Facebook How does it effect you S.A.D/Social Phobia

RNB

RNB

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I have a love and hate relationship with FB. If you are like me it allows for me to communicate with people I usually would not out in public in conversation.

My thoughts have always flowed better in written/typed words.

I just would like to know how this new life changing social network effects you.
 
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SM1010

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My SA manifests itself in a weird way with facebook. I'm kind of afraid to do status updates because I'm worried nobody will comment lol. I don't want people looking at my wall and seeing 30 status updates that no one has commented on.
 
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Steppen-Wolf

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I like Facebook.

I have very few friends and recently deleted all of my pictures, but there's a small group of long time friends (mostly from the web) who usually comment and like my things.

Plus, I enjoy seeing updates and photos from these few people, makes me feel more in touch with them.

I also learned not to post a status for every single stupid thing that I think about and right there I made sure I wasn't going to become one of those FB attention whores (man whore perhaps? lol).
 
MaliceInWickedland

MaliceInWickedland

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Oooh boy do I have a lot to say about facebook. Nothing good mind you. I'm not going to even bother though. It's just a fading figment of my past that will soon be forgotten completely. All I will say is that, honestly, it's a waste of time and is the supreme harbinger of unnecessary drama.

If you want to keep in touch with people from school or whatever that you were actually close to and that you haven't talked to in a while or lost contact with, make an account on facebook.

If you want to be added by random people from school who never really talked to you, are total drama queens/kings, and will give you the biggest headache of your life, make an account on facebook.

Facebook was just a total nightmare for me. Thankfully it's come to an end.
 
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HeadFace

HeadFace

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I hate to admit it, but Facebook is a real self-asteem lowerer for me.
I see all my "friends" hanging out with everyone else besides me |: For some reason I am always compelled to check my ex-friends page whenever I'm on it. I especially hate when I accidentally find out things I wish I never did, like relationship statuses and.. a few comments that I've read on there.
Lately I've been trying to use it strictly for posting statuses and communicating, but that plan hasnt been the easiest. I always check FB whenever I'm bored, too. So yeah.
 
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Vampayah88

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I dont have facebook and Im not sure im ever going to make an account. It would just complicate my life and bring in unnecesary drama, not to mention Id be forced to add in my list of friends some persons I dont like, who talk **** behind my back.
 
GhoulsNightOut

GhoulsNightOut

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SM1010 said:
My SA manifests itself in a weird way with facebook. I'm kind of afraid to do status updates because I'm worried nobody will comment lol. I don't want people looking at my wall and seeing 30 status updates that no one has commented on.
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ME TOO!! lol
 
HeadFace

HeadFace

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MaliceInWickedland said:
Oooh boy do I have a lot to say about facebook. Nothing good mind you. I'm not going to even bother though. It's just a fading figment of my past that will soon be forgotten completely. All I will say is that, honestly, it's a waste of time and is the supreme harbinger of unnecessary drama.

If you want to keep in touch with people from school or whatever that you were actually close to and that you haven't talked to in a while or lost contact with, make an account on facebook.

If you want to be added by random people from school who never really talked to you, are total drama queens/kings, and will give you the biggest headache of your life, make an account on facebook.

Facebook was just a total nightmare for me. Thankfully it's come to an end.
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I think this is pretty much it in a nutshell -.-
People start **** on there. Often, ifyou have the right peoe added.
Luckily I minimized my friend list from like 208 to 88 this summer, so it hasnt been as bad as others'. Of course I still get very mad/jealous/depressed when I see that my.. Er.. "friends".. That I keeptrying to hang out with keep avoiding me when I ask them to meet with me, but then make plans right on facebook. You have no idea how sad one can get when they see the personyour trying to spend time with, completely reject you, and then spend their time on others...
 
asmith119

asmith119

Member
over the years i have become more and more unhappy with facebook. i don't like feeling as if it is a huge popularity contest based on the number of people in your friends list, the frequency of your pointless statuses, or how many check-ins you've made.

"look at how amazing and exciting my life is!"

i hate how many times i find myself looking at my ex-girlfriend's profile. i hate that by default people can tag you in pictures which are available for all of their friends to see as well as your own. i hate how addictive it is.

the worse thing is you can't delete your profile when you've decided you've had enough, you can only temporarily deactivate it. it's as if they know you will come crawling back. Mark Zuckerberg is the Devil's spawn.

how does it effect my SA? i feel like i'm constantly open to judgement and so i'm always overly cautious about what i put on there. i run through a new status update in my head to make sure it will sound ok. i delete statuses that i don't like anymore. i always worry about what other people will think of my profile (even if these are people i haven't actually spoken to for years).
 
