Feel humourless

[recluse]

Do you feel humourless at times?

I can't help but feel that sometimes i am too serious and i can't see the funny side of things. I sometimes have trouble recognising when someone is being humourous for example if they have a dry sarcastic humour, yet at times i have bouts of hilarity when i laugh a lot. I sometimes am convinced i have aspergers or something.

 

[dottie]

totally. sometimes i hear people laugh over the stupidest thing and i wonder how they do it and how their laughter and joy seems so sincere. is it fake? are they good actors? or did it authentically delight them on some level? if so, what do they have that i don't have? i don't get it. because, for whatever reason (I WISH I KNEW) i do not find it humanly possible to laugh (fake or real) over what they just found funny.

most sarcasm flies right over my head. then after a few moments when it has finally sunk in that it was a joke (or someone has to clarify the joke) it makes me feel dumb and gullible. they stare at me in disbelief that it took that long for me to get it. it feels so patronizing, insulting, and humiliating.

sarcasm is very hard for me to get and deliver. i hate lying so it is almost on that level to me... like i can't deliver it because it would be lying for 2 seconds- even though it is a joke.

i also sometimes question the asperger's. :/

 

[Day_Tripper]

Who knows? Maybe you do have Aspergers Syndrome, or High Functioning Autism. I don't think it's aspergers because I hear people with AS are social but are awkward and eccentric without knowing it, while people with HFA are more reserved and self isolating. Maybe most of us here have a mild form of it without even knowing?

I know when people are joking with me, I sometimes just don't know how to sort of joke back other than a light laugh. I also find a lot of the jokes that most kids my age find funny, like sexual innuendos, just plain stupid, even though my humor is sort of random and makes no sense.

 

[dottie]

I also find a lot of the jokes that most kids my age find funny, like sexual innuendos, just plain stupid, even though my humor is sort of random and makes no sense.

i find the most random things hillarious, things that most "normies" (hehe) would scoff at it. i wish i could think of an example.

 

[Richey]

All the time. i get people saying to me "did you just make a joke"? indicating how rare it is that people cotton onto my wit and how awful my delivery seems to be, usually at the most innapropriate time and often people just dont get it ..

sooooo i guess i have to try and just focus on being silly all the time before people find my goofy and fun to be around which is a challenge because i'm reserved around people who ar emore confident then me, people who have more weakness and arnt afraid to show both sides i seem to feel less intimidated by ..and so i'll be more likely to try and show my fun side ...

arrogant, sarcastic smart arse type characters intimidate the hell out of me, because i dont know if they are being serious or not so its a 50-50 scenario and often i'll get caught out saying the wrong thing

Yet i work with two people like that ..

 

[recluse]

Who knows? Maybe you do have Aspergers Syndrome, or High Functioning Autism. I don't think it's aspergers because I hear people with AS are social but are awkward and eccentric without knowing it, while people with HFA are more reserved and self isolating. Maybe most of us here have a mild form of it without even knowing?

I don't know, sometimes i feel cold and apathetic, and i think that people are stupid and say stupid things.

 

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[nandito]

Who knows? Maybe you do have Aspergers Syndrome, or High Functioning Autism. I don't think it's aspergers because I hear people with AS are social but are awkward and eccentric without knowing it, while people with HFA are more reserved and self isolating. Maybe most of us here have a mild form of it without even knowing?

I don't know, sometimes i feel cold and apathetic, and i think that people are stupid and say stupid things.

I do feel humorless but I think it is because I'm being to passive the last 5 years, just making fun of funny situations (I'm good at that). I also suffer from mild depression.

Now, what I've discovered is that, when I was a child, for many years I was super funny, easy to make jokes, etc. So I know I have an inner child inside me that needs to be wake up.

I started to attend some improv comedy lessons , which is making me happier and giving me nice ideas for jokes. I'm having a lot of fun. Now I feel at least once a day very good, although overall still little bit depressed, heck, is better something than nothing.

There are lots of alternatives I considered, I typed "comedy radio" in google and found lots of comedy podcast that I turn on instead of listening the news. I also watch simpsons and similar cartoons, plus the improv comedy, hat's a lot, and I'm only paying a fee of 10 buck per session in the lessons, so it is quite cheap. As you see, you have to sit down one day, and start thinking about what you lack, what do you want to overcome, and how much money do you need (you can always minimize the cost by being clever).

Hope this works, and even if you feel hope less give it a try, force yourself to do things like I mentioned a couple of weeks and why not months, you'll get addicted to have fun.