Iseesky
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There's been so many people that I've pushed away for various reasons (mostly my fault for being insecure and having social anxiety), but I miss them so much.
It's easy to just send them a message on facebook and be like 'Hey *****! How are things going with you? I heard *blahblahblahblah*...Anyway, I was just thinking that it's been so long since we last spoke and figured I'd ask how things were!'
But then that's where things start to develop and that's where the anxiety comes in. Ideally I'd like to get our relationship back. Go from not talking at all to hanging out occasionally. But, that scares me and takes me back to why I'm not friends with these people anymore. Not because I don't like them...Not because they don't like me...But because I get nervous when I'm with them. I guess I think very highly of them and feel like I'm not good enough to hang out with them. Or that if I were to meet their current friends I'd be awkward and we wouldn't get along and I'd be the outcast and they'd be ashamed of me and blahblahblah.
I want to be a normal person. Someone who goes to parties...I don't have to drink...Just go to socialize with the people I know and listen to music and have fun. But then I fear someone will be there that will make me anxious (whether it be someone that I'm not fond of or just a stranger) and I'll make a fool of myself.
I just feel so ashamed of myself sometimes and I think that's what stops me from making and keeping friends. It's easier for me to be alone (or with the few friends I've managed to keep) and free of anxiety than to be put into anxiety causing situations everytime we hang out.
And then there's the thought that they might not want to associate with me anymore. I should mention that it's probably been 1-3 years since I've had a real conversation with any of these people.
TL;DR: So...Question...Have you ever attempted to reconnect with an old friend? How did you do it? Facebook? Over the phone? In person? How did it go? Were things very different? Advice for me?
It's easy to just send them a message on facebook and be like 'Hey *****! How are things going with you? I heard *blahblahblahblah*...Anyway, I was just thinking that it's been so long since we last spoke and figured I'd ask how things were!'
But then that's where things start to develop and that's where the anxiety comes in. Ideally I'd like to get our relationship back. Go from not talking at all to hanging out occasionally. But, that scares me and takes me back to why I'm not friends with these people anymore. Not because I don't like them...Not because they don't like me...But because I get nervous when I'm with them. I guess I think very highly of them and feel like I'm not good enough to hang out with them. Or that if I were to meet their current friends I'd be awkward and we wouldn't get along and I'd be the outcast and they'd be ashamed of me and blahblahblah.
I want to be a normal person. Someone who goes to parties...I don't have to drink...Just go to socialize with the people I know and listen to music and have fun. But then I fear someone will be there that will make me anxious (whether it be someone that I'm not fond of or just a stranger) and I'll make a fool of myself.
I just feel so ashamed of myself sometimes and I think that's what stops me from making and keeping friends. It's easier for me to be alone (or with the few friends I've managed to keep) and free of anxiety than to be put into anxiety causing situations everytime we hang out.
And then there's the thought that they might not want to associate with me anymore. I should mention that it's probably been 1-3 years since I've had a real conversation with any of these people.
TL;DR: So...Question...Have you ever attempted to reconnect with an old friend? How did you do it? Facebook? Over the phone? In person? How did it go? Were things very different? Advice for me?
