Feel like I don't fit in anywhere.

[grapevine]

I feel like i dont fit in anywhere either. I have been living so isolated with my parents in the country for 10 years now and have not had any friendships or social contacts in that time (except for a rare one year within those years and that ended with myself having a breakdown from abuse.) I feel so mentally sick all the time because i have had noone to talk to or go out with or anything like that. I havent been available either because i dont drive of yet and live where there is no transport and dont work either, i am too embarressed and insecure to even find friends. Its not like i am going to walk for an hour into town and back again with someone or let them be in control and have to drive me around and feel uncomfortable with me.

I feel like a switch has been broken within my head for sometime because of severe lack of socialising and living within isolation.

 

[jco3]

I go to a community college in the area and I feel the same way. Sure, I have acquaintances - but no friends. It gets hard when I'm having a rough stretch of days with no one to pick me up.

However, over break I had friends come back into town and it was great. I was hardly anxious - it was really a god time.

 

[csmilie]

I feel exactly the same. I have become so isolated I just don't know who I am anymore. I am so lonely yet terrified of making mistakes and getting it wrong with people that the isolation feels like the lesser of two evils. With xmas, new year and now the bad weather it's been ages since I had any kind of human contact and depression is setting in in a really big way.

 

[Krista]

I have never felt so alone than I do now. I mean.. growing up I always had friends and didn't really have a hard time fitting in until now, at age 24 I have no friends. The older I get I feel like Im becoming more and more alienated. I don't want to be stereotipical but seems like everyone fits into a certain group or another. It's like the smart ppl will hang out with the smart ppl, emos hang out with other emos, and the superficial rich ppl will hang with their own. Although I look smart/conservative I could never hang with other smart people because I just don't know what the hell their talking about. Im a little bit of everything but not enough to fit into a certain group. Just feeling so lost and lonely...I guess Im just a loser....

It's so sad that there are still cliques outside of high school but you don't need to fit into a genre to have friends. You just need to meet some people who share the same interests as you.

 

[Emma22w]

That's the way i feel. I don't and never have belonged to a certain "clique". Never had no friends either. :/

 

[Justas]

I never fit in too. But how could I belong to clique if I don't agree with all cliques rules? If I brake one rule the clique will throw me off. Every social clique has their rules.

 

[JamieD]

My dad summed this up once, he said 'Do you feel like you aren't cut out for this world?'

 

[Alyosha]

I feel the same way...but I can really relate to the people on this site! I just wish I could meet more people like the people on this site.

 

[Carlos B.]

Yeah, this seems to be a pretty wide spread problem, even though it doesn't seem like it in fast paced everyday life. Sometimes I get the feeling that there's really no room or time to address this kinda thing, and it's just a crippling weakness ( I mean the anxiety and uneasy sensation of feelin like an outsider). I felt like an outsider all my life, like I was always the 5th wheel everywhere. As if the only time I was actually talkin and socially active was when I was fending off shots or narrow minded labels.

All my life, I had serious trouble hitting it off and just living a casual social life. School, and highschool went by. Every step of the way it felt as if we were just taking shots at eachother, spotting weakness and sabotaging eachother. Grade school was the worst, I was kinda the misfit in the class, always getting blamed for everything, so, by highschool I formed this habit of just keeping my head down, keeping people at a distance and taking care of my own busyness.

After I graduated I figured all that was done. The groups, the anxiety of fitting in was a thing of the past. But it seems I might have started a vicious circle of isolating myself, viewing everybody as a possible threat and keeping everybody at a distance.
I never thought of myself as having complexities of inferiority, hell, I'm not actively shutting people out or beating myself down. I used to actively go out, meeting people and trying to tune my social life. But at this point it seems as if I fail to adjust, everywhere I go. I don't like crowds anymore or goin out. I stopped trying to meet new people and I just keep busy with work. I don't know, just seems that I meet a chilly ambience everywhere I go that I can't get passed, and at this point I have no idea where to go from here to turn this thing around. This complexity is seriously messing with me by now, wreaking havoc on my self confidence and will to try again. Even thought of moving away someplace else, from everything I knew and everybody who knows me, for a fresh start. But if that fails, then that might be my caving point.
I know this sounds messed up, but, make no mistake..I'm not feelin sorry for myself here, just can't come up with a way to get passed this...Don't judge..

 

[DeadHead]

I've never fit in anywhere in my life. When my ex broke up with me I packed everything I could fit in the car and moved to another city. I chose a place with 4 male roomates because I get along best with guys and it seemed like a party house so I thought maybe I could end up making friends and being social. But alas, here I am in my room like I am all the time. I don't fit in here either. I wasn't meant to have friends.

