Does anyone like their Neighbours?

[kyle1995]

Hi everyone, I'm Kyle I am 19 and new to this forum. I know it's a bit random but does anyone here have any bad or good experiences with their neighbors? I personally don't like my neighbors too much as I find them quite rude.

I have this neighbor who is in her mid 40s and is female and she is a redhead, she lives with her daughter, and I can't stand the daughter because she has a reputation of being with different men all the time and she is the same age as me. Anyway this woman, let's call her Kim. A few years ago she always used to say hi to me and ask how I was. I find this woman a bit odd, she has quite a strange voice and she always seems like 's in a bad mood.
Anyway in the past year, I have seen Kim numerous times and she always just walks straight past me. One time I said hi and she completely ignored me. Now I am a very shy person and I don't like it when people just ignore me like that. Sometimes I see her and she frowns at me too, yet what I don't get is that Kim sometimes asks me how I am to my mother and she wanted me to get better because she knew about my problems with anxiety and depression. She always speaks to my mother but for some reason always looks annoyed at me and completely blanks me????

Let me know about your experiences

 

[fate12321]

Hi, welcome to the forum!

As for my neighbors, I really don't know them that well. My dad get's along with one of my neighbors. They sometimes hang out and stuff. I remember having a conversation with him once, it was a bit odd. He came to my house asking for my dad, and I told him he was at work. I could tell that he was somewhat drunk. He told me that he needed to go buy something at the gas station and he said that my dad told him that if he needed a favor, he could come by and ask. Well since I was by myself, I didn't want to be rude and tell him to leave, I decided to drive him to the gas station. It wasn't that far, only a few miles from my house. He kept on talking gibberish, he asked me a few question's and I just responded with a yes or a no. He said that I was being very serious and quiet, which made me feel more nervous than I already was. Once we arrived there, he told me if I wanted anything, I told him no thank you. Not sure why I declined, I'm just not use to asking or receiving things. He kept on insisting and I told him, "no thanks, I'm good". He said, "ok" in an annoyed tone and when he left I managed to over hear him say, "god damn...". At that point I wanted to just back up, drive home, and leave him there, but I didn't. He came back with 2 12 pack of beer and he literally started drinking it in the car as I drove him home. Anyways, the trip back home was short, but felt long due to the awkward silence. I got home, he got off and said thank you and left.

 

[WeirdyMcGee]

I have always lived in 'low income housing' which unfortunately tends to live up to the stereotypes in many instances-- teen moms with abusive boyfriends, drunks, addicts, etc... so I learned to never socialize with any of my neighbors.
I don't look at them or talk to them apart from the rare; 'hello.' or 'beautiful day' when they greet me first.

On the other hand-- my grandparent's house is in a village up in cottage country. All of their neighbors are elderly, too. Everyone knows everyone. Everyone is friendly.
I like them - I offer to help them when they need it and can even hold short conversations with them but I don't *live there full time* so I guess it's not quite the same?

 

[Pacific_Loner]

Well as you said yourself, "Kim" is an odd one, she's always in a bad mood, you can't stand her daughter and don't really like the woman herself, so first maybe she can feel that you dislike her, and second why do you care?

As for your question, I always make sure I don't become "friends" with my neighbours because if I'm too nice to them, they start hailing me when they see me and I'm stuck to make small talk with one of them everytime I get out of my shelter. So I purposely avoid eye contact with them. Which probably makes me look snob. I'm probably not helping this world to be a better place by doing so, but I hate small talk. I really, really do and I have my share of it at work.

So thinking about it, if you had me as a neighbour, you would probably be wondering what my problem is.

 

[Hellhound]

I'm neutral towards them.

 

[kyle1995]

Well as you said yourself, "Kim" is an odd one, she's always in a bad mood, you can't stand her daughter and don't really like the woman herself, so first maybe she can feel that you dislike her, and second why do you care?

