homework anxiety

cowboyup

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I've been down this road just last week. Sorry - repeat.

I have a journal due each week for class. First week, I freaked out - but with help from others here, I was able to do it.

Week two: I am completely in tears and frustrated because the teacher tells us to write down what we think others think of us, if we ask people (other than family) what they would think of our personality, relationships with others, etc.

Problem is, I can honestly say I do not have 'friends' I can go up to and ask about what they think of me. I can't exactly make this stuff up. I don't even know where to begin with ME, let alone what someone else might say - besides it would all come out negative.

I asked the teacher if I could do something else in place of this, but he doesn't get it..."just go up to some of your friends and ask them ...."

I really don't think this class is going to work out for me. At least not in the format he has it in. I mean if it were reading chapters in the book, doing a few research papers, some tests, I could do it, no problem, but all this 'feelings' and 'getting to know yourself' stuff is really throwing me off my game. lol

I know he means good, and the concept of it all is well and good, but it is - for some reason - not working for me.

Should I just go to the college Monday and drop this class and use that money to sign up for a different class?

This is stressing me out way too much for a simple college course!
 

ImNotMyIllness

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Exactly! Ask us! I think you're funny, intelligent, kind and honest. But, like the rest of us, you worry too much what other people think and get too easily entrapped by negative thinking. You're a, the glass is half full type of person, "BUT, OMG, I bet someone is going to drink the rest of it!"
 
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cowboyup

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thanks guys! I really appreciate the kind words of encouragement..makes my heart feel all fuzzy and stuff :giggle:

A lot of the stuff I have to answer on my own, self-test of personality and post results, that kind of thing but here's a couple things that you could possibly help give me some insight on:


Do you (your personality) change depending on external circumstances?

A fundamental truth about self-esteem is that it needs to come from within. When self- esteem is low, the deficiency creates a feeling of emptiness which you may try to fill by latching on – often compulsively – to something external that provides a temporary sense of satisfaction and fulfillment.

5. Have you ever felt this way? What have you latched on to so you feel better about yourself?


Exercise: The Johari Window

A Johari window is a psychological tool created by Joseph Luft and Harry Ingham in 1955 in the United States, used to help people better understand their interpersonal communication and relationships. It is used primarily in self-help groups and corporate settings as an heuristic exercise.
To perform the exercise, pick 5 or 6 adjectives from the following list that you feel describes your personality. Peers (friends) are then given the same list, and each pick five or six adjectives that describe you. (I'll do the map of course)These adjectives are then mapped onto the Johari grid. Here is the list of adjectives commonly used in a Johari exercise.
• able
• accepting
• adaptable
• bold
• brave
• calm
• caring
• cheerful
• clever
• complex
• confident • dependable
• dignified
• energetic
• extroverted
• friendly
• giving
• happy
• helpful
• idealistic
• independent
• ingenious • intelligent
• introverted
• kind
• knowledgeable
• logical
• loving
• mature
• modest
• nervous
• observant
• organized • patient
• powerful
• proud
• quiet
• reflective
• relaxed
• religious
• responsive
• searching
• self-assertive
• self-conscious • sensible
• sentimental
• shy
• silly
• sluty
• spontaneous
• sympathetic
• tense
• trustworthy
• warm
• wise
• witty
 

SoScared

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Here are my 6 adjectives to describe you:

searching
giving
helpful
idealistic
trustworthy
reflective
 

hardy

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just a thought...may be the things we do in life stop us from overcoming our fears/anxieties..? May be it was natural to have the fear...i was thinking yesterday, let me be with the fear....i am 31 and this fear has made my life hell...what if i let the fear be there...no fighting..!

Do what your teacher said..i mean what's the worse that can happen? Die, right? Believe me death is better than 12 yrs of anxiety....i think i want to see what happens when i don't escape the unpleasant things.i want to see what happens when i go and do things inspite of my severe anxiety...!!

Let me die....am sick of escaping.
 
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