KiaKaha

KiaKaha

Banned
I dont hate facebook. I hate the way its used... I hate the way that its almost necessary to have in the modern world. People are becomming so LAZY these days if they want to stay in touch with other people. If you dont have facebook, then there will be no effort to get in touch with you in a more traditional way.. that to me speaks volumes about the nature of your relationship with other people.

I hate how people that never said a word to you in school have the audacity to add you as a friend. Same goes for old workmates.

Dont even get me started on status updates... do I really care what you had for dinner? Am I that interested that you got plastered the night before and had a "really great night" .. no I dont care about your inspirational quote...life isnt full of rainbows, unicorns and lollipops.

I find it ridiculous that people have over 700 "friends" - yeah right.

I have facebook because I am clinging on to the few people that I know. Because I know that if I got rid of it, then I would be forgotten. I dont like it, but I feel I have to have it...just in case.
 
Rufus

Rufus

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I used to be on FB but deleted my profile last year. Being on it didn't do anything for me, in the end it was just more of a nuisance than anything else.

It's easy to see why people get addicted to it but there's much better things to spend your time doing...
 
Polliwog

Polliwog

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RNB said:
I have a love and hate relationship with FB. If you are like me it allows for me to communicate with people I usually would not out in public in conversation.

My thoughts have always flowed better in written/typed words.

I just would like to know how this new life changing social network effects you.
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I feel mostly the same way. It is easier for me to communicate when I am able to think about what I am going to say without being on the spot. but I also can feel self conscious about what people think about what I'm writing.
 
insecuregaga

insecuregaga

Active member
Facebook is just the conformist view of what socializing should be. I remember when the Internet first came everyone believed that everyone would have and make their own web page, their own design, bio, stats, activity, chat, instead we are run by what popular opinion tells us still, and if your not part of it then your left out. Its basic simplistic design is nothing without a popularity contest.
 
SkyBlue

SkyBlue

Member
Ugh I wish Facebook did not exist it's just another added stress. The problem I'm having now with fcbk is I've been out of touch with all of my close friends and I've gotten a couple messages through fcbk asking where the he'll I've disappeared to for the last 6 months... Now when I start my new job the first thing ppl ask you is omg do you have fcbk? So I guess I'll have to decide wheather it's better to say no I don't have one and be looked at as a total outcast because everybody and I mean everybody in the airline business has one! Or add them and have my old friends be like wow you have time to add ppl but you can't even let us know your okay? The truth is I'm not rdy to reconnect with my old friends yet considering I have no life until I leave my parents house and start my airline training in 2 weeks :/ what a delema thx Facebook!
 
Logical Anxiety

Logical Anxiety

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To me, Facebook is just something that makes my SA-induced life easier, in terms of asking or knowing about school/work issues. It's more easier for me to contact people on FB than on the phone, honestly, since most of my FB 'friends' are on 24/7 and I surf the web 24/7 as well.

I'd rather listen to the ear-bleeding Rebecca Black than socialise on FB, if you ask me.
 
RNB

RNB

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SM1010 said:
My SA manifests itself in a weird way with facebook. I'm kind of afraid to do status updates because I'm worried nobody will comment lol. I don't want people looking at my wall and seeing 30 status updates that no one has commented on.
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I feel that way too. At one point I just didn't but eventually I realized that people are looking at your update but sometimes they don't know what to say ethier. Thank you for sharing :D
 
RNB

RNB

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Steppen-Wolf said:
I like Facebook.

I have very few friends and recently deleted all of my pictures, but there's a small group of long time friends (mostly from the web) who usually comment and like my things.

Plus, I enjoy seeing updates and photos from these few people, makes me feel more in touch with them.

I also learned not to post a status for every single stupid thing that I think about and right there I made sure I wasn't going to become one of those FB attention whores (man whore perhaps? lol).
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Do you have any particular reason why you deleted your pics? I know I have done this too before because I hate how I look.

I learned that too, now I worry I don't do it enough.lol
 
RNB

RNB

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MaliceInWickedland said:
Oooh boy do I have a lot to say about facebook. Nothing good mind you. I'm not going to even bother though. It's just a fading figment of my past that will soon be forgotten completely. All I will say is that, honestly, it's a waste of time and is the supreme harbinger of unnecessary drama.

If you want to keep in touch with people from school or whatever that you were actually close to and that you haven't talked to in a while or lost contact with, make an account on facebook.

If you want to be added by random people from school who never really talked to you, are total drama queens/kings, and will give you the biggest headache of your life, make an account on facebook.

Facebook was just a total nightmare for me. Thankfully it's come to an end.
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I couldn't have said better myself. I was actually just having a coversation about how pointless facebook friends actually are. Now that I think about it interestingly enough the people I actually like to talk to are mostly folks I don't talk to on facebook but people I cherish and I spend almost every waking hour with.

The main reason I use facebook is for more or less BS.
 
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