How can ye all meet?

wiggles

Member
I thought everyone here has a social phobia yet your all mad to meet up with each other.
I get nervous just getting on the bus or walking down the street.
Couldnt imagine meeting up with strangers.

Have you got better over time? If so do you have any advice for those of us still struggling along?
 

mrb

Well-known member
I thought everyone here has a social phobia yet your all mad to meet up with each other.
I get nervous just getting on the bus or walking down the street.
Couldnt imagine meeting up with strangers.

Have you got better over time? If so do you have any advice for those of us still struggling along?

well if you chat for someone for long enough on here you get to know them pretty well , in fact its probably better than meeting someone in real life for a while , you would talk about things you wouldnt normaly talk about , be more honest about your feelings , your life ect ect so when you do meet you already know that person its just the meet up then :) but then you probably know what each other look like through shared pics ect ect ... i think its a good way to get to know someone through chat on here or any chat site .. the meet up is always a bit scary but the fact you know eachother already through lots of talking makes it easier , i know lol i did it , thats how i met my gf ..she was a chat room moderator on yahoo chat ;)
 

Devrium

Well-known member
Well I personally have no desire to meet anyone irl from here (yet).. I am too scared to venture outside and check my mail most days. That's not to say however that I might one day feel differently, if I were to get to know someone better and trust them and stuff. As mentioned before, we all are here united under a common issue and condition so it makes it easier for us to understand one another and feel less judged. I know that one of the reasons that I personally don't like going out in public and being around people is because I feel very judged by them and it makes me scared and uncomfortable. To feel safe with someone because they understand you, and you understand them, is a huge thing, especially when you have trust issues like me. But just because some people really want to get together irl doesn't mean all of us do...
 

Hello*22

Member
Ya, sure im too nervous to put a pick up of myself, for fear anyone might know me. i'd die with embarrasment. I dunno why, thats just the way im wired.
 

michaellipz

Active member
A good thing about an SA meetup is you can really be yourself. Yer all in the same boat - its not like theyre gonna judge you for bein' weird or shy or anythin'!

agree 100%. Ive never met someone who has SA but i think it would be really reassuring to be able to completely understand and be understood in that way
 

Badbuz

Well-known member
it does make it easir knowing the other people have sa even tho u wud be extremely anxious before the meet up but relax then wen realise the others are in the same boat.a meetup wnt cure u but at least u can be around other sa sufferers a little while and make sum conversation that doesnt have to be about sa ya can talk about anything really
 
Well It's sad that we all live so far away from eachother, if we didn't I'd love to have a meeting :D I would be anxious as hell but I think it would be a great day. And as everyone said, we're all in the same boat, so we have nothing to be embarassed about.
 

apollo

Well-known member
I feel like it would be awkward even though we would be in the same boat. We would both be thinking about it...well I definitely would. So I am not in any hurry to meet anyone on this site. Plus I would much rather be with someone who doesn't have anxiety.

I would hope that their confidence would rub off on me or that I could learn something from them.
 

Pink_Paula

Well-known member
I really like the idea of meeting up with other SA'ers. There's talk of a London meet soonish and i'm going to try my hardest to go along to it. We're all in the same position so it shouldn't be too hard, it will be awkward but no one will judge so that should make it a lot better!
 

Emily_G

Well-known member
People on stuttering forums talk about meeting up sometimes too. I don't think I could meet up with anyone from either this forum or the stuttering forums. I am very shy/avoid people, so that would be weird for the people who stutter....and I stutter, which may make some people here feel uncomfortable. :) I just don't fit in anywhere, lol, JK.
 

Badbuz

Well-known member
iv went anxiety management sessions and nobody realy talked in there to eachother in there because it was more like the therapist doin all the talking. but the galway meet up went well we talked and it was gud to do it
 
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