GLBT People? I Need Friends.

[lyricalliaisons]

It's taking a lot of courage to post this because I'm really putting myself out there.

I'm 30 years old, a lesbian (although I occasionally have crushes on girly gay guys and male characters on TV shows), and COMPLETELY inexperienced and COMPLETELY isolated from the GLBT community. I have an informal diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome as well as severe social anxiety and agoraphobia which has kept me from ever having any sort of romantic relationship with anyone. I have never even kissed anyone, let alone anything else. I have no real life friends and no gay friends, save for one online acquaintance who is a lesbian and one former online friend who is bisexual. I live in a town in Ohio where there is one gay bar (that I know of) but I would be too afraid to go to it.

Well, my reason for writing this is that I would like to get to know more gay people. I would like to make some gay friends. Male or female (or otherwise) does not matter to me. My therapist suggested that I try to make gay friends when I saw her last week and I know she's right. This is my attempt. I hope I can make some friends from this site. It would be really great if some people live nearby and we could eventually meet. That's just a dream, but I'd be really happy to make even online friends who are far away. Even if the friendships exist only in cyber land, that's fine with me. It's still a step in the right direction and will make me feel less isolated.

So. That was it. I hope I get some replies or some messages from people.
Thanks for reading

 

[EscapeArtist]

Hey there. I'm really saddened to hear your situation. It must be difficult to have no invvolvement in that pat of your life. I'm suffering with a very similar situation. It's rare to have friends, let alone gay friends? Despite being a lesbian, that scene seems scary and alien. Youre not the only one i also have agorophobia.

The suggestion made by your therapist to make gay friends is a really good one. Also pursuing it by posting this, i give you great kudos. I'll be your friend i dont think i live near you but id love to talk to you more seeing our situation is so similar

 

[lyricalliaisons]

Hey there. I'm really saddened to hear your situation. It must be difficult to have no invvolvement in that pat of your life. I'm suffering with a very similar situation. It's rare to have friends, let alone gay friends? Despite being a lesbian, that scene seems scary and alien. Youre not the only one i also have agorophobia.

The suggestion made by your therapist to make gay friends is a really good one. Also pursuing it by posting this, i give you great kudos. I'll be your friend i dont think i live near you but id love to talk to you more seeing our situation is so similar

Thanks You can message me anytime. I would message you, but I'm nervous lol.

 

[miserablecow]

Hi...

I'm kind of in a similar situation, though my SA isn't on the extreme side. I too have been finding it hard to make friends in the LGBT world (well friends in general too). I have been trying to attend social groups etc to try, but I end up not being social able or not talk to anyone and just stare and listen. I identify as bi by the way and haven't been able to explore it either, But I'm still determined to.

I think what you are doing is great and hope you're able to make friends on here and if you want to talk further etc I am here, even though I live very far away.

 

[How_slow_the_Wind]

Hey there. Gay male here. I've been to the gay scene a little bit but I also don't have any GLBT friends, although I personally think its that big a deal. Altohugh sometimes you can feel like a minority within a minority.

 

[Nutbar]

I applaud your courage and offer my friendship though I feel inadequate.

 

[neardeath]

big ol' dyke here. LOL 54. In Minnesota. Nice to meet you!


(Sorry for the slang, but since we just had our victory here in Minnesota, I felt like coming out with a bang.)

(now I am extremely anxious) Somebody, say something!