Does making decisions exhaust you

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How does one make decisions more effectively

 

[chibiXphantom]

wish i knew, im the worst when it comes to making decisions. ive spent like an hour in a bookstore trying to decide between two books i want. most of my decisions i wait to long until its no longer my decision anymore. or ill flip a coin. kind of sad how many life choices ive made based on a flip of a coin

 

[Falkor]

Decisions are so hard... Because everything has consequenses....

 

[KerrBear]

Hmmm decisions, decisions decisions...

I have one heck of a time trying to decide what to do. Like, I hate shopping for that reason. I can almost not make a decision on what I want to buy and if I want to buy that item either it be food, clothes, a gift for someone, etc. I'll seriously have a battle in my head. It would take me forever to finally decide what I want to purchase. Sometimes I don't purchase anything at all.

Another decision I have a hard time making is when people ask me what I want to do. I don't know what is fun to do. I don't even know what fun is. I mean, I like simple things like going for a walk or go for a swim. My significant other asks me what I would like to do all of the time. I look to him with emptiness and sadness in my eyes because I know that I don't know what to do. He knows that I have SA and depression and he's wonderful at being by my side. I just wish I could decide on more things than saying "I don't know".

 

[Hellhound]

Only important decisions exhaust me.

 

[lurknomore]

I'm not sure if exhausting is the word I would use, but I'm horrible when it comes to making decisions. I'll usually wait for someone else to make it for me, even with big decisions. For example, as a high school senior, I put off deciding where to apply to college, and probably wouldn't have applied at all if it had not been for a guidance counselor asking me about it in February and jumping into high gear, calling around to different schools getting permission for me to apply late. And of the schools I got accepted to, I made the choice partly based on the fact that it was my counselor's preference, but also because it was the most prestigious. Then of course I married the first guy to show interest, and went along with everything he wanted, partly because I couldn't make any decisions, and partly because I was too inexperienced to realize I wasn't attracted to him and barely liked him. He did get really tired of the fact that whenever he would ask me what I wanted to do, I would say "I don't care, you decide." For less important decisions, like what to order at a restaurant, I usually just copycat the person I'm with, or if it's a place I've been to before, stick to ordering the same thing every time I go. And when shopping for a gift for someone, if I don't know exactly what they want, I get a gift card.

 

[BlueDays]

It did until I discovered the old trick of drawing a line down a piece of paper and writing all the negative points on one side and the positive points on the other side.
It is surprisingly effective.
I still take forever to finally decide but having all the points if front of you certainly makes it easier.:thumbup:

 

[laure15]

^I've tried doing that when I was in college deciding what I want to major in, but I still end up changing my major many times. I'm a very indecisive person, even when it comes to little things like deciding what to do next after I exercise, or where to place something. I pause a lot because of my indecisiveness, it's like watching a movie in slow mo.

 

[ImNotMyIllness]

Decisions........Big procrastinator when it comes to that.......I tend to wait so long the decision makes itself. I need to change!

 

[LuckMode]

Agh, I am so bad at making decisions even unimportant ones. Think I've gotten better over the years? but still find myself avoiding problems until it's too late or someone else resolves them for me.