As for your question, I always make sure I don't become "friends" with my neighbours because if I'm too nice to them, they start hailing me when they see me and I'm stuck to make small talk with one of them everytime I get out of my shelter. So I purposely avoid eye contact with them. Which probably makes me look snob. I'm probably not helping this world to be a better place by doing so, but I hate small talk. I really, really do and I have my share of it at work.

So thinking about it, if you had me as a neighbour, you would probably be wondering what my problem is.

I don't care but I just find it weird how someone will completely blank me and frown at me, however she will sometimes talk nice things about me to my mum. She tries to be really friendly towards my mum as well. I don't dislike her at all in fact I try to be polite because she seems the type of person to not give a crap about anything.

 

[kyle1995]

I'm neutral towards them.

That's probably the best way to be

 

[kihira]

Nope, one side is noisy and argue a lot, the other gives me death stares from over the fence. I wish I lived bordering bushland so that nature was my neighbour

 

[drganon]

I barely ever interact with any of them, so I guess I'm more or less neutral toward them.

 

[Kiwong]

I feel I have no privacy, and that I am in a wagon being circled by Indians firing arrows. One young guy is meth addict, another has right wing political views he wants to discuss with me, such as Tony Abbott is the best Prime Minister we've ever had. At least the little brat who stole my grocery shopping has left now and his brain dead father. I can hear my neighbours taking a piss through the walls the walls are so thin.

Like Kihira, I would also like to own a home bordered by bushland

 

[GraybeardGhost]

I feel . . . that I am in a wagon being circled by Indians firing arrows.

^ Does that happen a lot in Australia?


My neighbors are a mixed bag of aggravations. Next door is probably the best of the lot. I almost like her. She's quiet and keeps to herself—in nearly eight years we've only had a few brief conversations—but her door creaks like something out of a Vincent Price movie, and sometimes it seems she can't make up her mind whether to go out or come in, so it creaks for a crazy long time. Could be worse. I'd actually like to get to know her better, as she seems like a decent sort, but I feel like after all this time it would just be weird.

Downstairs haven't been there as long as next door—only a few years—but for my money, they've been there long enough. Two parents, two kids, and enough thumps and bumps for twice that many. I can hear them jabbering in the kitchen, I can hear their TV when I'm trying to read, and they run their A/C all the time, even when it's cool and dark outside, so no silent summer nights for me. In addition to the noise, I get the privilege of smelling the smell of whatever they happen to be cooking down there, as their kitchen fan blows it right up into my place. Sometimes it's not so bad, but sometimes it's downright sickening.

Across the landing is relatively new, and she seems nice enough, but she's also a bit of a cretin. She fights with her boyfriend, even to the point of calling the cops on him, and she has a big, stupid dog which barks at everything and has caused me to jump out of my skin more than once. Her balcony is just a few feet from mine, so when she sits out there and smokes, I get a faceful of foul if the wind's blowing the wrong way. She also brushes/grooms her dog out there and throws the clumps of hair off onto the ground, which is gross. Goodbye? Good riddance.

The rest I don't know, though I see many of them often. There's a small green space behind my apartment, with a picnic table and grill—very popular with dog walkers and out-cookers and the occasional late-night amateur wino. I see them, but for the most part they don't see me, even when I'm out on the porch. Once in a while, I'll get a nod of recognition or the like. One girl—and a rather pretty one at that—actually spoke to me once. I got so flustered that I could hardly say a word. You know the drill. Now I'm afraid she thinks me rude and will never speak to me again. I'm equally afraid that she will.

Someday, I hope to escape this, my not-so-private corner of apartment hell, and buy a small cabin in the woods. No more neighbors with their sounds and stinks; just trees and birds and happy little animals . . . and peace.

 

[Kiwong]

^ Does that happen a lot in Australia?

Yes, the local natives, drive around in Utes, profess to love the Australian flag, and it you don't like you can leave the country. They wear stubbies, have fat guts, fart and belch, drink copious amounts of beer and throw stubbies. They can smell difference like a rabid dog, and bashing of muslims and gays is a sport of national pride.

 

[kihira]

...profess to love the Australian flag...

I find the flag thing really strange, I think it's a fairly new idea here, possibly borrowed from the U.S.

