Rumplestiltskin
Well-known member
Hi there.
It is said that SA is an irrational disorder, but I don't think it should be labelled as such in all cases. If you suffer from dismorphophobia or feel insecure about your looks and are, indeed, *ugly or phisically abnormal, there's no point in asking you to change your thoughts, since reality (i.e., mirrors, strangers staring at you, pictures, etc.) will always be there to catch you up once that irrational burst of self-esteem wears off.
So you're back to Earth.
You can barely go out since you know that anyone you pass on the street will notice and criticize your defects. You have a hard time getting a job since you're immediately discarded for anything that requires working in public. You're incapable of making friends since you're too self-conscious and can't act spontaneously in front of other people. Needless to say, you don't have a girlfriend. You can't have a girlfriend.
And so time passes by and your life remains the same.
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How does one deal with SA when your thoughts are not irrational? Yeah, of course anxiety is just a useless primitive mechanism and being ugly is not gonna kill you and you shouldn't be nervous at all since since you're not living any death-or-life situations and don't let anyone tell you how to feel and stuff. I know.
But seriously, who in the world doesn't care about other people's judgements?
It is said that SA is an irrational disorder, but I don't think it should be labelled as such in all cases. If you suffer from dismorphophobia or feel insecure about your looks and are, indeed, *ugly or phisically abnormal, there's no point in asking you to change your thoughts, since reality (i.e., mirrors, strangers staring at you, pictures, etc.) will always be there to catch you up once that irrational burst of self-esteem wears off.
So you're back to Earth.
You can barely go out since you know that anyone you pass on the street will notice and criticize your defects. You have a hard time getting a job since you're immediately discarded for anything that requires working in public. You're incapable of making friends since you're too self-conscious and can't act spontaneously in front of other people. Needless to say, you don't have a girlfriend. You can't have a girlfriend.
And so time passes by and your life remains the same.
__________
How does one deal with SA when your thoughts are not irrational? Yeah, of course anxiety is just a useless primitive mechanism and being ugly is not gonna kill you and you shouldn't be nervous at all since since you're not living any death-or-life situations and don't let anyone tell you how to feel and stuff. I know.
But seriously, who in the world doesn't care about other people's judgements?