How do you react when someone approaches you romantically

Starchild

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A little off-topic, but when I was little I was in love with Simba from The Lion King. The grown-up version of him. Cartoonphilia AND Zoophilia all wrapped up into one freaky child. :D
 

MrJones

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Becaauuse... It makes me ~special~. :cool:
You mean...
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:D Sorry, it's Simpsons day, I don't know why XD
 

IGotSeoul

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But I know they are wanting something that I cannot give and something that makes me feel very uncomfortable with myself.

Absolutely..

While it can be flattering, there just isn't any room in my head to ponder the whereabouts and responsibility of a misadventurous relationship. I feel bad and uncomfortable because their feelings do not just appear at that exact moment upon realizing it, but were instead developed over a period of time with sometimes substantial emotional investment.

Even if I did embrace somebody else's feelings, I would continue doubting myself into an inevitable end. I feel that while it may be difficult to find a relationship, the real challenge is behind sustaining one when there is such a level of doubt in oneself.
 
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Seri

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I find that when I'm attracted to people I tend to automatically give them shorter and more clipped answers, and I act more aloof than I do with anyone else. In other words the more I want someone else to interact with me, the more difficult I make it for them to do so XD

Anyway, as for someone approaching me, I'll have my suspicions but will act normally until they confirm that they're interested. Usually this means I end up automatically agreeing to things before I can think about them (sure I'll meet you over there even though I don't really want to), and if I'm not interested I'll find an excuse to let them know that I'm not attracted to them (usually by letting them fill in the gaps and assume things so I don't have to lie or be horribly blunt).

It's incredibly and horribly awkward. So I'd say I react with my usual wanting to get out of the situation as soon as possible :p
 

alwaysrunning

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I've never believed that people will actually want something with me, it just seems unreasonable, thus on the few occassions that have happened i rationalize it one of two possible ways.

This person is merely making fun of me, because they know im an insecure dweeby nerd and they have been dared by someone else(in essence getting off on my embarrassment) ....................or...................they are nice people who think they are doing me a favor by being nce to me and feigning interest.

overall i just dont believe, why would attractive college guys(well just two in my life) show actual interest in me?
 

drganon

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In all honesty,I've never been approached romantically, but If I was, I'd probably end up shooing them off cause they're probably just playing some joke on me anyway.
 

Illusions

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I don't shy away from people who express romantic interest in me like I used to (not that I get approached a lot, that is). A definite improvement, haha.
 
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Imonie

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i would greet them back but usually very very fearful and nervous...mi heart races and i become very short spoken with them, and im sure that im making a fool of myself but i try to hide it. and i get a big relax when their gone but still anxious because ill be thinking about it allllllll day long! it's ridiculous!!!
 
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Beatrice

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I feel that while it may be difficult to find a relationship, the real challenge is behind sustaining one when there is such a level of doubt in oneself.

Yup yup yup. Many people want to "find someone", well..... how about "keeping someone"? That's probably the hardest part of all. And in the end, it probably won't work out anyway, not for as long as you'd plan for, so you have to prepare to say goodbye to them one day.

Okay, so that last part was extremely negative, but I think it's true. People don't really stay together. Eventually, it gets old and they move on. *shrug*

Don't have kids. lol
 

alspacka

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Apprehension. Thankfully, in this case my naivety knows no bounds, I rarely if ever realize someone's hitting on me, or is interested in me in a romantic fashion. I even had someone come up to me and kiss me on the cheek, and I thought it was just a greeting. I'm so horrible at this stuff.
 

CZi

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^Yeah! I'm terrible at recognizing it too. Horrendously, obliviously terribad. lol

So I rarely react, and if I do I guess kinda stunned? xD At this point I can't tell if it's because I'm oblivious, hints are too subtle for my silly male brain, or I'm simply not being approached. (Which seems the most logical)
 
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