Do you live alone? Are you extremely paranoid?

Blue Teardrops

Blue Teardrops

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This thread is geared mainly toward women, but guys can answer too!! The reason is, it is really scary being female and living by yourself. I've just moved into a new apartment. School has started and everything seems back to normal except for one thing. I am now living alone. I've never lived by myself and the worst part about living here is that I'm the only one living in the whole building!! There are probably two other people who live here, but I rarely see them since either they are rarely here or because they are on opposite sides of the building. I'm afraid that if something happens, no one will hear, no one will know! It really scares me.

I am okay during the day time, although I'm still really paranoid. I feel like I can still function. But when the sun begins to set, I get really paranoid to where I can barely eat and I'm constantly jumping at every noise and looking out the window every five minutes. I can't even concentrate on my homework. I have two assignments due in the morning and I have barely cracked the surface.

My door is right on the street, but traffic is minimal. That also bothers me. I'd rather there be lots of people around. I don't like it here and I feel stuck. I can't wait until my lease ends because I'm moving out for sure. I'm counting down the months. It'd be nice if I had a boyfriend right now.

How do you women (and guys, if you want to answer) deal with living alone? Do you feel secure or paranoid like me? I probably sound like a chicken, but I am genuinely afraid. I need something to make me feel better :(
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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Pepper spray! Buy the good stuff for bear attacks! That would put down anybody in a hurry! Just aim for the face and shoot! A stun gun / taser would work too! You may never need it, but it's better to have it and not need it, than to need it and not have it! They give me peace of mind...
 
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AlleyCat

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I still live with my family, but I would be afraid of living alone too. It is something that I have thought about quite a lot. I will have to move out eventually, and if I don't have a boyfriend to move in with, it would be very hard for me to adjust to living all by myself. Are you allowed to have pets where you live? If I lived by myself, I would definitely have a dog. I would also be walking him around the neighborhood so people would know I had one. Perhaps get one of those "Beware of Dog" signs too to stick by my house, even if my dog would probably be more apt to lick someone to death than bite them. I would also keep a baseball bat or a small can of mace in a drawer or near my bed. Hopefully I would never need those, but it would help me to feel a bit safer if I was living on my own.
 
lurknomore

lurknomore

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I live alone- well, I have my kids half the week- and I would hate to be in a less populated area... I have plenty of neighbors (too many ::p:), so I'm not too worried about things happening. But I do like that I have a deadbolt on my door, and my cell phone is always within reach.

I'm thinking about getting a pet. I would love to have a dog, but I'm not allowed to have a pet over 35 pounds in my apartment, and I'm not a fan of small dogs, so I'll probably get a cat. It may not help me feel safer (which I'm not as worried about anyway), but it should help with the loneliness.
 
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see i reckon the way to overcome these fears of living alone is a couple of glasses of wine.
i live alone (its great)
no one tells me what to do!
remember though, only a couple (not the whole bottle) :)
 
JA2007

JA2007

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I lived with my boyfriend in the country. He would go out a lot to crowded bars so I would stay home at night. A few times he had to travel and I stayed home. At first it was seriously creepy. There was no light outdoors so I'd look out my windows and see blackness. I'd always imagine that someone would sneak up to my house and I'd never know.

I got over it though and now I'm totally fine with being alone. After two years of doing the alone thing, I realized no one was going to get me. I realized it was just my anxiety getting the best of me.
 
HidingOnThe4thFloor

HidingOnThe4thFloor

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Hey Teardrops, if you have a phone then you're never alone. Just call 911 when danger nears.

But I think what you're talking about is a little deeper than that. It sounds like being alone threatens you in and of itself. Can you elaborate?
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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HidingOnThe4thFloor said:
Just call 911 when danger nears
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What's better, a cop on the phone or a gun or mace in your hands? Haha! (I'm such a vigilante!)
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timidhorse

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This reminds me of when a random guy tried to hit on me last spring, the guy was creepy and said something that I was not comfortable with. I told an acquaintance and he said he knew him and that he does that with girls and I can just get pepper spray. :rolleyes:

I would be afraid to live alone, knowing that there are people who do harm. But I can be paranoid at times.
 
this_portrait

this_portrait

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I live with my parents when I'm not in school, and a roommate (most of the time) when I'm in school, so I don't really live by myself.

However, I do know what you mean when you say you are paranoid about living alone. My roommate from last year would go home nearly every weekend, leaving me in the dorm room all by myself. I would get so paranoid that I would sleep with the light on, even though I made sure the door was locked.
 
iamthenra

iamthenra

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diesel fuel and ammonium nitrate.... KABOOM! Intruder be gone! Peace comes with fire power! Nitro cellulose all around! Pepper spray, wall to wall AK-47's with 100 round drums... .50 cal BMG's, 20mm mini guns.... Now that's what I'm talking about! They would be picking up fragments, and the only discernible things left would have to be identified through DNA testing....
 
PhantomPod

PhantomPod

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I live with my family, but when ever everyone is out at night and I'm the only one home, I get pretty freaked out and paranoid. I close all of the blinds and everything and I get creeped out about noises outside.

I have thought that if I move out, I'm not sure if I would want to move into my own house just yet. But rather, I might prefer to live in a condo complex, where other people would be around and I would feel safer. But then, I want a big dog (a lab or golden retriever probably) and a house would give them room to run in the yard while a condo complex definitely doesn't allow dogs that big. Plus maybe in a house he could be my guard dog.
 
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