going to church

[LazyHermitCrab]

So i'm not really religious but sorta spiritual, depends on the day lol (agnostic), but I go to church since my bf does and it's really important to him. He knows I don't really believe in certain things but he wants me to go for support and be social since it's healthy I guess. I just hate singing so mouth sing and not only that but we go with a group of his friends and it's been really hard socially. I noticed some churches don't require a lot of singing and the last pastor didn't make me fall asleep and kept it interesting and undemonational, but the one we go to mostly is a bunch of singing and the pastor is kind of very odd to me. I'm afraid if people found out I was agnostic at this church they would be really pissed off which makes me uncomfortable. Although who knows they might already know sorta. His family goes there. I guess if you went to church more when you were younger it would be easier to go to the more conservative one, but I still don't like singing so yeah. How is it for you if you go/gone? This answer applies to any religious get together but i'm not sure you always have to sing and everything? This is meant to be a respectful post hopefully or please delete

 

[Section_31]

My wife is very spiritual, and has been going to church since she was little. she also hates the singing and the greeting and the handshakes, I do too.

Were not very regular about going, ANd i for one say theres absolutely nothing wrong with how you feel. The way you feel isnt right or wrong, it just is.

I personally dont get into it the way other people do. I can talk to whatever i believe it regardless of whether im in a church or not, but sometimes i find it makes me think, sometimes i like hearing historical accounts, but thats about it for me.

You can relax herm, i dont think your going to offend anyone with this .

 

[Kinetik]

My fiancee likes to go to church a few times a year, but I wasn't raised religiously at all so I feel strange even going in. I don't mind doing it for her though, it's just a little uncomfortable for me since I'm not too familiar with the whole rigmarole. I don't sing, I just hold the hymn book up like I know what I'm doing, and stand and sit when everyone else does. A few months back I wound up having to go up and eat the bread/drink the wine because there was a really overweight lady behind me and she couldn't squeeze past me in the pew. That was a bit awkward.

 

[Azael]

churches today are deeply corrupt, very occult driven. They operate under false doctrine and twist scriptures. This is under a global scheme to draw all religions into a single world religious system to couple a single global political and financial system. It's how Catholocism came around, the melding of pagan and christian doctrine. It was very well known that to bind religions is a very important step in conquering and binding people under one system. In short, it would be an insult to your intelligence to listen to them; unless they are an exceptionally rare case that is scripturally sound. If you so wish to look further into this, you can completely bamboozle your boyfriends with hundreds of reasons not to go to church. It would place his loyalty to his faith into question. The ball in his court. Besides, going to church no more makes you a Christian than sitting in a garage makes you a car!

 

[coyote]

i have found that it's generally not accepted

to bring a cooler full of beer

 

[Hoppy]

The only nice bit about church is that they are not nasty to you in your face.

I went to church every Sunday until I was 25. I hated every single moment of it.

If you can manage it I would recommend it for the social side. I read recently that about 20% of the atheists in the US take their children to church so that they can belong to a community.

 

[Aletheia]

I just hate singing

I love singing. I find it very spiritual. I sometimes go to Christmas carol services just for the singing, although I do feel like an interloper since I'm not officially "Christian".

I once snuck interlopingly into Midnight Mass at Saint Mark's Bascilica in Venice, and the choir boys up somewhere in the gilded vaults sounded like angels.

If you can manage it I would recommend it for the social side. I read recently that about 20% of the atheists in the US take their children to church so that they can belong to a community.

That doesn't surprise me. I have an uncle who goes to church every Sunday, despite the fact that he doesn't believe in "God". He simply enjoys spending time and talking with other people for whom a meaningful, ethical life is important.

 

[spider04]

I used to go to the church with my mom and sister but I stopped, I can't socialize with anyone, it felt horrible being there. Though I used to play with the other kids from the church when i was a little boy.
And I don't think i'm a believer anymore...

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

My wife is very spiritual, and has been going to church since she was little. she also hates the singing and the greeting and the handshakes, I do too.

Were not very regular about going, ANd i for one say theres absolutely nothing wrong with how you feel. The way you feel isnt right or wrong, it just is.

I personally dont get into it the way other people do. I can talk to whatever i believe it regardless of whether im in a church or not, but sometimes i find it makes me think, sometimes i like hearing historical accounts, but thats about it for me.

You can relax herm, i dont think your going to offend anyone with this .

