Do you take up opportunites to be around people

KiaKaha

KiaKaha

Banned
I was just out on my bike earlier today, and I came across an old workmate who was driving by while I was taking a break. He stopped and said hello and we had a brief catch up to what we were up to these days etc. Anyway, he said he was doing some canoeing with my old workmates just down by the beach and that I should come and say hello to everyone... I said I would...but I didnt.

Because I freaked out, I wanted too...but I got scared because of I hadnt seen them in such a long time. I was afraid to go....it would have been awkward...or at least I would have MADE it awkward. I could FEEL it.

Anyway, I do this all the time. I dont take chances, I dont expose myself in situations that make me feel uncomfortable. Instead I avoid. Staying trapped in this socially phobic world that I am in.

Do any of you guys take up opportunities to be around other people or do you just quit... like me..
 
antihistamine

antihistamine

Banned
Not really...unless they are very kind, sensitive, listeners I avoid them...much prefer my own company than trying to keep up with competitive repartee!
 
this_portrait

this_portrait

Well-known member
I try to, but it seems like there aren't many opportunities presented to me nowadays.

Almost a month ago, during Halloween weekend, I ran into one of my roommates from last year. She asked if I was going to any parties that night. I said I wasn't because I had a lot of work to do. She was like, "Oh, yeah, lots of people seems like a lot of people have lots of homework tonight," and then said she was planning on going to a party.

I didn't think of it when I was talking to her, but afterward I wish I would've said that I wouldn't have minded going to a party. Maybe she would've asked if I wanted to go to the one she was going to? I dunno. I know that a party would've been better for me that night, anyway, because I got super depressed later on and didn't do my homework.
 
Psychedelicious

Psychedelicious

1
Fishes

I would take them up if I ever got any. But I'm at the point where there isn't a single person to ask me to do anything, so if someone did ask me to do something I would go even though it would be terrifying.
 
razzle dazzle rose

razzle dazzle rose

Well-known member
I have to accept all invitations. It is like a rule I have now. The sucky thing is I don't get invited anywhere these days. But if I am invited I will go (if I have the means of course; I can't afford to do any fancy activities, or travel...so sadly I cannot take any of the invitations I have gotten from members here to go visit them ::(: Maybe one day!)

I am working towards creating opportunities. Like inviting myself to things. Like two weeks ago I invited myself to this party a friend of my sister's was having. I was like "oh, I have the perfect dress to wear to that" and just went along. Sometimes I act like I am not interested because I feel they don't want me there. But times have gotten dire and I need to do what I have to do to get out of this house. I am also planning this meetup with members here, so I am excited about that. And yes, Psychedelicious, you are coming too! ::p:

I'd suggest that everyone here accept most if not all invitations. The thing is that once you say no, those invitations will stop coming. So, if any do come along try your very best to go. It won't be comfortable at first, and we may even hate it, but we have to force ourselves to do these things.
 
1BlackSheep

1BlackSheep

Well-known member
I get invites from old co-workers to meet every now and then, but I pass up most of them because I'm to embarrassed for them to see how much weight I've gained (low thyroid plus being a junk-food-junkie isn't helping!). I did meet up with a couple of them in Oct and it was fun, but they're older and less judgmental so it was a bit easier. I need to just get past worrying about it and go out more!
 
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