paintedblue
Well-known member
I'd love it if I could do that! But when no one ever has made a move at you or finds you attractive, you just fall into 'see, I AM ugly' trap. What else could it be?
Well I see your point. Living in this culture its a bit hard. People have been since very young been told what to think by the media in regards to physical attractiveness. Other places on this planet have different standards like those cultures that find elongating their skulls attractive or placing rings around their necks to raise them, or binding their feet to make them extra small. My point is all these standards are relative. Ours is no different in that the 'standards' of beauty are set by the culture, and are not actually real.
So if you could somehow let it go, forget about what society defines as attractive, and just accept yourself as you are. And yes its tricky, but its the best way to tackle this.
It happened to me; as an impresionable teenager, I wanted to be like all those people on TV and magazines and made all sorts of crazy efforts to try to emulate them. Looking back its embarrassing what lengths I would go to do it, but later on i realized "what am I doing? I am spending way too much time and effort into trying to fit into this "standard" that I'm never going to achieve, what is the point?" I don't put nearly as much emphasis on my appearance as I used to, I still do care what other people think, and believe me I'm working on that.
I dream of a day when I no longer care what others think of me. That's the day I'll be completely free.