Do you see yourself as being alone the rest of your life?
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misslilyc
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yes, and no.... can't really decide.. it's just hope I'll meet someone, but I'm not gonna waste my time with somebody who'd make me more miserable than I feel when I'm on my own. (As it was with my previous bfs)
just on the basis of my previous experiences I cant imagine myself entering and building up a new relationship right now. I need to focus on myself right now, work hard on my own personality, develop my interests, etc.
I'm rather a positive person, just over-sensitive in all possible respects. But I do hope I'll meet my better half one day.
honestly, I don't believe that anyone who looks for love and long for it will find it.
just on the basis of my previous experiences I cant imagine myself entering and building up a new relationship right now. I need to focus on myself right now, work hard on my own personality, develop my interests, etc.
I'm rather a positive person, just over-sensitive in all possible respects. But I do hope I'll meet my better half one day.
honestly, I don't believe that anyone who looks for love and long for it will find it.
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I've seen your photo and you are most certainly not ghastly.
MarionBerry
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Being alone for the rest of my life is one of my biggest fears and biggest motivators to get over my issues. I gotta get well enough to go on some dates. I will overcome this!
I believe I have a soul mate, who is the best person ever. I just wish I knew how to find her.
She is like a best friend but at the same time she is like a sister. We both carry on like bother and sister. We are close and can read each others thoughts. Know what each other would do, given almost any situation.
She is very beautiful. She is someone who really cares about me personally, she is my world, and I am her world. I care about her as much as she cares about me. She motivates me to do stuff. I'd do anything for her. She is not into partying or getting drunk. She can sometimes make me laugh, and is good at putting things together.
When I go somewhere, she usually goes with me, to get out and because she knows I don't like going places by myself. We are very close, so we don't like being apart for too long. We are always happy together, when we are apart, we both get depressed.
She likes to help others. She is really shy at getting to know people, but once she knows them and is comfortable with them, she is quite open, after she trusts them. Trust is one thing that does not come easy for her. It takes her awhile to trust anyone.
She probably prefers to be out doing something, than sitting around the house. She enjoys when we go out GeoCaching, or even just going on random drives.
When someone upsets me or her, the other half is automatically in a fight too. We stick up for each other, no matter what.
She is like a best friend but at the same time she is like a sister. We both carry on like bother and sister. We are close and can read each others thoughts. Know what each other would do, given almost any situation.
She is very beautiful. She is someone who really cares about me personally, she is my world, and I am her world. I care about her as much as she cares about me. She motivates me to do stuff. I'd do anything for her. She is not into partying or getting drunk. She can sometimes make me laugh, and is good at putting things together.
When I go somewhere, she usually goes with me, to get out and because she knows I don't like going places by myself. We are very close, so we don't like being apart for too long. We are always happy together, when we are apart, we both get depressed.
She likes to help others. She is really shy at getting to know people, but once she knows them and is comfortable with them, she is quite open, after she trusts them. Trust is one thing that does not come easy for her. It takes her awhile to trust anyone.
She probably prefers to be out doing something, than sitting around the house. She enjoys when we go out GeoCaching, or even just going on random drives.
When someone upsets me or her, the other half is automatically in a fight too. We stick up for each other, no matter what.
You're 18... 18! You're not 81 with a few days to live, you will overcome this and you will find the love of your life!
You're 18! 18! Not 81!!!
Chin up
Say that again?
I know. I agree, I don't think it is okay for someone to be abusive. You will find someone who is not that way.
Yes you will! You can fight through and pull up.
I agree with you. Ghastly you actually look attractive. To bad you don't feel that way.
Srry that you went thorough all of that. I think you have good goals for right now.
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: Why do you have to be alone forever? I'm so sorry you feel sad as of lately. You could always talk with me if needed.
misslilyc
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twiggle
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Being single for the rest of your life does not necessarily mean you're alone. There are different ways to live nowadays, it's not always about getting married and having kids. I know of several people in their 50's who have never been married but enjoy great social lives and are doting aunts/uncles/godparents to little ones. Perhaps it's not the same thing, but the options given are quite limiting and imply that if you don't get married, you'll be unhappy.
I hope to marry and have children one day yes, but I'm also not prepared to marry just anybody and live a fake future pretending to love somebody I don't just for the sake of not being alone. So I have a back-up plan. Marriage and Kids, or Travel and (later on) Adoption.
I hope to marry and have children one day yes, but I'm also not prepared to marry just anybody and live a fake future pretending to love somebody I don't just for the sake of not being alone. So I have a back-up plan. Marriage and Kids, or Travel and (later on) Adoption.
market.garden
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I'll more than likely remain as I am now.
1BlackSheep
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That's kind of my take on the situation. Never say never because you just never know! I've always been a "late bloomer" anyway.
"Yes, it may never change because im used to it being that way."
Yes, but I'm not used to it, I fecking hate it.
Yes, but I'm not used to it, I fecking hate it.
MikeyC
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Absolutely. There's many ways to stay social without the "norm" of having a partner and kids.
This just about sums me up, too.
In my head, I would love a partner, but in reality, it's just not really possible. I have too much anxiety and I love my alone-time.In terms of being alone "for the rest of my life," assuming we're talking about not being married, then I couldn't give an answer. Right now I have 0 interest in getting married, but I might decide to do that in 10 years time.
k8steroonis
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I highly doubt it's THAT bad. My mama always says that we're our worst critics so don't knock it until you try it. I've always been more attracted to guys for their personalities over looks any day. It's weird, as you get to know someone I feel like you stop seeing what they look like at first and they start to look all different when you know them and outer appearance has nothing to do with it. Maybe that's just me though I don't think it is. Girls place more importance on personality than men because men are more visually stimulated. Soooo, in short, there's hope
TailsAlone
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Yes. It bothers me, but not as much as the intense complications and exhaustion that would come with bringing someone else into my life. Even if I weren't like this, I don't want to get married or have children. No matter how many great relationships I might imagine for myself a real marriage would leave me feeling hopelessly trapped. My timid, relentlessly accommodating attitude is not going to inspire much confidence or respect in any girl (don't believe what they told you about 'new men' and sharing your feelings, it's all lies). And my kids? They would grow up with as many issues as me, or more. They'd be unable to connect with me because I'd constantly be withdrawing and pushing them away. No kid deserves that.