Sartana
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So usually I deal with rudeness pretty well. If someone is rude to me when I'm in town I'll tell them where to go (or just ignore them as when you're with friends it's easy to do). When people are rude to me at work I usually tell them to try talk to me again but this time with some manners. I know it's snarky, but it works and reminds the rude customers that I am human.
So today rolls around and someone started insulting me because they didn't realise what the price was of a service (she was trying to swindle me for lower). The difference this time is my manager was near me, so I couldn't tell them to try politeness like i usually would and take control of the conversation again. I had to stop for 2 seconds to think of what to say, because I'm always stunned when someone is rude to me for no reason. Anyway, 2 seconds was apparently too long, so she says to me "What's the matter? Can't you talk? Are you going to ignore me?" By this time I'm absolutely fuming in my head but again I can't do anything. So then I get quiet because whatever I'm going to say will be absolutely the most awful things. First commenting on looks is unfair, secondly don't tell me to talk. So then my manager steps in.
So basically I had two problems, first I couldn't retaliate and secondly she was doing this to me in front of someone I knew. When people moan at me for having messed up I'm fine with it, but if someone is rude to me for no reason it's so unexpected that I just go quiet because I have nothing to say but terrible things in response. My co-workers bluff through it just fine, but I don't want to be nice to people like that and I never will be. I just go completely mute, I literally can't talk.
It shouldn't bother me as much as it did, but it sent my mind back 2 years to when I had SA for the whole day. I'd stutter when talking to friends, do stupid things and feel nervous all day. It sucked. I wasn't mad anymore, but because I couldn't show my frustration it sent my awkwardness through the roof.
So today rolls around and someone started insulting me because they didn't realise what the price was of a service (she was trying to swindle me for lower). The difference this time is my manager was near me, so I couldn't tell them to try politeness like i usually would and take control of the conversation again. I had to stop for 2 seconds to think of what to say, because I'm always stunned when someone is rude to me for no reason. Anyway, 2 seconds was apparently too long, so she says to me "What's the matter? Can't you talk? Are you going to ignore me?" By this time I'm absolutely fuming in my head but again I can't do anything. So then I get quiet because whatever I'm going to say will be absolutely the most awful things. First commenting on looks is unfair, secondly don't tell me to talk. So then my manager steps in.
So basically I had two problems, first I couldn't retaliate and secondly she was doing this to me in front of someone I knew. When people moan at me for having messed up I'm fine with it, but if someone is rude to me for no reason it's so unexpected that I just go quiet because I have nothing to say but terrible things in response. My co-workers bluff through it just fine, but I don't want to be nice to people like that and I never will be. I just go completely mute, I literally can't talk.
It shouldn't bother me as much as it did, but it sent my mind back 2 years to when I had SA for the whole day. I'd stutter when talking to friends, do stupid things and feel nervous all day. It sucked. I wasn't mad anymore, but because I couldn't show my frustration it sent my awkwardness through the roof.
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