Argamemnon
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I'm sorry, but I can't even talk to people without having an anxiety attack. I feel ugly etc. etc.. I just know I could never enjoy sex.. my brain is too fucked up.Edith said:
How important is sex to you?
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CK23
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I guess the only way for us to enjoy sex is to have someone whose got the energy and drive to inspire us... i believe given that we are with the right person we can have a most intense and exciting sexual experience... Also i believe i can make that dream person feel on top of the world cos i really care for the other person and have a gr8 deal of empathy towards them...Natutrally when i'm in a sexual relationship those feelings would intensify and i'd give every fibre of my body to her cos i would feel so grateful to her for caring for me...
faithnomore
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Everyone else says that they're doing it, and its like i cant imagine myself being able to have the chance. Its so out of reach.
Argamemnon
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Sex means nothing when you're mentally ill. We suffer because of this illness, not because we haven't got sex. It wouldn't change anything for me at all.
Uglyduckling
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Sex is something that I can live without. Honestly, I get more excited over a new hoodie then thinking of having sex with a guy. Cuddling is probably something that I am needing more of than sex. If I'm in the right relationship with the right person then I like it.
I was talking to my sister and her friend recently. I have not had sex in two years and honestly feel like I could live without it. I would never have a one night stand just to hook up with someone. I did that once. It wasn't so great. Do guys expect sex after four dates? In most of my relationships I waited between 3-6 months and if I had a relationship I would hope to wait that long again.
I was talking to my sister and her friend recently. I have not had sex in two years and honestly feel like I could live without it. I would never have a one night stand just to hook up with someone. I did that once. It wasn't so great. Do guys expect sex after four dates? In most of my relationships I waited between 3-6 months and if I had a relationship I would hope to wait that long again.
ripewithdecay
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I want sex. A ton of it. It's something I want to get really good at too.
But is it something I need? Not at all.
But is it something I need? Not at all.
Argamemnon
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Other human needs are obviously far more important, such as pshysical and mental health, friends, family, school/work etc.. if you have those then you might think about enjoying sex 
geekat02
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If i'll be honest: i'd be really really happy if could get any. sometimes i feel so hungry for some womanly attention - which i dont get very often. though when i do get it, i try to avoid it, because im too shy or feeling weak and insecure - so its a vicious circle. i try my best to bury my feelings under my nerdy and geeky interests, though they always pop up and make me miserable when i see all thoes girls that i cannot have. But NO, deep down i don't see sex/romantic love as important things in life. they are just distractions, a waste of energy. i think i'll be extremely free and happy if there's no such a thing as sex.
sorry for my useless nonsense.
sorry for my useless nonsense.
lonely_down_under
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I'm 22 male. Sex is as important as food for me. I haven't had it since a month though. I mean sex.
InsaneGuyX
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Ok, I feel the need to post something here, this is a subject that screams for me to say something, Someone who has SA, and thinks sex is pointless, or not that important, or wants to remain a virgin to marriage is in denial. (Although at least the marriage excuse some people may find admirable, not me though its deeply rooted within false ideals of non virgins being unpure from old times).
Anyway asking someone with social anxiety if sex is important to them is like, asking people from a poor isolated country that have never tasted Soda if they like soda, they just cant comprehend what your talking about, sex is probably the most meaningful connection two people can make together, dont get me wrong if your not in a relationship it can mean nothing, but it is the best feeling in the world when you love the person, otherwise it just feels really good (which by itself makes it worth it)
To all the people who think they don't need sex or its not important, if you had the means to have it right now (with someone you find attractive) 98% would change your mind trust me. To truly love someone, i mean truly love, not family love ect, there's two kinds. You have to sync body and soul, not just one or the other . And sex is needed to sync your bodies. If you never had it before it would boost your confidence a lot, knowing you can completely let your defenses down to someone and give in to yourself, so basically saying sex doesn't matter to you is just an excuse, at least saying your waiting until marriage is somewhat believable excuse, either way its a excuse or a narrow minded belief at best.
Now I'm not trying to insult anyone, and i will admit i find people who say sex is pointless very amusing, but I, unlike some have the right to laugh at them, because i know what they feel like, I'm not laughing at them, I'm laughing at myself because i too have social anxiety, BAD very bad, and i can imagine myself being 29 ect 30, and a virgin (im 19), but unlike some, i have a strong sense of my surroundings, of what I to need to be healthy, i am a fighter the worse my anxiety gets the harder i fight.
Now dont get me wrong the proper way to fight anxiety is to embrace it, and control it not fight against it, thats not what im saying. What I saying is just your not able to get close enough to someone to have sex does not make it something you dont need, its probably exactly what you need most, a close loving relationship and sex. (Sex with someone you love or at the very least like alot would cheer amost anyone up.)
That being said, sex is a very basic human need, one that cannot be ignored without severe consequences. And comparing masturbation to sex is like comparing chess to solitaire, its way more fun to play with others. Also, stop feeling so damn sorry yourselfs if you are a 25/30 ect year old virgin, NO ONE IS EVER GOING TO HELP YOU so just pretend for a minute nothing matters and try to harness that feeling keep it inside you and become a new person, If you know what that feeling is, that im talking about your halfway to becoming a new person.
