Does anybody else find it hard to make friends of the same gender?

[SmileMore]

I have about 2 females who I would call friends. Women just don't seem to like me or they'll happily talk to me at work but not invite me out with them. I wish I had female friends. A lot of them have been quite nasty/bitchy towards me aswell. A while ago one girl actually told another friend she didn't want ne to go out with them. I'm a nice person so I don't understand it. When I have been on a night out with girls before they've been overly/fake nice to me then talked about me behind my back. They just don't seem to like me. The last time I went out with them we went to a club (I hate clubs) and they left me sitting there while they danced in front of some guy's. I was sitting on my own feeling really awkward when random men kept coming over and hitting on me. I don't dress in revealing clothes or drink very often. I just would really like a few female friends. I just can't fit in no matter what I do.

 

[Rembrandt Broam]

I have about 2 females who I would call friends. Women just don't seem to like me or they'll happily talk to me at work but not invite me out with them. I wish I had female friends. A lot of them have been quite nasty/bitchy towards me aswell. A while ago one girl actually told another friend she didn't want ne to go out with them. I'm a nice person so I don't understand it. When I have been on a night out with girls before they've been overly/fake nice to me then talked about me behind my back. They just don't seem to like me. The last time I went out with them we went to a club (I hate clubs) and they left me sitting there while they danced in front of some guy's. I was sitting on my own feeling really awkward when random men kept coming over and hitting on me. I don't dress in revealing clothes or drink very often. I just would really like a few female friends. I just can't fit in no matter what I do.

It sounds like you don't have very similar interests to these girls if they like to go drinking and clubbing, as these don't seem to be things that you enjoy at all. People are often incapable of understanding that others don't like the same things they do, and this can manifest itself as criticism - they feel like there must be something "wrong" with you because you don't like the same things they do. It's sad, but much of society seems to look at things this way. Maybe you just need to find girls whose interests are more in line with your own.

 

[Etbow23]

I have this trouble too. I don't think it's that there aren't women out there who are probably like me. I honestly don't know what it is. I find that in most situations, like jobs, school, wherever...the only people I end up making any sort of bonds w are male. I also would like to have female friends. If I do ever make a woman friend, they tend to be older than I am.

 

[OceanMist]

Geez, those don't sound like friends.

I've struggled to make friends with any gender. I have had way more friends that have been men, though. I can't even really say that I've had a consistent female friend. Just female friends that would occassionally talk with me. They were kind of in our circle.

It's tough to fit in with SA. I can relate. There are people out there that are willing to be friends with you though.

 

[LazyHermitCrab]

Hey i'll be your female friend lol. I'm the same because I just have two female friends too but i'm okay with it.

 

[Hellhound]

Those weren't your friends.

I personally get along better with guys, most of my friends are guys. I don't really mind.

 

[megalon]

I've never had anyone that really fit the definition of friend, but the people who were closest to being my friend were mostly females. My interests are quite manly but I don't subscribe to that macho one-upsmanship stuff. Everything's a competition with other guys. I'm still terrified to talk to women about anything of a romantic nature though.

 

[razzle dazzle rose]

I just have a hard time making friends period. I think women can make wonderful friends, after all I am a woman, so I won't go talking **** about my own kind

 

[ForeverTheWeirdKid]

Megalon basically said it for me.

 

[Foxface]

I find it better to get along with people my own gender. Guys are less judging and hating then girls are, at least to me they are.

I run into a few jerks, but it's better then running into a hot girl, who I really like, but she hates me, based on my looks and stuff. Aldo, men don't give me a heart attack.

 

[Bree1989]

I definitely have a hard time making friends with girls. For some reason they TERRIFY me. In fact, the few times I do hang out with someone, it's always a guy. I feel like guys are much more direct. If a man is talking to me, I know it's because he wants to talk to me. Whereas if a girl is talking to me, I can't be sure if she's actually judging everything I say, or if she hates my guts.

Also, I never know WHAT to say to a girl. I was in the staff room at work the other day and a group of girls started talking about clothing, and I felt deeply confused. It felt like they were speaking a foreign language. I couldn't care less about clothing or makeup or anything even remotely girly.

The only girls I feel comfortable around are my two sisters, and the friends I made when I was in elementary school.

 

[shakethelight]

Girls can be catty esp when they feel threatened. I would bet those girl were jealous and clearly they were not your friends. Ick, sorry that happened to you. There is some nice females out there-I promise! We don't all suck lol.

 

[Foxface]

I definitely have a hard time making friends with girls. For some reason they TERRIFY me. In fact, the few times I do hang out with someone, it's always a guy. I feel like guys are much more direct. If a man is talking to me, I know it's because he wants to talk to me. Whereas if a girl is talking to me, I can't be sure if she's actually judging everything I say, or if she hates my guts.

Also, I never know WHAT to say to a girl. I was in the staff room at work the other day and a group of girls started talking about clothing, and I felt deeply confused. It felt like they were speaking a foreign language. I couldn't care less about clothing or makeup or anything even remotely girly.

The only girls I feel comfortable around are my two sisters, and the friends I made when I was in elementary school.

Same here, about the part where I never know if girls are judging everything I say. I think they usually do. Most girls hate me dead on the spot most of the time. Judging me, on things I haven't even done.

They judge me as a rapist when I near them. They judge me as a mugler when in a park on on the street. Most people judge me as a burgler when I go into a store. I don't know this for a fact, I'm just guessing. A lot of time, a security gaurd keeps a close eye on me, in case I ever shop lift anything. I never shoplifted anything in my life.

I stole before, but never shoplifted.No doubt it's my looks, or they get bad vibes from me. I should start walking around with a sign, displaying my name nad stuff so people can look me up to see if I have a criminal record or something.

Tonight I went out with my Mom, didn't really have any problems. No girls gave me a heart attack. Nothing making me uncomfortable, besides me usualy anxiety. It's rare.