Do you guys ever "hide"?

[Quiet Angel]

This sounds incredibly silly from me, but sometimes I avoid the seemingly "horrifying" social situations by simply hiding. I was wondering if you guys had any similar experiences or have an amusing story or two to share. Here's an example of mine:

1) I took a shower at my friends apartment. I got dressed. My hair was wet & a bit frizzy, and overheard a group of people *room-mates* outside of the bathroom. The fear was intense; I absolutely felt as though it was mandatory to always look my best around everyone, so I waited for about 15-20 minutes in that particular bathroom until everyone left. I hated the wait. *lol*

 

[CeeJay1981]

I would suggest questioning the CORE BELIEF you have about "I must always look my best" and decide whether or not believing it is serving you. How about replacing it with the belief "We are all allowed times when we are imperfect. This doesn't make me any less of a person"

You might like to look at other core beliefs you have that are not serving you.

Just a thought

 

[dottie]

yes! all the time. one time my mom's husband's daughter came over with her new husband and baby... (ok it's my stepsister but i hate using that term)... she is about the same age as me, married an engineer, doesn't have to work, stays home with baby because she can. anyway they showed up around noon and didn't leave until 4. i stayed hidden in my room the entire time until i was sure they were gone. i didn't even leave my room to go to the bathroom. why? i am the 29 year old, unemployed loser living at home. i just didn't want them to judge me. out of site out of mind.

i hide in many other ways. the appropriate term is "avoidant". if i am at the store i avoid aisles i need to go down until it looks empty enough. if i am at home and my mom's husband is here i stay in my room to avoid him. it's not that he is a bad guy or that i don't like him. i am irrationally afraid of confrontation (even when there is no sign of it). that plus i am so socially awkward that i'd rather people not watch me. i don't like to be looked at.

 

[PunkRotten]

Yeah I have done it. And I have been in similar situations as you.

 

[Noca]

I hide in stairwells.

 

[melsmood]

Yep I've hidden myself to avoid having to partake in social chit chat. I have a great office at the moment that lends itself well to hiding, it has a back door escape hatch!

 

[klytus]

Mh. Yes. I do. Though, not always in the literal sense. I hide by downgrading myself in many ways. For instance, by wearing wrinkled clothes - I mostly look as if I had slept in my clothes. And I really must force myself to self-improve, not because I have no interests - rather the opposite, I have very well-developed interests - but because I feel like I must look unimportant and inferior. There are some things I created in the past that others found impressively good, yet for me it was/is more of an insult than a compliment to hear such a comment. I would not seldom destroy certain good aspects about me by 'hiding' them in certain ways.

 

[workout]

Very common. I go for a long walk or ride through the city roads on my motorcycle when relatives visit. If someone drops by without prior intimation, I simply lock myself in my room and tell my parents that I'm sleeping.

 

[ajo86]

if I am in the house alone and someone knocks on the door I run upstairs and hide in the bedroom, I'm terrified incase somehow they manage to get into the house and see me hiding.

 

[Argamemnon]

yes! all the time. one time my mom's husband's daughter came over with her new husband and baby... (ok it's my stepsister but i hate using that term)... she is about the same age as me, married an engineer, doesn't have to work, stays home with baby because she can. anyway they showed up around noon and didn't leave until 4. i stayed hidden in my room the entire time until i was sure they were gone. i didn't even leave my room to go to the bathroom. why? i am the 29 year old, unemployed loser living at home. i just didn't want them to judge me. out of site out of mind.

i hide in many other ways. the appropriate term is "avoidant". if i am at the store i avoid aisles i need to go down until it looks empty enough. if i am at home and my mom's husband is here i stay in my room to avoid him. it's not that he is a bad guy or that i don't like him. i am irrationally afraid of confrontation (even when there is no sign of it). that plus i am so socially awkward that i'd rather people not watch me. i don't like to be looked at.