You will never have sex with someone, (with paying them or worse....) unless you free yourself so others can love you, your the only one preventing yourself from having a lover, I guarantee there has been at least one person who you have met who if you acted differently you could have had a relationship with, and there will be other opportunities in the future, question is will you ignore them?
Anyway asking someone with social anxiety if sex is important to them is like, asking people from a poor isolated country that have never tasted Soda if they like soda, they just cant comprehend what your talking about, sex is probably the most meaningful connection two people can make together, dont get me wrong if your not in a relationship it can mean nothing, but it is the best feeling in the world when you love the person, otherwise it just feels really good (which by itself makes it worth it)
To all the people who think they don't need sex or its not important, if you had the means to have it right now (with someone you find attractive) 98% would change your mind trust me. To truly love someone, i mean truly love, not family love ect, there's two kinds. You have to sync body and soul, not just one or the other . And sex is needed to sync your bodies. If you never had it before it would boost your confidence a lot, knowing you can completely let your defenses down to someone and give in to yourself, so basically saying sex doesn't matter to you is just an excuse, at least saying your waiting until marriage is somewhat believable excuse, either way its a excuse or a narrow minded belief at best.
Now I'm not trying to insult anyone, and i will admit i find people who say sex is pointless very amusing, but I, unlike some have the right to laugh at them, because i know what they feel like, I'm not laughing at them, I'm laughing at myself because i too have social anxiety, BAD very bad, and i can imagine myself being 29 ect 30, and a virgin (im 19), but unlike some, i have a strong sense of my surroundings, of what I to need to be healthy, i am a fighter the worse my anxiety gets the harder i fight.
Now dont get me wrong the proper way to fight anxiety is to embrace it, and control it not fight against it, thats not what im saying. What I saying is just your not able to get close enough to someone to have sex does not make it something you dont need, its probably exactly what you need most, a close loving relationship and sex. (Sex with someone you love or at the very least like alot would cheer amost anyone up.)
That being said, sex is a very basic human need, one that cannot be ignored without severe consequences. And comparing masturbation to sex is like comparing chess to solitaire, its way more fun to play with others. Also, stop feeling so damn sorry yourselfs if you are a 25/30 ect year old virgin, NO ONE IS EVER GOING TO HELP YOU so just pretend for a minute nothing matters and try to harness that feeling keep it inside you and become a new person, If you know what that feeling is, that im talking about your halfway to becoming a new person.
You will never have sex with someone, (with paying them or worse....) unless you free yourself so others can love you, your the only one preventing yourself from having a lover, I guarantee there has been at least one person who you have met who if you acted differently you could have had a relationship with, and there will be other opportunities in the future, question is will you ignore them?
InsaneGuyX
Member
Sex means nothing when you're mentally ill. We suffer because of this illness, not because we haven't got sex. It wouldn't change anything for me at all.
and to the person who said this your being completely idiotic, your illness may be keeping you from something you need to feel healthy. Even if its not, saying sex means nothing when you mentally ill is like saying sex means nothings if you see things that arent there, or have voices in you head, some people suffer from things like this there whole life, so your saying they never need sex? a healthy human NEEDS sex at some point in there life, some more than others. Some sooner than others. There's no way to tell really unless you know yourself first.
and to the person who said this your being completely idiotic, your illness may be keeping you from something you need to feel healthy. Even if its not, saying sex means nothing when you mentally ill is like saying sex means nothings if you see things that arent there, or have voices in you head, some people suffer from things like this there whole life, so your saying they never need sex? a healthy human NEEDS sex at some point in there life, some more than others. Some sooner than others. There's no way to tell really unless you know yourself first.
Screwdriver1020
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sleepysparrow
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(lame..............)
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Dave_McFadden
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InsaneGuyX said:
Oh, goodness, you had to REMIND me.... *sigh*
<pours another drink>
Sex is like oxygen...it's not a big deal, unless you're not getting any.
Cheers!
Ajuna24
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I'm 20 years old and I HATE it.. I hate casual sex. I hate the social pressure to have sex, and i hate how everyone discusses it so openly and freely as if they were chatting about a movie they just saw.
Sure, I have urges like any other guy, but it's not like I feel the need to hump everything that is heading in my direction.
It's like everywhere I turn I see TV-shows about sex, porn, sex spam, and talk about sex. Methods to please one another sexually, blah blah blah!
I have lost the best friends i ever had because of relationships and sex.
What I want is a true friend.
All the sexual pleasure in the world couldn't make up for that.
Sure, I have urges like any other guy, but it's not like I feel the need to hump everything that is heading in my direction.
It's like everywhere I turn I see TV-shows about sex, porn, sex spam, and talk about sex. Methods to please one another sexually, blah blah blah!
I have lost the best friends i ever had because of relationships and sex.
What I want is a true friend.
All the sexual pleasure in the world couldn't make up for that.
calbandgreat
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