girls..jealous when bf talks to another girl?

[enchantress24]

Is this normal?? I have the most amazing bf who tells me how much he likes me but yet I get so jealous when he mentions other girls or when he talks to other girls. He tells me i can trust him but its just this horrible nagging feeling i get when i picture him talkin to any of his female friends. it literally throws me onto a full on panic attack.

 

[Remus]

You need to get a grip or you will destroy the relationship, I hope he dose not realise you don't trust him, that can be damaging. It is not normal but not that rare either, I doubt it is any kind of mental health issue, I dated someone for 3 years who was extremely jealous, in the end she was jealous of any attention I got even off male freinds. I had enough eventually and I ended it

 

[redski]

Just as the others have said. You do not own him. Jealousy and possessiveness
usually go hand in hand.

 

[PennyLane]

I'm like this its not good. I simply don't trust men.

 

[klytus]

I'm like this its not good. I simply don't trust men.

Why don't you trust men? That's a very generalized statement. Many humans are untrustworthy, however, certainly not all of them.

 

[PennyLane]

Why don't you trust men? That's a very generalized statement. Many humans are untrustworthy, however, certainly not all of them.

I meant in terms of cheating.

My dad cheated on my mum and my step mum (in fact i found out I had a sister when i was 13)

My grandad cheated on my gran several times for years

My boyfriends have cheated on me.

Most of my male friends I know have cheated on their girlfriends. One with me (yes im very ashamed of this, even if i never met the girl)

Also my dad told me once that every time he went on football trips every guy would get with a girl whether they had someone back home or not. He told me women shouldn't trust men.

 

[PennyLane]

oh and as well as finding i had a sister from my dads affair, i also found out just a few years ago that I have an aunt only 2 years older than me from my grandads affair

 

[klytus]

If someone in a relationship feels a necessity to look for sexual gratification - or of any other kind - somewhere else, then there is something majorly wrong with the relationship. In my opinion, in that case it's best to just split up instead of cheating on one's partner, since, obviously, it doesn't work as desired.

 

[PennyLane]

If someone in a relationship feels a necessity to look for sexual gratification - or of any other kind - somewhere else, then there is something majorly wrong with the relationship. In my opinion, in that case it's best to just split up instead of cheating on one's partner, since, obviously, it doesn't work as desired.

I completely agree, unfortunately that doesn't seem to always happen.

 

[PennyLane]

Just wanted to say sorry for hijacking your thread there and also although I struggle with trust I really think its very important to have it. No relationship works without it!

Hope you manage to get over this feeling

 

[redski]

Just wanted to say sorry for hijacking your thread there and also although I struggle with trust I really think its very important to have it. No relationship works without it!

Hope you manage to get over this feeling

Damn PennyLane I feel bad for you hearing all that.
Do you think that your SA might have stemmed from the lack
of trust with the men in your life?

 

[PennyLane]

Damn PennyLane I feel bad for you hearing all that.
Do you think that your SA might have stemmed from the lack
of trust with the men in your life?

Might have a point red Like Estella from Great Expectations

 

[Remus]

Miss Haversham has alot to answer for!

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

I have to admit that I do get jealous when we walk by a beautiful girl or we see a beautiful girl in magazines and on TV. I'd probably be a bit jealous if he were to talk to one of those girls, but I wouldn't tell him not to. This is an issue even for people who normally have no issues.

If I am ever talking to a couple, I make sure that I acknowledge the woman as well as the man because I don't want to be a threat or make the woman feel bad. An ex coworker and his wife were behind me at the register at the supermarket. He always initiates the talking whenever we see them and she always gives me a really nasty look. One time I just stared at her dumbfounded because she was just glaring at me like I had done God knows what. I couldn't help it that they were behind us at the checkout. Jealous or not, I do not behave this way towards people. It's just rude.

 

[Harleyq]

If he's not flirting, I don't care. Sometimes I get a little bit insecure, but I don't really get jealous. All my friends have been male so I guess that puts things into perspective for me.

 

[Sinar_Matahari]

I meant in terms of cheating.

My dad cheated on my mum and my step mum (in fact i found out I had a sister when i was 13)

My grandad cheated on my gran several times for years

My boyfriends have cheated on me.

Most of my male friends I know have cheated on their girlfriends. One with me (yes im very ashamed of this, even if i never met the girl)

Also my dad told me once that every time he went on football trips every guy would get with a girl whether they had someone back home or not. He told me women shouldn't trust men.

Sweetie, that sucks! The truth is I think that all people are capable of cheating. It's not outside the realm of possibility for anyone. There is always the chance of temptation especially if a person feels neglected. Just because everyone is capable doesn't mean that some are not stronger than others though.

Don't be so harsh on yourself for having been with a guy who had a girlfriend. I'm going to tell you the same thing that I told my friend when she cheated on her boyfriend, I am not going to judge you and you shouldn't judge yourself either.

I would forgive my husband if he cheated on me. I would ask him whether he felt that I neglected him or if he was unhappy with our marriage. I'd try to fix anything that I may have done wrong. People are people. I've known so many people who said that cheating is unforgivable and that they would never cheat or be the other person, but they did cheat or they were the other person. One good thing that this brought them was the knowledge of what they are capable as well as the wisdom to not judge others and be stronger the next time temptation strikes. Then there is a difference between chronic cheaters and people who do it once.

I find that some men cheat because they are taught that it is something that all men are supposed to do. My friend's boyfriend actually told her that he wanted to sleep with other women and he was entitled to so because he is a man and that is what men do.

 

[Emily_G]

Is this normal?? I have the most amazing bf who tells me how much he likes me but yet I get so jealous when he mentions other girls or when he talks to other girls. He tells me i can trust him but its just this horrible nagging feeling i get when i picture him talkin to any of his female friends. it literally throws me onto a full on panic attack.

Until he gives you a reason to not trust him...you should trust him. It must be awful for him to always feel like he has to gain your trust when he never lost it in the first place. Until he does something for him to lose your trust...don't put him through that.

 

[Noca]

I cant stand jealousy in a relationship. Ive had relationships before where my gf wouldnt let me even talk to a guy let alone a gurl.

 

[zlench]

Jealously is one the worst things in a relationship because the fact is all you really want to do is to control your partner and there actions.

 

[lurknomore]

I never felt any jealousy of the women my ex-husband would talk to, and I didn't even feel any when he cheated on me. The most I felt was annoyed/disappointed, but I know now that my lack of a strong reaction to it was because I never had strong feelings for him to begin with. I've never been in any other relationships, but I don't think I would be jealous even if I had deep feelings for someone. It seems to me that jealousy would only become an issue if the trust were broken or if I were insecure about myself.