Have you given up?
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Hellhound
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Take this with a pinch of salt. He might have lied to you.
One doesn't "turn homosexual", you're born like that. He either was bisexual, he's lying or he's dating men just because, which is less likely if he's straight in the first place. It makes no sense.
Hellhound
Super Moderator
So you discard those good stories only because they aren't "in real life"? Then how are you going to find insight if the number of people you talk to is limited and, unfortunately, they all had bad experiences, which is not helping your case?
Besides, this 98% of unhappy people... how many are they? Tell me an exact number.
thegunners21
Well-known member
I'm sorry but I don't agree with this. What if conforming is good for you. Can't just rule out something automatically because then you'd be "conforming". That actions seems devoid of any thinking.
You analyze every situation, and decide if you want conform or not depending on how advantageous it would be for you to conform.
A friend
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I don't have the money to move to somewhere else, where there's different sorts of people, and ones that have histories of successful, civilized relationships.
The answer to this question is obvious.
26, out of the people I know in real life. They all say that they don't plan on getting married, and that their relationships were miserable as f***.
Richey
Well-known member
Haven't given up, but i am usually doubtful about most opportunities, however small. I had a much easier time asking female friends out on dates that i'd known through something like sports, education, hobby groups. That stopped around 5 years ago after quite a few attempts that didn't work out. Out of 5 of those dates, 4 of those girls ended up with the guy they truly wanted to go out with, but were just happy to go on a date because they liked me, but maybe i wasn't considered boyfriend material, who knows.
The last 5 years it went from me happy to ask out on dates to feeling lucky if i simply felt a hint of spark or connection or just a little bit of flirting and seeing that as a major success. So things have really gone down hill, and now i can't imagine asking anyone out. Because most of the girls i've ever known, friends, acquenatences, people, tend to go for the guy who is the complete package, or to an extent. I won't say superficial, but certainly, they seem to like the status quo.
But i still hold out that one day i'll meet my destined future girlfriend. somehow.
For some reason from the early 2000s to the mid 2000s i was way more willing to try initiating friendships and dates, but i think because those attempts didn't lead to long term relationships, it really startled me a bit, so now i just wait for it to happen without me doing the work, which hasn't worked..
I think knowing that i've had dates before, and brief relationships, somehow gives me a glimpse that it can be done. But i still find it very difficult.
The last 5 years it went from me happy to ask out on dates to feeling lucky if i simply felt a hint of spark or connection or just a little bit of flirting and seeing that as a major success. So things have really gone down hill, and now i can't imagine asking anyone out. Because most of the girls i've ever known, friends, acquenatences, people, tend to go for the guy who is the complete package, or to an extent. I won't say superficial, but certainly, they seem to like the status quo.
But i still hold out that one day i'll meet my destined future girlfriend. somehow.
For some reason from the early 2000s to the mid 2000s i was way more willing to try initiating friendships and dates, but i think because those attempts didn't lead to long term relationships, it really startled me a bit, so now i just wait for it to happen without me doing the work, which hasn't worked..
I think knowing that i've had dates before, and brief relationships, somehow gives me a glimpse that it can be done. But i still find it very difficult.
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