razordixon
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i always get angry at them for being born iam always swearing at them and makeing them do stuff for me i dont really want to but i blame them for the way iam.
does anyone treat there parents like ****
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da_illest101
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not me, I really like my parents, sure we always got some stuff to fight about but overall i think my life would have been even worse without them
Luke1993
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I only really hate my uncle. I envy my brother but my hate for him now has sort of receded because we do not see each since he has his own place now.
I hate my uncle because he owns our house, and he lives across the road, as we are too poor to get our own place. Because of this he regularly comes round and belittles us, also making us do meaningless tasks from time to time, and if we don't do them he says he will throw us out! Today for instance he said I will wipe down the walls with a wet cloth, for absolutely no reason at all. He used to be a nice person but he is an absolute nutter now.
However I stand up to him and I do not do the stupid tasks anymore, because as I've grown up I know he doesn't have the bollocks to throw us out, because he likes being in power and having control over us. I just hate him so much, what's even worse is that I've been compared to him in terms of looks and personality by other family members. He clearly has mental problems and probably SA, I think he's more severe than me, but I fear I may become like him. He is 50 years old, no relationships in his whole life, never kissed a girl or anything, he has no friends and is living on disability as he has a problem in his hips (Which my mother then gave to me but I dont hate her for that). So yeah he's the only family member I hate.
Wow that was a long post, my apologies.
I hate my uncle because he owns our house, and he lives across the road, as we are too poor to get our own place. Because of this he regularly comes round and belittles us, also making us do meaningless tasks from time to time, and if we don't do them he says he will throw us out! Today for instance he said I will wipe down the walls with a wet cloth, for absolutely no reason at all. He used to be a nice person but he is an absolute nutter now.
However I stand up to him and I do not do the stupid tasks anymore, because as I've grown up I know he doesn't have the bollocks to throw us out, because he likes being in power and having control over us. I just hate him so much, what's even worse is that I've been compared to him in terms of looks and personality by other family members. He clearly has mental problems and probably SA, I think he's more severe than me, but I fear I may become like him. He is 50 years old, no relationships in his whole life, never kissed a girl or anything, he has no friends and is living on disability as he has a problem in his hips (Which my mother then gave to me but I dont hate her for that). So yeah he's the only family member I hate.
Wow that was a long post, my apologies.
Masychefx2
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my dad does not understand how my SA affects me he just thinks im lazy and pretty much ignores everything anyone sais and if its not to his liking he will completly ignore what anyone has to say, and if people dont listen to him when he is speaking he gets angry but wont let anyone express their opinions. He said my nervous problems are easy to fix just change the way i think, im afraid its not that eazy.
for instance he was watching a program where a bullet is going slow motion (doucmentary)
he said its not real you cannot film a bullet
i said yes you can ther are slow motion cameras which film things in slow motion
he said 'no its not possible' and that was the end of that discussion.
for instance he was watching a program where a bullet is going slow motion (doucmentary)
he said its not real you cannot film a bullet
i said yes you can ther are slow motion cameras which film things in slow motion
he said 'no its not possible' and that was the end of that discussion.
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JonnyD
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in the words of renato russo - brazilian singer - You said you parents don't understand, but you don't understand you parents - have you ever considered why they are the way they are?
i don't know if it aplyies to you people, but i can tell my side...
i'm sure my parents are to blame for most of my SA, i used to get angry at them, but i finally grew to understand, they are just human beings, with as much problems as me, they've been through a lot, parental abuse, poverty, illness in the familly , adolescent parenting... my parents are unable to understand what i feel, but it doesn't mean i have to do the same... i know my parents are just as damaged as i am.
i don't know if it aplyies to you people, but i can tell my side...
i'm sure my parents are to blame for most of my SA, i used to get angry at them, but i finally grew to understand, they are just human beings, with as much problems as me, they've been through a lot, parental abuse, poverty, illness in the familly , adolescent parenting... my parents are unable to understand what i feel, but it doesn't mean i have to do the same... i know my parents are just as damaged as i am.
anomicdeer
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I don't know exactly how I treat my mom but she make me look like the bad person. Should have raised me to be who she wanted me to be. But then, that might have not worked out well.
Lol, nice parents...I wouldn't tolerate that behavior in my house
I like my parents a lot.
My parents deserve it. I let them have it.
mrb
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no i respected my parents , my mother carried me for nine months , my father worked like a dog to feed 6 kids .... now dont get we wrong there were times they pissed me off , i didnt understand the rules they set , but now im 45 i understand ...... my childhood wasnt good , but bringing up 6 kids and struggling to pay the bills and feed us 6 kids is enough to drain anyone over a period of time .......
anomicdeer
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I just don't care like I "should" I guess.
