have you ever met another Social Phobe IRL?
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Yes, the only other social phobe I met in IRL is my sibling, who happens to also be paranoid, aggressive and irrational - not a good combo! I live with him too which makes things a bit awkward. I have yet to meet a social phobe who is not paranoid, aggressive, or irrational.
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Livemylife
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I've probably met a few. But how would I know? I'm no expert in reading humans.
Ironically, I googled about this guy in my lab who I've written on here about before (about shy, lonely guys who seem to like me). His behavior is getting weirder, kind of embarrassing. So I googled "why is this guy terrified of talking to me." (I don't want him to talk to me, I'm just baffled by his practically jumping in his seat and jittery behavior.) Well one of the first results is from social phobia world. At first I wondered if google gave me that result because I'm on here a lot lol. Well yeah clicked on it and read through it, and the situation was kind of similar to mine. It became obvious the guy has social anxiety or some personality disorder. I would have pegged him as shy, weird but I never considered a psychological condition.
Ironically, I googled about this guy in my lab who I've written on here about before (about shy, lonely guys who seem to like me). His behavior is getting weirder, kind of embarrassing. So I googled "why is this guy terrified of talking to me." (I don't want him to talk to me, I'm just baffled by his practically jumping in his seat and jittery behavior.) Well one of the first results is from social phobia world. At first I wondered if google gave me that result because I'm on here a lot lol. Well yeah clicked on it and read through it, and the situation was kind of similar to mine. It became obvious the guy has social anxiety or some personality disorder. I would have pegged him as shy, weird but I never considered a psychological condition.
JohnnAY
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I'm sure we run into plenty as we go about our day. I think everybody has some degree of social anxiety, it's just a matter of how well they function.
No doubt I've run into soft-spoken, shy people at school/work, but I would never straight up ask them if they're a social phobe. The few I have suspected, interacting with them didn't quite result in the greatest of connections. Neither of us wanted to take the lead on a subject matter, and the conversation really went nowhere...
No doubt I've run into soft-spoken, shy people at school/work, but I would never straight up ask them if they're a social phobe. The few I have suspected, interacting with them didn't quite result in the greatest of connections. Neither of us wanted to take the lead on a subject matter, and the conversation really went nowhere...
lilmutegirl
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I have two friends with whom I used to work who are social phobes as well. I think people would be pretty surprised that they have anxiety. I know I was surprised when I found out. They appear much more comfortable than I am in many situations.
Entangled
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Actually I saw one of my classmates in a social anxiety group meeting whom I would have NEVER guessed had social anxiety. She always seemed so energetic and talkative, and I aspired to be like her.
It just goes to show that all the negative aspects about yourself that you worry about, and that you believe that others think about you and see in you, are not really what they are thinking or even noticing about you at all! It's all in your own head.
It just goes to show that all the negative aspects about yourself that you worry about, and that you believe that others think about you and see in you, are not really what they are thinking or even noticing about you at all! It's all in your own head.
Taden
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I think if you happen to meet a fellow sociaphobe, that can potentially be both the most rewarding and uniquely understood friendship you can develop. In group therapy in my teens was when I met my still now present friends. Out of every individual and group of people in my life that have left me due to my inabilities to function socially, my true blue AMAZING friends stuck with me. Its understood by both individuals why sometimes your not heard from for stretches of time or when you are quiet while spending time with them there isn't a press for external communication, its internally understood between both people why there is a silence. The only people who are able to and/or willing to understand mental illness is those other individuals affected by it as well.