds out how to forget someone who was once the most important person in the world to them;please let me know the answer.

 

[KiaKaha]

You cant forget about someone completely. Especially if they meant a lot to you. The only thing that seems to work is time and experience.

 

[this_portrait]

Unless there's a way to erase memories from our minds, I doubt you can just up and "forget" about someone. You can move on with life and distract yourself as much as possible, but there are always going to be memories of that person.

Personally, even though there was a lot of pain when my ex broke up with me, I don't WANT to forget about him. I doubt I could anyway even if I tried. Instead I'd rather look back on it, smile at the good times, and try to not make the mistakes I made when I was with him again.

 

[bsebring]

I've been trying to get lost in school work and stay close to the other people in my life to get over my ex. I'm planning a trip this summer with my friends to visit New York. If I form new memories, the future is something I can focus on instead of the past. After a while holding a grudge over someone who doesn't care about you becomes less of a priority.

But I've come to realize that the feeling of rejection from that person never really goes away. However, the more I've distracted myself from the memories we shared, the less I start to care about how feel about it. It's whatever at this point.

So my advise is to go live your colorful life outside of your friend. There's always something you can be doing to occupy yourself and the more you start doing the things you like the less you start to care about what the other person thinks of you.

 

[Kiwong]

Time. Try 23 years. It is easier now.

 

[Fighter86]

Find a replacement.

 

[Dead_on_Arrival]

Take that moment of rememberance for what it is at that moment, then carry on as normal. The worst thing you can do is dwell on it. You will never forget but you will become at ease in time. By getting on with life and busying yourself with the other people around you, your work/education and what you enjoy the memories will become further apart, less frequent but will never totaly go away. There will be others and quite probably more losses but you will become better able to cope with them.