Anubis
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(This more applies to the males of this forum because society views our gender as more "dominant").
Anyway, I was just wondering if any of you share similar feelings? It just seems that whenever I'm in a situation that involves potential dominance over me, I just freeze and start becoming belligerent (although typically in a passive way). It tends to happen more with individuals who are "socially" supposed to be less dominant than me, like children. That's why I dread dealing with kids, at least the rowdy ones.
Overall, it just makes me really defensive and unable to take jokes. For example, if someone jokingly calls me stupid (perhaps just to get me to open up), I can never seem to play with the charade and reciprocate with a joke. Instead I become somewhat serious because I view it as an attempt to dominate me. It especially frustrates me because it doesn't seem that anyone else has any problems going with these jokes, even jokes that seem to be disparaging (even though I know they don't really interpret them as "disparaging").
I don't know, it's hard to explain. I'm currently trying to make sense of it all.
Anyway, I was just wondering if any of you share similar feelings? It just seems that whenever I'm in a situation that involves potential dominance over me, I just freeze and start becoming belligerent (although typically in a passive way). It tends to happen more with individuals who are "socially" supposed to be less dominant than me, like children. That's why I dread dealing with kids, at least the rowdy ones.
Overall, it just makes me really defensive and unable to take jokes. For example, if someone jokingly calls me stupid (perhaps just to get me to open up), I can never seem to play with the charade and reciprocate with a joke. Instead I become somewhat serious because I view it as an attempt to dominate me. It especially frustrates me because it doesn't seem that anyone else has any problems going with these jokes, even jokes that seem to be disparaging (even though I know they don't really interpret them as "disparaging").
I don't know, it's hard to explain. I'm currently trying to make sense of it all.
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