Have you ever asked a stranger out on a date

[KiaKaha]

Just wondering really. I have 3 times, but they have been pretty awkward. One time was a girl on the bus and I didnt have the courage to say anything to her so I wrote a letter to her and handed it over when I got off with my phone number... she actually sent me a message saying she had a boyfriend (naturally) but was flattered.

So has anyone here? How did it go?

 

[vj288]

I have not, and can't see myself ever doing so. Even without SA it seems funny doing that, but maybe I advocate "friends" first too strongly.

 

[EasySkanking]

Only once. I met this super cool chick once. Come to think of it, it's the only time I have made a "move". I asked her for the time, she told me it and then smiled. I looked back at her and she looked back again. Guess she could tell I was shy when I immediately looked away. She still continued to talk to me though - thank God she did all the hard work , I was talking but mostly just small phrases or nods.

Things went well while we were talking (met her on the trolley) - she had very similar interests as me. I gathered up the courage to ask her number and she gladly gave it to me (even showed it to me straight from her phone ). Anyway, I pretty much ruined it due to my SA... it was severe at that time and I guess I just bored her to death on the phone :/. Oh well, not much I could've done, my SA was pretty bad that even if she continued to talk to me, I would've screwed it up eventually .

Still, worth remembering

 

[dreamer78]

Never, and I don't think I would ever have the courage to do so. And if I ever did I can't imagine it would end very well for obvious reasons

 

[coyote]

I have a couple of times - the last time was 3 years ago

we're still dating

 

[Obstacle 1]

I haven't tried it yet, I think the potential is there if the situation is right.. e.g. a girl I spoke to randomly in a queue because she happened to be alone and made a comment. It was that kind of casual and light type of conversation where you could say it jokingly and see how you went, I really wish I did then ::

 

[HeadFace]

Eh.. Not much of a stranger. But the girl and I were only distant friends. I finally got the courage to ask her to hang out, though. And things escalated from there

By the way, this note. What'd it say?

 

[KiaKaha]

I cant remember what my note said exactly. It was a long time ago. I think I said something about her hair, she looked like a punk/emo girl..and that I thought she would be interesting to get to know better..cant remember how I worded it or the specifics of what I said...I timed it so that it was my last day catching the bus because I was getting a car the day after...it was very strategic..

 

[IAMN]

1. lost my virginity
2. she said she had a boyfriend

 

[Emma03]

I introduced myself to this guy I used to have a crush on when I was in school. I made a complete fool of myself...kept babbling on about who knows what. A friend was with me, and she was so embarrassed...I was really surprised that I had the guts to do it though.

 

[lonely_drummer]

never have and probably never will. I find that when someone asks a complete stranger out, all the qualifications are applied to just looks. Since you are complete stranger she doesn't know your personality at all, so her answer will most likely be based 100% on looks and yeah, I don't really have that going for me at all.

 

[XRenato]

Have you ever asked a stranger out on a date

Yes, many times. But I haven't got anything.

 

[Jamovik]

NEVER.

1. lost my virginity
2. she said she had a boyfriend

In that order? ::

How did you react?

 

[Acegame]

On vacation once when i was 15 there was some kind of campingtrip planned. It was possible to signup for it. There was a girl who liked me, and actually i liked her very much too so i asked her to come to the campingtrip with her girlfriend (i was with a friend too). Still proud of my self allthough it wasnt an actual date, but its the closest i came But it wasnt a complete stranger and i think that is what you mean. In the beginning it went fine, but it started to get akward. That probably had to do with me getting more and more anxious. And then i just dont know what to talk about anymore and it goes from bad to worse. I always am like this with girls i like and thats why i dont ask people out. Im not that scared for asking someone, but for what is going to happen next. The ice doesnt break and i get more anxious when time passes. I hate this.....................

 

[Emma03]

And then i just dont know what to talk about anymore and it goes from bad to worse.

I hate when this happens, and can relate. For me, it feels like so much pressure to keep "good conversation" going and if it doesn't go well, I feel like I am boring and keep thinking that the person must think I'm a loser. I always blame myself!!

 

[Sial Axetder]

Conflict. Two magnets, same side, force together, repel each other. A stranger asking stranger for date. As fascinating as this sounds, shocking it may be to the system.
Locked. Stranger, stranger, I think not.