Well, a real friend should always listen and try to help. But I think the answer to your questions depend not just on how they're being right now, but how they've been in the past, too.
Have they always been this way whenever you've got things off your chest? If so, then they're not proper friends. Friendship isn't just about the good times - your friends should be there for you when you're happy AND for when you're sad.
On the other hand, have they given you advice or tried to help you out in the past? Sometimes people can grow tired of giving advice about the same things, if they feel like it's not being acted upon. Or maybe it's because they have their own problems and can't lend themselves to hear out yours. Or maybe they don't understand your problems well enough to figure why you're so down.
There could be a number of reasons why they respond to you in the way you do. I don't know if you come across as a "whiny little b" although part of me believes that even if you do then it's irrelevant because they should still want to help you out, but I also see how sometimes people may find it difficult to hear about other peoples' problems, particularly if they don't understand them in full.
Are these people really your friends? Well, it depends. I can't tell that on the basis of the information in your post, but at the very least it does seem as though they aren't fully understanding of your problems, perhaps because they're ignorant, or perhaps you mightn't have explained them enough in a way that they can understand.
I think maybe just think about the quality of the friendship they have given to you in the past as well as right now. This may give you a clearer idea for the answers to your questions. It is not beyond us to mess up some times, and having anxiety/being sensitive doesn't mean that we don't sometimes come across as insensitive to others. What I mean by this is - try looking at your friendships from a neutral point of view. What do you give them, and what do they give you? If, from that general perspective, you feel it all too one-sided, then these guys aren't your friends, and you can do better.
