Facebook How does it effect you S.A.D/Social Phobia

[RNB]

Oh, Facebook. We had such a torrid love affair. It's over now. FB made me paranoid, angry, jealous, and a whole host of other things that aren't pleasant. I had mine for years before deactivating it earlier this year. I felt like it was taking control of my life and I didn't like it. I haven't missed it since.

I saw this article a couple of days ago: Facebook may cause serious mental health problems in kids, studies show.

I was reading through the news article and the whole time I was saying to myself I KNEW THIS WAS GOING TO HAPPEN. I remember getting on in school and what not just to escape the hell of high school.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I really dislike everything about facebook.
In college, facebook was like... the new thing that everyone had- including the professors; so it was a great tool for keeping up with all of your course work and a 24 hour tool to contact professors with questions about assignments.

Out of college, though...
It's almost completely pointless.
I don't like photos, I don't like stupid game apps, I don't like 'poking' < what is the point?
haha
I'm on facebook for only one reason now- because I have relatives across the country who are on facebook at 60+ years old and they count on it as being the only way to contact me if they feel it necessary.

...they haven't figured out email yet, but they can use facebook.
I don't understand.
XD
I could definitely live without facebook.
I guess thet'll be tested, come november 5th- if the rumors are true.

 

[RNB]

I hate to admit it, but Facebook is a real self-asteem lowerer for me.
I see all my "friends" hanging out with everyone else besides me |: For some reason I am always compelled to check my ex-friends page whenever I'm on it. I especially hate when I accidentally find out things I wish I never did, like relationship statuses and.. a few comments that I've read on there.
Lately I've been trying to use it strictly for posting statuses and communicating, but that plan hasnt been the easiest. I always check FB whenever I'm bored, too. So yeah.

I do the same thing sometimes I remember I had a huge blow out with a friend of mine he said that he just needed some no friends time and like for those next two weeks all I saw was him hanging out with other folks so yeah I get ya.

 

[RNB]

I dont have facebook and Im not sure im ever going to make an account. It would just complicate my life and bring in unnecesary drama, not to mention Id be forced to add in my list of friends some persons I dont like, who talk **** behind my back.

Thats probably the best thing

 

[RNB]

over the years i have become more and more unhappy with facebook. i don't like feeling as if it is a huge popularity contest based on the number of people in your friends list, the frequency of your pointless statuses, or how many check-ins you've made.

"look at how amazing and exciting my life is!"

i hate how many times i find myself looking at my ex-girlfriend's profile. i hate that by default people can tag you in pictures which are available for all of their friends to see as well as your own. i hate how addictive it is.

the worse thing is you can't delete your profile when you've decided you've had enough, you can only temporarily deactivate it. it's as if they know you will come crawling back. Mark Zuckerberg is the Devil's spawn.

how does it effect my SA? i feel like i'm constantly open to judgement and so i'm always overly cautious about what i put on there. i run through a new status update in my head to make sure it will sound ok. i delete statuses that i don't like anymore. i always worry about what other people will think of my profile (even if these are people i haven't actually spoken to for years).

I understand you man. Although there is alot you can do with your privacy settings one in particular is you can have a friend but you can block your info from getting out to them. If you don't likt to IM you can turn that off. I've been working alot with face book trying to make a way that it is SA safe know what I mean? I'd be willing to show you how to do this if you like?

 

[RNB]

It really doesn't bother me. It is a good way of keeping in touch wuth family members

Thats great!!

 

[RNB]

I really dislike everything about facebook.
In college, facebook was like... the new thing that everyone had- including the professors; so it was a great tool for keeping up with all of your course work and a 24 hour tool to contact professors with questions about assignments.

Out of college, though...
It's almost completely pointless.
I don't like photos, I don't like stupid game apps, I don't like 'poking' < what is the point?
haha
I'm on facebook for only one reason now- because I have relatives across the country who are on facebook at 60+ years old and they count on it as being the only way to contact me if they feel it necessary.

...they haven't figured out email yet, but they can use facebook.
I don't understand.
XD
I could definitely live without facebook.
I guess thet'll be tested, come november 5th- if the rumors are true.

Yeah I heard that "REMEMBER REMEMBER THE 5TH OF NOVEMBER"

They are breaking social order and I dont have a problem with it.

 

[RNB]

I dont hate facebook. I hate the way its used... I hate the way that its almost necessary to have in the modern world. People are becomming so LAZY these days if they want to stay in touch with other people. If you dont have facebook, then there will be no effort to get in touch with you in a more traditional way.. that to me speaks volumes about the nature of your relationship with other people.

I hate how people that never said a word to you in school have the audacity to add you as a friend. Same goes for old workmates.

Dont even get me started on status updates... do I really care what you had for dinner? Am I that interested that you got plastered the night before and had a "really great night" .. no I dont care about your inspirational quote...life isnt full of rainbows, unicorns and lollipops.

I find it ridiculous that people have over 700 "friends" - yeah right.

