LookingForward
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The Setup: My (x)partner has recently (in a round about way) admitted to using me for years for my money and other things.
We have a kid together and have been on relatively good terms since our split a few years ago. I currently voluntarily pay her a lot of money to ensure our daughter is well taken care of although I know she wastes a lot of it on herself.
The Problem:
I find myself at complete conflict within my mind.
- Part of me can't bear being mean in any way and is telling me to leave things the way they are.
- The other side of me is so angry at what I have learned that I want to just erase her from my life. I can't even look at her without feeling myself boil inside.
I know the "normal" thing to do would be to just tell her exactly what I think of someone who can treat people that way and to cut the money flow to a minimum, but as we all know I'm not "normal" and even though I haven't even done anything yet I'm already feeling guilty at the thought of doing it.
I know protecting myself is the right thing to do even though it requires me to almost be the kind of person I don't like, the one that puts themselves first and F##k everyone else.
I can't look at her, but I think unless I do something I won't be able to look at myself either...
We have a kid together and have been on relatively good terms since our split a few years ago. I currently voluntarily pay her a lot of money to ensure our daughter is well taken care of although I know she wastes a lot of it on herself.
The Problem:
I find myself at complete conflict within my mind.
- Part of me can't bear being mean in any way and is telling me to leave things the way they are.
- The other side of me is so angry at what I have learned that I want to just erase her from my life. I can't even look at her without feeling myself boil inside.
I know the "normal" thing to do would be to just tell her exactly what I think of someone who can treat people that way and to cut the money flow to a minimum, but as we all know I'm not "normal" and even though I haven't even done anything yet I'm already feeling guilty at the thought of doing it.
I know protecting myself is the right thing to do even though it requires me to almost be the kind of person I don't like, the one that puts themselves first and F##k everyone else.
I can't look at her, but I think unless I do something I won't be able to look at myself either...