I am about to be 21... and my views on sex are probably a lot different than people on here. I put it as a high priority to remain a virgin till im married. I am a strong Christian and want to follow God's intent for the special gift he created for a man and wife to enjoy when they are in a COMMITED relationship.
But saying that, i have NEVER been in a serious realtionship before. So i dont know what i would do in that situation. If i really loved him, it might happen, and i would definitely pray about if it was the right thing to do. But i dont think people who have sex before they are married are going to hell...
I've had like 3 or 4 times when if i really wanted to have sex i could have... one time was at this wedding and i had been drinking quite a bit (first and last time ive EVER been drunk, and it was NOT my idea! lol) my cousin was like "you need a drink" so anyway this groomsman was getting me drinks from the open bar. And when i get drunk i dance SO crazy and carefree (i guess like everyone else)...and we were just having fun...maybe dancing seductive i dont remember. but when he was buying me my last drink he told the BAR TENDER "no 'bump bump' tonight" I was like WHO SAID ANYTYHING ABOUT THAT! (i guess since i was drunk he thought i wanted to... but then another time this guy and i were in a hot tub, and he was like "so, what do you want to do tonight??
" kind of in a sexy way...and i was like, i dunno, what do YOU want to do... so we ended up watching a movie. And before he could do anything i gave him some gum b/c he had THE WORST BREATH! lol it ruined the moment, we didnt even kiss. the reason why i know he wanted to go all the way was because he told me LATER, when he had a GF! i was like, umm why are we talking about this now, theres not much we can do now...
Then the other time was a "booty call" basically...i hate calling it that but i dont know how else to describe it. i met this guy at a club and i liked him because he was really cute and confident (he was also drunk at the time) but he like grabbed my hand after talking to him for 5 mins...thats something i like b/c i never want to make the first move and it lets me know theyre attracted to me... anyway he called me after we left and was like begging me to come over...and he was like "we're just going to snuggle"...uhhh yeah whatever. i stayed the night (not a good idea) and he said he wasnt drunk anymore. anyway we just started making out...and he definitely tried to put his hand down my pants, but i pushed it away. im not an easy piece of A**...
Ok so this was a REALLY long explanation....that....ive never gotten serious with anyone. The most serious bf i ever had was in the 5th grade and we were together 2 years, we celebrated anniversaries, had couple parties and everything lol... but this is all just to say... If i truly was in love with my boyfriend at the time i wouldnt count sex completely OUT...
but i really do want to save that ESPECIALLY for my husband and if my husband waited for me i would feel sp special and like 'i was what he was waiting for'........i know thats more fantasy than reality.
but sex is going to be really important in my marriage i know that. you want to have "passion" and sex is a big part of that.
right now i am a human with "physical needs" just like everyone else and am living just fine without it. i dont see what the big deal is that people cant go days without humping like rabbits lol
i do miss kissing and having like a physical connection
but i dont like anyone here in my town, i have no interest in hooking up with some one i dont like.