Wow, just wow. It baffles me that you have a boyfriend (if it's that bad). When we have visitors, which is not often, I sometimes say hello and stay ten minutes or so then go upstairs. But sometimes I feel that it's rude so I spend time with them, which of course is pure hell. Up until a few years ago, I was like you. I would just stay in my room and didn't even say hello! That's so unbelievably rude to be honest.

 

[Argamemnon]

In 2006 the crush of my life (a gorgeous divorced brunette) came over with her parents. I stayed in my room the whole evening. Thank God they didn't ask where I was. This is the only girl that has showed serious romantic interest in me, but I wasted the opportunity because of my extremely low self-esteem and debilitating social anxiety. The fact that I can't work is also a major source of embarrassment. If I ever meet someone, I will have to tell her that I will be the houseman and she the breadwinner, lol. No women, no love and no sex for me. Maybe in the next life..

 

[Jodie-Tyler]

Yes i hide.
When i go to school i dont talk to people, i stay in the corner and read or somerthing. i used to have so many friends, but now i only have a few, bcuz i dont go out with them at weekends no more, i stay at home in my room.
Yestaday my step brother(27) and his family came round, and i jst stayed in my room, yes some say its rude, but its not that big a-deal. what wud i even talk about if i were downstairs with them.
But after they left, my mum didnt have a go at me, but she wasnt calm either, she kept asking why didnt i say hello and be polite.
I feel like i embarass my parents. but they have no idea how hard it is to be around people.

 

[mrb]

i hide in my horse box

 

[Nicholas]

Same here... I "hide", that is, "I avoid showing up" sometimes, and that happens for a variety of different reasons. One is that I am afraid they'll ask questions, like "How is it going with college?", which would annoy me soooo much. I am a failure and I have problems, and that's why I don't want people to remind me about that. Other times I just say hi and then leave before I start to feel hot and start to sweat.

 

[misterF]

When I used to live at my parents, whenever they had guests over I would stay in my room for as long as possible until my parents would call me to go say hello.

 

[lyricalliaisons]

I hide whenever someone knocks at the door. I run upstairs & hide in my room, like someone above said they do. if family members come over, I hide in my room & pray (literally lol) that they don't knock on my door & try to get me to come out, which they've done in the past. I even hide from the phone. I keep the ringer off just so i don't have to hear it & talk to the person on the other side.

That's just the tip of the iceberg lol. i hide MUCH more than that, from everything lol. Though I was diagnosed with an avoidant personality, which I guess is part of the reason for that... I "avoid" things & people from hiding from them.

 

[anders055]

i have done that so many times...i wish someone would have helped me when i was a kid....i wouldn't have been such a screw up today..

 

[thor01]

When there are visitors I always hide, either hide in my room, or in the cellar where my drums and guitar are haha.

 

[Kinetik]

I do this quite a lot. Not hiding per se, but avoiding stepping out into anywhere busy if at all possible. Oftentimes I'll briefly listen for people before opening a door or breaking cover. I know that sounds retarded, like I'm on some army camouflage mission, but I simply hate having people's eyes on me or being accosted. Sometimes I think I'm turning into Michael Jackson.

Anyway, there's one particular incident I can recall during my time at university. I was in my dorm room once and I had to use the bathroom, but I couldn't step out into the hall to get there because I could hear two guys talking to each other just outside of it. I waited for what felt like ages but they wouldn't leave, so I ended up staying in my room and peeing in an empty soda bottle. Utterly stupid, haha.

 

[dottie]

Wow, just wow. It baffles me that you have a boyfriend (if it's that bad). When we have visitors, which is not often, I sometimes say hello and stay ten minutes or so then go upstairs. But sometimes I feel that it's rude so I spend time with them, which of course is pure hell. Up until a few years ago, I was like you. I would just stay in my room and didn't even say hello! That's so unbelievably rude to be honest.

do you call people who have trouble walking rude? i have trouble socializing. sorry i'm so rude!