Do you see yourself as being alone the rest of your life?

Do you see yourself as being alone the rest of your life?

  • Yes, it may never change because im used to it being that way.

    Votes: 43 62.3%
  • No, I'll just find anyone just so I am not lonely.

    Votes: 3 4.3%
  • No, I'll find someone I feel equally attracted to.

    Votes: 20 29.0%
  • I don't want anyone, I'm lost.

    Votes: 3 4.3%

  • Total voters
    69

RoomBound

Well-known member
It's very possible. I don't get many chances to meet people. My paper route is solitary, at church I'm a back pewer, and taking my Corvette to cruise-ins has resulted in just meeting a bunch of pot-bellied older men.

I'd need a woman who is either very extroverted (to offset me) or is okay with me being quiet and a homebody. And what are the odds of that?
 

Bo592

Well-known member
Love was not meant to be hunted when you stop beating yourself up and love who you are the chances of finding someone is greater . To love someone you have to know who you are with out a shadow of a dout these are where the questions of what kind of person you want are answered. I will not die alone even thought the world would say that I will . I will say" I will find somebody " for the sake of being hopeful and cheerful just like it take when you are on the dating scene being hopeful and cheerful.
 

Gaucho

Well-known member
i have to get children, otherwise my family surname will disappear, I'm the last of my family.
 
Ive totally changed my mind about this.

Yes I like my own company and its also true I find people exhausting
No I would never be in something for the sake of being in something

but I would like to meet somebody compatible with me and be with them
 

Section_31

Well-known member
im married now, so this doesnt really apply to me, but if i ever end up single ive decided i wont get married. I wont be opposed to a relationship, even long term, but i wouldnt marry again. too much drama in families.

When you marry someone you arent jut marrying them, your marrying their FAMILY. THAT sucks.
 

OceanMist

Well-known member
Getting in a relationship with a woman that I actually want to be with would require a lot of socializing attempts for me that I'm not sure I have the desire to go through with.

My life is easy right now. I'm not sure if I want to kill myself just to get a woman who will probably dump me cuz my shyness eventually anyway.

I'll go with maybe. It'd be nice to have a life partner that I loved, I would guess? I've never been in love so I don't know.
 

028ellie81

Active member
Just found out today that the guy I liked is dating someone else really upset at this as with S.A.D it is hard to get out and meet guys. I fear I will never settle today. Feeling a bit down about this and wish I could just have a lucky streak - just once
 
Because my social skills are lacking, it's hard for me to imagine finding someone I can have a relationship with. Sometimes I wonder if I deserve to be happy.
 

JackOfSpades

Well-known member
Sometimes I feel I wont, sometimes I feel I will. I could very easily see myself as never finding someone, especially if I'm unable to stay the course and see things through. But I can also see myself as finding someone and feeling validated enough by that to become a much better functioning and confident person. The problem is I never know what my state of mind will be a year from now, a week from now, or tomorrow. One horrible morning and I could quit my job, one major disappointment and I could decide not to try. That's partly why I avoid people in the real world-fear of my emotional fragility. That's the struggle that everything else falls in place after, is staying strong and hopeful enough to see it all through.
 
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vj288

not actually Fiona Apple
I used to only see myself realistically as being alone, and at times had come to terms with it, tried to enjoy or get used to spending time alone. Being with someone, anyone never really crossed my mind unless to satisfy some fantasy.

Now I couldn't imagine being alone the rest of my life if I wanted to. There are no "if I am alone" thoughts, being with someone is intertwined with how I see the rest of my life now.
 

jaim38

Well-known member
I am fine being single for the rest of my life. Currently, I don't have anybody that I truly like or feel genuine attraction for. If I am single later on, I will probably try to find a good friend to live with, or a good relative from my mom's side.

The only "relationships" that I've ever been in were all in my head, or were imaginary (not existing in real life). I have never physically dated anyone for real, but I used to have lots of daydreams of my past crushes and the imaginary relationships in my head can feel so real. Sometimes, I hear voices that aren't actually there, dreamt erotic dreams that don't actually exist in reality, and I feel like my daydreams have taken over me. But, now that I've gotten over those past crushes, I realize those daydreams are not real and I should wake myself back to reality.
 
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truffleshuffle

Well-known member
Well I didn;t always feel like I would be alone the rest of my life but I am getting to a point where I don;t think Its going to change and I have become kinda used to being alone sadly. Not that I want to be but I just don;t see it changing atleast not in the near future.
 

Fighter86

Well-known member
Hopefully not. But its hard to say, I might very well not find a suited partner to spend the rest of my life. Such is life, some live very well, some don't. Just fact of life.
 
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