Oh well. I never pick my family. And people change :/
Oh well. I never pick my family. And people change :/
For all intent purposes I could easily treat my mother like she deserves, she would indeed deserve it but I don't see the point. My emotions for her ran from agony at not wanting to lose her, disgust and anger for the person she is and now I simply don't care. She isn't deserving of my attention and life is hard enough to harbor that much resentment for someone, it weighs you down. I just need to know in my heart that she'll get what she deserves and I'm a good person. Besides, I have a wonderful family around me now, I pity that she has no one and that's justification enough for me.
mrb
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its good that you have a wonderfull family now .... as for your mother , i dont know the full story but hmmm sounds like she wasnt a good mother , some parents shouldnt be parents , same as my ex she has no time for her or our kids , its just all me me me .....
I was very blessed to have been adopted by grandma when I was seven and since then I've not had barely any contact with my mother. You're right, just because you have a child doesn't make you a mother. She didn't want children..didn't want me but (help me for saying this
) God must have had a plan because I ended up with people who love me unconditionally so I don't need her.As for you, you're a very wonderful person to take care of your children by yourself for the most part. There should be more people like you in the world
Kitana
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I did.. when I was a teenager. But that was also because my father was a very abusive man.
My mom is the ONLY person (aside from my husband) that I can really sit down with no fear or anxiety and have a full length conversation. So no, I never treat my mother badly.. sometimes, it feels like she's all thats holding me together.
My father on the other hand is a completely different story.. I blame him for everything wrong with me.. fear of people, no confidence at all, no self esteem.. I blame him because of the hell he put me thru. Being a young girl while your body is still developing.. hearing things like "your fat", "You need a boob job" "your stupid" "you can't do anything right" that stuff screws with your head. I still love him.. he's my dad.. but I don't talk to him anymore. If I have too, I just stand there quietly and nod.
My mom is the ONLY person (aside from my husband) that I can really sit down with no fear or anxiety and have a full length conversation. So no, I never treat my mother badly.. sometimes, it feels like she's all thats holding me together.
My father on the other hand is a completely different story.. I blame him for everything wrong with me.. fear of people, no confidence at all, no self esteem.. I blame him because of the hell he put me thru. Being a young girl while your body is still developing.. hearing things like "your fat", "You need a boob job" "your stupid" "you can't do anything right" that stuff screws with your head. I still love him.. he's my dad.. but I don't talk to him anymore. If I have too, I just stand there quietly and nod.
Dronee
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I'd say that parents have a really, really hard job raising kids. There are parents who genuinely shouldn't be parents at all and who abuse their children pretty much on purpose.
The vast majority are just trying their best based on the little of life that they know. I'm pretty sure that if one really applies oneself, one can learn something very complex like solving differential equations in their head or create entire movies from scratch (takes a very long time though)... but parenting is much more complex than that. It takes a lifetime to learn. That is excluding working hard to get enough to put food on the table, the physical process of raising the kids, worrying about their children.... and so on.
I feel that there's a lot of extremism on the issue of respect to parents. On one hand, many systems and cultures in the East treats parents as if they can do anything to their children and that children are less than human... A lot of other 'modern' cultures go the exact opposite route and place every blame on parents (and teachers and...) and the children are basically overly pampered and spoiled.
My own stance is somewhere in the middle. I think most parents do very, very terrible mistakes in raising their kids, but they really are trying their very best and have a lot of issues of their own. If they're great parents, then good. If not, just try to be cordial to them as best as you can. Try to let go of the past. If you did mistakes, even ones that affect others in a great way out of ignorance or just oversight, you'd want to be forgiven. Parenting doesn't come with a manual and every child is different...
My own parents were neither great nor were they really abusive. They made a lot of mistakes but got many things right. It's a choice to hold on to grudges and abuse ourselves over and over again or to try and rise above it. And if it's a genuine case of abuse, to try and figure out a good course of action (talking things through, moving out, family counseling, remaining cordial... depends on the situation)
The vast majority are just trying their best based on the little of life that they know. I'm pretty sure that if one really applies oneself, one can learn something very complex like solving differential equations in their head or create entire movies from scratch (takes a very long time though)... but parenting is much more complex than that. It takes a lifetime to learn. That is excluding working hard to get enough to put food on the table, the physical process of raising the kids, worrying about their children.... and so on.
I feel that there's a lot of extremism on the issue of respect to parents. On one hand, many systems and cultures in the East treats parents as if they can do anything to their children and that children are less than human... A lot of other 'modern' cultures go the exact opposite route and place every blame on parents (and teachers and...) and the children are basically overly pampered and spoiled.
My own stance is somewhere in the middle. I think most parents do very, very terrible mistakes in raising their kids, but they really are trying their very best and have a lot of issues of their own. If they're great parents, then good. If not, just try to be cordial to them as best as you can. Try to let go of the past. If you did mistakes, even ones that affect others in a great way out of ignorance or just oversight, you'd want to be forgiven. Parenting doesn't come with a manual and every child is different...
My own parents were neither great nor were they really abusive. They made a lot of mistakes but got many things right. It's a choice to hold on to grudges and abuse ourselves over and over again or to try and rise above it. And if it's a genuine case of abuse, to try and figure out a good course of action (talking things through, moving out, family counseling, remaining cordial... depends on the situation)
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