 

[Krista]

I've never fit in anywhere in my life. When my ex broke up with me I packed everything I could fit in the car and moved to another city. I chose a place with 4 male roomates because I get along best with guys and it seemed like a party house so I thought maybe I could end up making friends and being social. But alas, here I am in my room like I am all the time. I don't fit in here either. I wasn't meant to have friends.

Chickadee, my room is f*cking huge. Move your arse over here!

 

[gettingbetter]

I'm too educated for "simple people" but not educated enough for the "snobs". I'ts like i'm designed to be an individual, and so its tough to get along with others.

Its easy to look around and see people enjoying themselves, but alot of the time i see it as "showing off" etc. I cant help feeling this way, but its easy to feel left out. I'm not going to join in things i dont like/understand, because putting up with something is just not going to last.

 

[DeadHead]

Chickadee, my room is f*cking huge. Move your arse over here!

Hahaha. Thanks for the offer. Do you live in the US? Any good music festivals? Lol maybe a summer road trip is in order

 

[Krista]

Hahaha. Thanks for the offer. Do you live in the US? Any good music festivals? Lol maybe a summer road trip is in order

I do indeed live in the US, lol. Music festivals, yes. We have a thing called Schwaggstock, I'm thinking you'd love it.

 

[DeadHead]

I do indeed live in the US, lol. Music festivals, yes. We have a thing called Schwaggstock, I'm thinking you'd love it.

I just googled it. That does sound s pretty freakin' awesome!

 

[mxhurt]

I thought you were diffrent but i guess your the same just like every other guy.
Please dont just used me cant you see im willing to the best i can do be your everything.
I dont care about the past but 2 you i guess you can seem to let her go.
you are still wit her and you tell me that you dont love her, i just gave up on you
today im tired of playing games like im just one of your rebounds.
I thought you were diffrent and i thought you will always be there for me
but in the end girls like me always get hurt for trusting on your love
and this is what you do.. you make me fall in love wit you first then you leave me
all sad and who do i have left no one at all.
i hate the fact that im so weak when it comes down to love i hate feeling this way i dont
have no where else to go but to ask god to send me a man that can truely love me.
im so tired of getting hurt and i dont have a place in my heart no more i tottally lost who i was before.
i been hurt not once not twice but so many times i can go on like this no more
what to i do that i deserve this please give me a answer? im so fed up with everything

y do i always turn out to be the second girl?
i ask my self y cant you just see everything i can offer you
but im guess im to late to show my feelings to you

 

[DarkSeeker]

Feel like I don't fit in anywhere

I often feel like the joker from the Dark Knight

Nothing on prints, DNA or dental, clothing all custom no labels, no other name no other alias.

Nothing in his pockets but knives and lint.

 

[Bullied Anonymous]

I have never felt so alone than I do now. I mean.. growing up I always had friends and didn't really have a hard time fitting in until now, at age 24 I have no friends. The older I get I feel like Im becoming more and more alienated. I don't want to be stereotipical but seems like everyone fits into a certain group or another. It's like the smart ppl will hang out with the smart ppl, emos hang out with other emos, and the superficial rich ppl will hang with their own. Although I look smart/conservative I could never hang with other smart people because I just don't know what the hell their talking about. Im a little bit of everything but not enough to fit into a certain group. Just feeling so lost and lonely...I guess Im just a loser....

I can totally relate ;you're not by yourself. I find myself alone often ,because I have a piece of everything. I never judged based on looks ,so I'd hang with every crowd ,then there came a point to where all those different stereotypes didn't mesh well ,and that's when everyone start dropping the ultimatums on me. Like, "you can't hang with us if you're with them" ,or "ditch those losers and stay over here." It was uncomfortable being around them and their unnecessary rivalries against eachother. I didn't see the big deal + I had my own issues to worry about so, I ditched everybody. Then the more I sat by myself in public places the more anxiety would build-up. But enough about me, you're not a loser ,and friends shouldn't be arranged in a category. You should spend time with whoever makes you comfortable.

 

[Anxious in NJ]

You are at a challenging age. Your an adult, but you have a lot to learn. Take things one day at a time, minute by minute - maintaining focus on your dreams. I am in my 40's and life is harder now than it was then. We are who we are, we can make small changes, but at the end of the day - we are the same person. I have tried to change and meet the standards of what society says is "normal" - it is all a farce. Be yourself. Do what is right. Pray. Laugh. Work. Have fun. Your too young to worry. Stop before you make it a bad habit....like I did.

 

[da_illest101]

i know how how you feel, me i feel like I can't fit where i would be most comfortable. I dress more hip hop style, so most likely those who dress the same way come to talk to me. But other then music and cloths, we have nothing in common. I want to chill with the gamers, anime and manga fans, the people who does cosplay and the nerds not the wannabee ganster, drug dealer ::