MagicPotion
Well-known member
+1
From the age of about 25 onward when my SA got bad I just lied through my teeth constantly. Thankfully I went out just about enough to keep my mates but I only went to their houses, almost never to social stuff unless I could get horribly drunk (and I usually made an ass of myself as a result).
Now I'm stuck in a new town, my SA is way better but my friends are 100s of miles away. I lost contact with the few new friends I'd made when I lost my job last week :
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Now I'm getting my well-earned comeuppance, I miss my friends like hell and my only conversations I ever have are by telephone or internet now.
My ex knew about my social problems and said "you can refuse to do anything I ask you too" but I never did.
I forced myself to go to all the family stuff. Her family HATED me and it was a big reason we split. If I'd actually bailed on a lot of it I might have not annoyed her family so much by being shy and tongue-tied around them, which obviously = I'm a snob and I hate them.
Agree OP that you need to let the BF know if you can and be honest about what you can and can't do, it's just easier in the long run. Making yourself go to stuff when you're not comfortable isn't fair on you, and maybe it's best to try and make him understand somehow.
From the age of about 25 onward when my SA got bad I just lied through my teeth constantly. Thankfully I went out just about enough to keep my mates but I only went to their houses, almost never to social stuff unless I could get horribly drunk (and I usually made an ass of myself as a result).
Now I'm stuck in a new town, my SA is way better but my friends are 100s of miles away. I lost contact with the few new friends I'd made when I lost my job last week :
Now I'm getting my well-earned comeuppance, I miss my friends like hell and my only conversations I ever have are by telephone or internet now.
My ex knew about my social problems and said "you can refuse to do anything I ask you too" but I never did.
I forced myself to go to all the family stuff. Her family HATED me and it was a big reason we split. If I'd actually bailed on a lot of it I might have not annoyed her family so much by being shy and tongue-tied around them, which obviously = I'm a snob and I hate them.
Agree OP that you need to let the BF know if you can and be honest about what you can and can't do, it's just easier in the long run. Making yourself go to stuff when you're not comfortable isn't fair on you, and maybe it's best to try and make him understand somehow.