Hey, I'm Natalie!

nnc321

nnc321

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...and I really do not know what I have:( Well, I do, but sometimes I think that I hit on every level of other diagnosis'.

My background:

I know that I have depression, ADHD, anxiety, social anxiety. I'm kinda a jack of all trades with this stuff. I'm 32 and moved to a new city with my hubby last year. I have no family (all deceased) and even though he has a small family I get very anxious around them and never speak to them on the phone. I avoid them. I've yet to meet one person. I'm very shy, introverted, and usually before when I've had to meet someone socially I've had to turn to alcohol. That is why I need to work on me. I do not want to be able to drink in order to meet others. I have a Facebook, but only about 4 real friends and they make me very nervous. I avoid phone calls and have went into isolation lately. I have no one to talk to. I don't have a best friend, except the hubby and we are together almost 24/7 as he works full time from home. I don't work as I'm currently expecting our first child. I don't want her to grow up like me, without friends. I would love to meet others that feel like me and work towards being more talkative. It's like I just don't know what to say.

So..in a nutshell that is me:) Hope this forum will help me succeed!
 
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Feathers

Well-known member
Hi Natalie! :) & Welcome!

I think you will be able to exchange tips with another possibly expecting father :)

This is a lot of changes in your life, so it's normal that you're still adapting.. I hope you are also working on nutrition, you have increased needs for vitamins and minerals now! :)

It would be good to find a support network in your town too, maybe look on MeetUp or see if there are local people here or on other forums? are there any groups for expecting moms in your area? you could meet some people there.. or if you have any hobbies or interests, maybe there are clubs or non-profits or such that would be very happy to have you among them!!

I'm also a 'jack of all trades' with regards to similar problems and some others, often they come together.. sometimes they all can be caused by not really appropriate nutrition and lifestyle too.. I'm still tweaking both too..

It's great you are working on this & fingers crossed all goes well!!
 
agoraphobickatie

agoraphobickatie

Well-known member
hii, welcome to the forum!

i think you should look at expecting your first baby as a huge blessing (well, it already is, but you know! :) lol) ..with a new baby, your life will change in a lot of ways, you'll become more focused on the baby than yourself, maybe that will allow you to just relax a little and not be bothered by what others may think.. and you'll be doing all kinds of new things with baby and going places, maybe it'll lead you to meet new people :) and maybe you could find some kind of prenatal class to take with your hubby to help you get out and meet others! hopefully you'll find lots of good advice here, too! best wishes to you and your little cupcake in the oven! :)
 
Hottie

Hottie

Well-known member
Hi and welcome to SPW :)

Firstly, congratulations on the baba. He/she will be the biggest joy in you life. So enjoy every moment of it. There will be stress and pressure but i believe you are strong enough to cope with this, coz it has to be done!!! But dont the the stresses run you down. If you can notice when you are starting to feel stressed out, take a break, do something to enjoy, take you mind off whatever it is that is stresing you, try relaxation or deep breathing (only a few ideas of plently, if you need stress busting tips, i am the person to turn to ha!)

Secondly, about medicating with alcohol. This is something i am all to familiar with. but i have unfortunatly gotten myself into a sticky situation over medicating with it. I have been drinking from a very young age (dont know when you began) but becoz of that my tolerance towards alcohol has rocketed and now it takes me very large quantities to get drunk. So for me now i have to consume much more alcohol before i can even go out. I dont know about your drinking (how much, how often etc.) but i just wanted to give you a quick warning about the way it can creep into a problem. I am only 21 and i have a drinking problem, i am in the late stages of alcoholism. So i thought drugs was my problem, now i have drink to battle with too. Im not lecturing you or anything, just wanted to warn you of how quicklyand quietly it can creep up on. Also becoz you have begun to medicate with it, it is sooo much harder not to do the same thing the next time.

Take Care, and Best of Luck to You :)
 
mr.jimbo

mr.jimbo

Active member
Welcome to SPW

I have the EXACT diagnosed you have; Depression, ADD/ADHD, and Anxiety or Social Phobia. It also links to my learning disability with ADD so i really have a hard time getting myself motivated and being consistent at school. I wonder if you have learning disability. I feel like i can make conversation but i fear of how i communicate myself. Even when i try not to worry so much what to say and go with the flow, i still think i sound like a fob at times. I try to be aware what i say or just about everything i do because i can be irrelevant when my mind have million things going on that i can't straighten my thoughts out and say it in a very cohesive way. that is why im quiet most of the time when i meet people in real life. also, there are times when my mind goes blank and i dont know what to say. i have this on and off switch where it depends on how my mind, body, and soul is reacting and functioning; more like being bipolar. but yeah i dont want to start believing i have this and that to add up my problems to feel more vulnerable until i see some doctors and be thoroughly tested. It's just something i like monitor or be aware of myself. My brain likes to play tricks on me. =)
 
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