I have facebook because I am clinging on to the few people that I know. Because I know that if I got rid of it, then I would be forgotten. I dont like it, but I feel I have to have it...just in case.

I'm in the same boat, here lately though i found that it is a great tool for my religon studies I've be speaking with folks of all walks. But i guess it is just as easy to pick up a book...plus i wouldn't have to pretend like I care.

 

[RNB]

I won't use facebook for many of the reasons listed above.

On top of that, two people at work have been fired for things they posted on facebook. Yes, they were stupid, but it proves that even your employer is spying on you.

I know two folks who got fired too...TROLLZ

 

[RNB]

i used to be on fb but deleted my profile last year. Being on it didn't do anything for me, in the end it was just more of a nuisance than anything else.

It's easy to see why people get addicted to it but there's much better things to spend your time doing...

absolutely

 

[RNB]

I feel mostly the same way. It is easier for me to communicate when I am able to think about what I am going to say without being on the spot. but I also can feel self conscious about what people think about what I'm writing.

I guess you have to wiegh the postive with the negative...

 

[RNB]

Facebook is just the conformist view of what socializing should be. I remember when the Internet first came everyone believed that everyone would have and make their own web page, their own design, bio, stats, activity, chat, instead we are run by what popular opinion tells us still, and if your not part of it then your left out. Its basic simplistic design is nothing without a popularity contest.

The social norm for facebook on the idiot scale of 1 to 10 is 10. I LIKED this so you should. I feelin ya on what you mean. There is another user who said something like "i use it so folks know that I'm still alive" I'm not so much different. Sometimes it is a window in the outside world for me and some times its like a mirror that reflects back only what affects me the worst.

 

[RNB]

Ugh I wish Facebook did not exist it's just another added stress. The problem I'm having now with fcbk is I've been out of touch with all of my close friends and I've gotten a couple messages through fcbk asking where the he'll I've disappeared to for the last 6 months... Now when I start my new job the first thing ppl ask you is omg do you have fcbk? So I guess I'll have to decide wheather it's better to say no I don't have one and be looked at as a total outcast because everybody and I mean everybody in the airline business has one! Or add them and have my old friends be like wow you have time to add ppl but you can't even let us know your okay? The truth is I'm not rdy to reconnect with my old friends yet considering I have no life until I leave my parents house and start my airline training in 2 weeks :/ what a delema thx Facebook!

I have a possible solution. These old friends you can keep them as friends but you can also add your co workers without them knowing. What you do is block the info from getting to them. You can do this in your privacy settings. And when and if you decide to unblock them its as as the click of a button. I do this all the time.

 

[RNB]

To me, Facebook is just something that makes my SA-induced life easier, in terms of asking or knowing about school/work issues. It's more easier for me to contact people on FB than on the phone, honestly, since most of my FB 'friends' are on 24/7 and I surf the web 24/7 as well.

I'd rather listen to the ear-bleeding Rebecca Black than socialise on FB, if you ask me.

I use facebook in a very similar way. Its a bit like playing god with your social life.

 

[Invisibleman]

Im not really a fan of facebook because it makes me feel invisible(hence my username). It literally gives me an idea of how little of an impression I make on people.

I look around and see people with over 2000 friends,I see people that are probably less popular than me with over 1000 me I have 60.


Out of those 60 friends probably only 4 actually know me and 2 of them are my sister and her boyfriend.The rest of those 56 people just seen me in friend suggestions or something and just added me because like sombody else said it literally is a popularity contest.

I also hate facebook because it reminds me of how much fun everybody else is having. I go on and see these statuses like parties this parties that and my anxiety goes up substaintially.Even my friend or i should say ex friend has risen in popularity.hes always been as much of a loser as me but now I see his statuses about parties and that and i get really jealous. I hate facebook.

 

[Tiercel]

I have a page up, but I mostly just avoid it.

Kinda like the rest of my life.

 

[corvax]

FB affects me differently depending on whether I'm going through a depressive episode or not. When I'm depressed, my social anxiety goes through the roof, and every single little thing that can be interpreted in a negative, self-defeating way will. I deleted my facebook for a few months last year because the damn thing made me completely awful about myself, seeing everyone I knew from high school making tons of friends in college and having fun.

My depression has lifted since, though, and I recreated it a couple months ago. It's not a problem for me now. Is it a massive waste of time? Absolutely. But it's really helpful for getting back in contact with people I don't see anymore, especially considering I won't use the phone.

 

[ChrystaR]

I think Facebook is very good for me. It allows me to talk to my one friend and some family members much more than I would normally.

It also allows me to talk to some others that I wouldn't have talked to in a face to face situation. I only have 29 friends, so the ones I talk to I actually enjoy chatting with. It makes me feel more human because I actually have people paying attention to what I say. Not a lot, but again more so than if I didn't have an account.

There is one guy that I went to elementary school with, and he is pretty smart and humorous and we have a fair amount in common. I would have a hard time talking to him in person, but I like being able to talk back and forth with him. Again, it makes me feel more normal, more human.