People driving around with little Aussie flags on their cars as if they are the PM, or something :idontknow:

 

[Kiwong]

I find the flag thing really strange, I think it's a fairly new idea here, possibly borrowed from the U.S.

People driving around with little Aussie flags on their cars as if they are the PM, or something :idontknow:

My neighbour hangs a flag in his window, and asked me once "You know what they say about rape and sodomy?"

I thought of replying, only one of them is a crime, but often you only think of good replies later.

 

[GraybeardGhost]

Yes, the local natives, drive around in Utes, profess to love the Australian flag, and it you don't like you can leave the country. They wear stubbies, have fat guts, fart and belch, drink copious amounts of beer and throw stubbies. They can smell difference like a rabid dog, and bashing of muslims and gays is a sport of national pride.

This sounds disturbingly like parts of the American South not too many years ago, and in some ways it continues into the present. We have come a long way from Jim Crow laws and lynchings, but we still need to make a lot of progress in order to stem the rising tide of ignorance, fear, and heedless ruination that remains such a point of pride for so many. Wrapping it in a flag or branding it with religious symbols may legitimize it in the eyes of some, but this sort of regressivism remains a detriment to the nation and to the human race as a whole.


Back to topic . . .

 

[MotherWolff]

Hi everyone, I'm Kyle I am 19 and new to this forum. I know it's a bit random but does anyone here have any bad or good experiences with their neighbors? I personally don't like my neighbors too much as I find them quite rude.

I have this neighbor who is in her mid 40s and is female and she is a redhead, she lives with her daughter, and I can't stand the daughter because she has a reputation of being with different men all the time and she is the same age as me. Anyway this woman, let's call her Kim. A few years ago she always used to say hi to me and ask how I was. I find this woman a bit odd, she has quite a strange voice and she always seems like 's in a bad mood.
Anyway in the past year, I have seen Kim numerous times and she always just walks straight past me. One time I said hi and she completely ignored me. Now I am a very shy person and I don't like it when people just ignore me like that. Sometimes I see her and she frowns at me too, yet what I don't get is that Kim sometimes asks me how I am to my mother and she wanted me to get better because she knew about my problems with anxiety and depression. She always speaks to my mother but for some reason always looks annoyed at me and completely blanks me????

Let me know about your experiences

I know this might sound weird and hard to understand at first, but maybe Kim actually likes you and she may be shy towards you.

I am that way towards guys I am very attracted to.

Yes, I believe it is quite rude not to return someone else's hello, but she might be quite introverted.

But try not to think about it too much. Not everyone is going to want to speak to us even if they are our neighbors or even family. That's just the way things are.

The sooner you accept that, the better off you will be.

 

[Kiwong]

This sounds disturbingly like parts of the American South not too many years ago, and in some ways it continues into the present. We have come a long way from Jim Crow laws and lynchings, but we still need to make a lot of progress in order to stem the rising tide of ignorance, fear, and heedless ruination that remains such a point of pride for so many. Wrapping it in a flag or branding it with religious symbols may legitimize it in the eyes of some, but this sort of regressivism remains a detriment to the nation and to the human race as a whole.


Back to topic . . .

Well......it's on topic for me, that is why my neighbours are like. They don't like me, I don't like them.

 

[kyle1995]

I know this might sound weird and hard to understand at first, but maybe Kim actually likes you and she may be shy towards you.

I am that way towards guys I am very attracted to.

Yes, I believe it is quite rude not to return someone else's hello, but she might be quite introverted.

But try not to think about it too much. Not everyone is going to want to speak to us even if they are our neighbors or even family. That's just the way things are.

The sooner you accept that, the better off you will be.

Lol Kim is in her mid Forties and I'm 19. It would disgust me if she did like me like that. She is actually extroverted, she's got a loud voice. I'm very introverted and its really rare for me to say hi first to someone, unless I really know them.

Me and Kim's daughter who's 19 like me were friends last year, but the daughter stopped talking to me because she didn't like my friend. I wouldn't be surprised if Kim has some sort of grudge against me because of that.