EscapeArtist
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I like what you said about not fighting it, it's true, because if we fight it with that kind of aggression we lose honoring the need behind the behaviour, and eventually rebel with the original need being even stronger.
I am TOTALLY addicted to the computer (and to music, on the computer) and it sounds like I do everything you do on here, including googling every thought that I get. I don't know if it's because I am looking to form an opinion, but rather I feel like if I google something and people relate by also talking about it on here, I have that support system feeling.
The other day I wondered how one of my friends could spend so much time with people, talking, mainly to my mother who I find to be rather stressful to talk to. Then I realized... Oh, that's right, they don't have a computer to run away to for the same social needs, so they can accept a lot more social contact and learn to live with the things that I've grown uncomfortable with. What else do they have to do? They are pretty much forced to be around people to feel like they're not alone, they are used to the things that my computer addiction has made me extra sensitive to..
I often wonder, if I were to have no electronics (including music), how much more time would I be spending with family, friends, and even strangers? Without the false sense of friendship that the computer, television, and music bring, I would feel so alone that I think I would opt for being around people more than not...! And after the initial pain that "excessive" real human contact would bring (feels like too much energy expenditure, all the insecurities that grow and grow, getting sick of people easily simply because you're not used to being around people much...) eventually there would reach a point where we feel more comfortable around people than away from people.... In the same way that we feel more comfortable with the computer, or music on, than in total silence. Human contact would become our comfort zone rather than the internet. If I could just break through that initial part..
I am TOTALLY addicted to the computer (and to music, on the computer) and it sounds like I do everything you do on here, including googling every thought that I get. I don't know if it's because I am looking to form an opinion, but rather I feel like if I google something and people relate by also talking about it on here, I have that support system feeling.
The other day I wondered how one of my friends could spend so much time with people, talking, mainly to my mother who I find to be rather stressful to talk to. Then I realized... Oh, that's right, they don't have a computer to run away to for the same social needs, so they can accept a lot more social contact and learn to live with the things that I've grown uncomfortable with. What else do they have to do? They are pretty much forced to be around people to feel like they're not alone, they are used to the things that my computer addiction has made me extra sensitive to..
I often wonder, if I were to have no electronics (including music), how much more time would I be spending with family, friends, and even strangers? Without the false sense of friendship that the computer, television, and music bring, I would feel so alone that I think I would opt for being around people more than not...! And after the initial pain that "excessive" real human contact would bring (feels like too much energy expenditure, all the insecurities that grow and grow, getting sick of people easily simply because you're not used to being around people much...) eventually there would reach a point where we feel more comfortable around people than away from people.... In the same way that we feel more comfortable with the computer, or music on, than in total silence. Human contact would become our comfort zone rather than the internet. If I could just break through that initial part..
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