Do you replay conversations?
- Thread starter Sprunk
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exactly! i plan it out... but forget that it's a conversation and not just a monologue where i do all the steering in the conversation
Beatmetrics
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Yep...after and before...
v_coccotti
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I do the exact same thing.
anuskas
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I used to replay conversations in my head because I worried much about my work. I was a perfectionist and I was afraid not to have done the best I could. Even nowadays when there´s a problem at work and after talking to my boss I need to feel he trusts me to solve the issues. I replay conversations in order to understand if I was convincing or if I should have said something more.
Ransfordrowe
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Normal behavour
I think replaying conservations that you have had that have gone very well or very badly,is normal.I do that at times and it helps me to obsorb the useful things I learned during the talk.
I think replaying conservations that you have had that have gone very well or very badly,is normal.I do that at times and it helps me to obsorb the useful things I learned during the talk.
anxiety1408
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Yup, this sounds familiar lol 
Pacific_Loner
Pirate from the North Pole
I used to do that all the time too, and still do it a lot but I learned to stop the thinking process when it gets too obsessive and yes, it feels way better when you let go.
Thundercats
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I do this all the time.
Beyond Timid
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I do it as well. It's usually when I think I've hurt someone or when I've had a conversation with my crush. (The latter applies more to this situation.)
Hemosapien
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I think a lot of us do this!! Ive spent days and days going over what I said that could've been deemed offensive. Oh the insomnia Ive endured because of this.
anomicdeer
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That and images of previous things that have happened to me.
livingdgirl07
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Oh.My.God. I do this so much its ridiculous. I laugh reading what others have wrote because its like something I could have written myself! Plus when you're reading it from others it just sounds silly but its no joke.
To make matters worse if its an argument I'll go over what I should have said out loud and with fervor! One time a guy saw me doing it so I looked like I was talking to myself-which gave me something else to obsess over!:
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Omg...story of my life, especially in HS and recently in wrk...but hey lemme tell u from some experience(i cud be wrong in ur case but im tryin to help here) that dis is ur self conscious criticizing u on wat u said and how awkward/foolish it sounded etc.,..ur inner critique,...u shud tell dis critique to shut up..(i did this today at wrk, im quite the awkward quiet guy there, and it worked!) and then things shud go by more smoothly for ur convos/small talk..people hardly think on wat uve said wrong as they prolly also worried about themselves and other things too...oyaa and today the few things i did say at work i dont regret...they were subtle jokes ..my style and they went by great.. so yea i think its fine to do it once at home maybe but dnt do this right at that moment......my answer kinda drifted a bit..but i guess today wasnt awk for me at work and im tryin to pass on some knowledge to some other socially anxious peeps.
I do this sometimes, but my motive is to understand what happened in the interaction, not to judge myself for what I said.
Often I find that I stumble upon more correct interpretations which are obvious after I've thought about it. I'm not sure why I find it hard to understand at the time. I'm soon going to get my auditory processing tested. This is a test which determines how good you are at deciphering speech or the meaning of instructions etc. I suspect I have a problem with it.
Often I find that I stumble upon more correct interpretations which are obvious after I've thought about it. I'm not sure why I find it hard to understand at the time. I'm soon going to get my auditory processing tested. This is a test which determines how good you are at deciphering speech or the meaning of instructions etc. I suspect I have a problem with it.
Bittersweet
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On more than one occasion, I have given someone a genuine compliment, only to have them take it as either an insult or a sarcastic dig.
Do they have that low of an opinion of themselves that they can't believe a genuine compliment? Or do they just assume that everyone is going to be sarcastic and insulting?
I often ruminate about that. Still, I know what my intentions are. I can't help how they interpret it.
Do they have that low of an opinion of themselves that they can't believe a genuine compliment? Or do they just assume that everyone is going to be sarcastic and insulting?
I often ruminate about that. Still, I know what my intentions are. I can't help how they interpret it.