Yeah I think it's kind of interesting as well Does she manage to sing anyway, since not giving a handshake back would be a little rude to ignore? My bf actually watches to see if i'm singing so it's annoying :: lol

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

My fiancee likes to go to church a few times a year, but I wasn't raised religiously at all so I feel strange even going in. I don't mind doing it for her though, it's just a little uncomfortable for me since I'm not too familiar with the whole rigmarole. I don't sing, I just hold the hymn book up like I know what I'm doing, and stand and sit when everyone else does. A few months back I wound up having to go up and eat the bread/drink the wine because there was a really overweight lady behind me and she couldn't squeeze past me in the pew. That was a bit awkward.

I think some religious people think if you werent born into it, it can be easy to just get this powerful faith from going to chuch a couple times, if it's someone your dating. I mean sure for some but it's rare I would think. That's a funny story though, at least you got food; bread and wine is delicious!!

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

churches today are deeply corrupt, very occult driven. They operate under false doctrine and twist scriptures. This is under a global scheme to draw all religions into a single world religious system to couple a single global political and financial system. It's how Catholocism came around, the melding of pagan and christian doctrine. It was very well known that to bind religions is a very important step in conquering and binding people under one system. In short, it would be an insult to your intelligence to listen to them; unless they are an exceptionally rare case that is scripturally sound. If you so wish to look further into this, you can completely bamboozle your boyfriends with hundreds of reasons not to go to church. It would place his loyalty to his faith into question. The ball in his court. Besides, going to church no more makes you a Christian than sitting in a garage makes you a car!

Lol nice last sentance I still think going to church shows more effort than someone who doesn't though, unless the church is crazy then forget it. I never went to a catholic chuch before, not sure what the difference is really.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

i have found that it's generally not accepted

to bring a cooler full of beer

bring a cooler of red wine then

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

The only nice bit about church is that they are not nasty to you in your face.

I went to church every Sunday until I was 25. I hated every single moment of it.

If you can manage it I would recommend it for the social side. I read recently that about 20% of the atheists in the US take their children to church so that they can belong to a community.

Sometimes I think people are really nice but wonder if it's for real or not Lol might be once of the 20%, jk. If I have kids, my future kids can do a drama camp or something....

 

[OceanMist]

The last time I went to church was really weird. The church I went to was way too small and they didn't have enough seats for everyone. The people were nice, but they were all way older than me. I was like the one youngster there, and I was 24 at the time.

I've been considering going to church, just so I can make friends. I guess I haven't had the courage to follow through with that.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I love singing. I find it very spiritual. I sometimes go to Christmas carol services just for the singing, although I do feel like an interloper since I'm not officially "Christian".

I once snuck interlopingly into Midnight Mass at Saint Mark's Bascilica in Venice, and the choir boys up somewhere in the gilded vaults sounded like angels.



That doesn't surprise me. I have an uncle who goes to church every Sunday, despite the fact that he doesn't believe in "God". He simply enjoys spending time and talking with other people for whom a meaningful, ethical life is important.

I just feel weird singing because I always mouthed it, in elementary chorus yearrrrs ago. I know how to sing but it's hard in front of people. People are either ethical at church or just go "sorry, did it again conscious cleared" and does it again but just some.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

I used to go to the church with my mom and sister but I stopped, I can't socialize with anyone, it felt horrible being there. Though I used to play with the other kids from the church when i was a little boy.
And I don't think i'm a believer anymore...

There's nothing to lose if you believe

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

The last time I went to church was really weird. The church I went to was way too small and they didn't have enough seats for everyone. The people were nice, but they were all way older than me. I was like the one youngster there, and I was 24 at the time.

I've been considering going to church, just so I can make friends. I guess I haven't had the courage to follow through with that.

Weird so where did everyone sit? Do you have someone you could go with? I see individuals all the time though

 

[Charmed]

The Church I went to was a Pentecostal Church; they would get up and jump around. I brought attention to myself (or at least I think I did) because I was the only one that wouldn't. I would just sit there and listen. It got awkward for even me after a while, so I just stopped going ...

 

[OceanMist]

Weird so where did everyone sit? Do you have someone you could go with? I see individuals all the time though

I went by myself like the loser that I am. Some people were standing.

I just went to the wrong church. I need to go to a bigger one.

 

[vj288]

I went to a Catholic Church up until right before I was confirmed, so about 17 years. When I was younger I loved to sing loud and out-of-key, but as I got older and quieter I stopped, it's not a big deal if you don't. Half the people around you are probably mouthing the words anyway ::

I don't think people would mind if they knew you were agnostic, depending on the church, but I think in general as long as you're respectful it's an accepting community. If you tell them they may try to convert you though ::.