theslowesthand
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I was wondering how much PHYSICAL bullying (as opposed VERBAL bullying) affects people, during the growing-up years.
Here's a list of my own experiences i've had with physical bullying...
Primary school...
Most events I felt i "deserved", and so didn't "fight back", and didn't feel angry/outraged/etc, just sad/picked-on/disliked/etc.
Since they happened, i have thought that they barely affected me, and that were simply a normal part of growing up as a boy/male. But MAYBE they affected me QUITE A LOT or even A GREAT DEAL???.
As can be seen, the instances of physical bullying became significantly more frequent during my (esp early) teenaged years. And of course, they were only the TIP OF ICEBERG of all the bullying/abuse i got on a fairly regular basis.
And ALL of these events were ENTIRELY UNPROVOKED on my part.
Here's a list of my own experiences i've had with physical bullying...
Primary school...
- At home. Struck on head by skateboard by younger relative
- At school. Knocked off stilts. later known to get into fights with other kids (angry type), regarded as "friend"
- Holiday camp. An "ugly" boy giving me "evil"/threatening looks running away .. dragged out from under steps at side of building .. held up by scruff-of-neck
a bunch kids (all/most were boys; might have been a girl/s also (known by boys; who might have approached, as recall 1/2 kids sticking-up for me, saying to let me go, not be mean, etc)). Told them my dad was nearby (he was), & gave his name, they agreed '<name's> a good man', (like THEY would know!; clearly did not see ME in same light) & said he would beat them up - Poked deep in ear (painful as well as dangerous) with a grass stem (again by sby i trusted, & who always seemed friendly to me)
- Physically "stood over" by the vice-principle, who was quite an aggressive/scary man. Maybe he was justified, as being so weak-minded & pushover, a "friend" (boy) said he would "tell on me" for looking at a porn magazine some boys found, UNLESS i went & "admitted" it to principle. So i went to principle's office, & asked to speak to him, but vice-principle came to door, & said 'why?', etc. So i told him, and then then aggressively "took into me", verbally-wise, hovering over me like some evil spirit, until a really big boy came along & intervened, standing eye-to-eye with him! (its always good when somebody fends-off a bully for you, doesn't happen enough though)
- Can't recall exactly, but i remember having to ward-off this big boy with a chair (he was definately threatening me; maybe he had a chair also, can't recall)
- At public/school library, outside school hours. Brutally knocked off chair (i think i was struck a solid blow to head)
- At school, in class. Poked several times with a compass in class (but he did it to boy sitting next to me, so i swapped with him, and then started to get poked myself!, which PROVES that it's not "all about you", but it's all about the bully & his/her problems)
- Being held up by front of shirt. By someone i was on ok terms with, to impress his Friend already in High School (whom he spotted). Introduction day at high school. He ASKED me, & i AGREED (out of wanting to please - so maybe a kind of SELF-INFLICTED bullying??) lol
- At home. My brother (2 years older) regularly "flicked" my bum with fingertips (stung) whenever he got the chance (but after a year/so of this, i began to "flick" him back)
- At school, swimming class. held underwater for 20 or so seconds (just enough to make me start to panic & start to "thrash")
- At school. Occasionally got my ear "pinged" (& bully did same to my best friend, him more than me, prob as bigger ears)
- At school, lunch. Large rock thrown at my head (luckily dodged it)
- At school. shouldered as passed in corridor between classes
- grabbed my ear & twisted it; bus on school trip; "friend"
- At school, between classes. Held up by throat against wall
- At school. Briefly grabbed by 2 of my regular bullies (in steel workshop class), when nearby open furnace, with the threat to stick my head in it
- struck on head by sth; saw "stars"; suspect one of my group of friends (an electronics/computer techie, who had been bring a diy 20kV electronic zapper to school); i Q him a few years later about it, but he denied it; might not have been him, but there was NOBODY about in library, but he COULD have dangled it on a string from above; maybe just me being paranoid, but SOMETHING had to have done it, SURELY??? or did i have a "brain hemorrage" or sth??? felt like somebody had whacked me about head with a telephone directory with maximum force
- At school. Tripped (felt onto flat onto floor) as exiting toilets. (just now had a thought that maybe trying to emulate my tripping as walking on stage in assembly in front of whole school??)
- At school, in class. This one is a bit more "disturbing" than the others, as it was done by a (male) teacher (whom i trusted). He "spanked" (was quite painful) the top of my hand once, with a whiteboard pointer, and asked 'did that hurt?' (was he seeing if i "felt" stuff??) --> i replied 'no' --> he then asked 'shall i do it again?' --> i replied 'no' and promptly withdrew my hand from the desktop. High school. Age: 15-16
- At school, before class. Pulled backwards (on 2 or 3 occasions) sitting on rail over concrete path (somebody mentioned a kid died from such)
- At school. Paper bag popped in my ear as i walked past during break
- In pub. Pushed deliberately from behind in pub, splashing friend i was talking to (who was very angry); i turned around & there were 3 "darkies" just standing there staring at us, in hindsight, obviously looking for a fight, which i did not oblige ...
These 2 are probably the most "concerning" for me
- Standing at traffic lights, waiting to cross, got "green man", just strted to walk accross & the V8 car at head of queue (still with red/stop) SUDDENLY BURST-OFF, RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME (<1 metre); amazing thing is he was at right-angle so had to turn 90deg to pass in front of me
- Was cycling home from work, a car did a "doghnut" a few 100 meters ahead at intersection --> drove off --> returned as i was turning into main road & the B****RDS CUT-ME-OFF!!! (forcing me off tarseal & even off the gravel; onto the grass verge); if i hadn't moved they WOULD have RUN RIGHT OVER ME!!! (the unfortunate thing is i didnt get numberplate, & car was non-descript)
The following 2 are possibly threats of physical violence (mainly the 1st one)
- Walking to town (in my "pub years"). Car of skin-heads stopped by me on side of road, one asked for 'a light' --> i said 'sorry, i don't smoke' --> he repeated --> i repeated -> drove off (in hindsight he may have "meant" sth else?). Then an hour/so later, walking back home, the same car drove past, and it stopped at the first house ahead of me (~200 me), pulling into the drive, blocking the path. I kept walking, and as i got near i crossed the road, and they started to quickly reverse back, so i quickened my pace into a jog to avoid being struck or approached by reversing car. Then they drove off in oppsoite direction. That was last i saw of that buch of "goons".
- In town. Walking home from pub (group of males tried to rile-me-up by shouting/etc)
Most events I felt i "deserved", and so didn't "fight back", and didn't feel angry/outraged/etc, just sad/picked-on/disliked/etc.
Since they happened, i have thought that they barely affected me, and that were simply a normal part of growing up as a boy/male. But MAYBE they affected me QUITE A LOT or even A GREAT DEAL???.
As can be seen, the instances of physical bullying became significantly more frequent during my (esp early) teenaged years. And of course, they were only the TIP OF ICEBERG of all the bullying/abuse i got on a fairly regular basis.
And ALL of these events were ENTIRELY UNPROVOKED on my part.
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